Most adults have only 4-5 hours in a day to do everything they want to do

OP>>> wrote:

I just wanna say , the American lifestyle of ,work, work, work, is really detrimental for introverted people. I need time to recharge, I don't want other people in my face 24/7. If I had kids it would be miserable, or I would be too exhausted at the end of the day to touch my wife. Then we have only 2 days to recover, we need a better way.

this has nothing to do with being introverted, its called being lazy

Welcome to the real world!!

I can run 100 mile weeks if I want and have two young kids and a full time job. My blessing is a job that is flexible and mostly working from home and therefore no commute. I also have a great wife that appreciates my desire to run. Kids always in bed for 7pm and asleep by 7.30.

If you had more free time in college than you do while working, either your parents were paying for everything (no job) and/or your major was a joke (e.g commerce or general psych).

I'm working a double major in math and health sciences. I work 2 days a week and train 4-5 days a week. I have no parental support. And I'm trying to turn the health science major into a nursing major. I can't wait until I finally start my career. 4-5hrs per day would be amazing. I'm lucky if I have an 2hrs every other day to simply sit and catch my breath.

You're just lazy.

well i wouldnt complain my work day is 5:30am to 6:30pm and im in highschool. So i hate like 4 hrs of hw when i get back. so i get only 6 hrs of sleep. Be grateful.

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Speaking of smokers, I have nothing against them, but had a coworker that I got into running that was an ex smoker. We worked in a facility taking care of disabled adults and had access to an indoor basketball court and a working precor treadmill just down the hallway. Each time his coworker in the psych department went out on her cigarette break, he would hop on the treadmill and run a "clothed mile" as we called it. Just a quick mile in the clothes he was wearing that day, just enough to break a sweat on the brow. He got in 8 miles one day, all split up a mile at a time as our coworker took her smoke breaks.

You didn't work in college?

What a charmed life you've led.

Welcome to reality! HAHAHAHA.

8 hours of work?! Shoo. Now the boss wants you in the office for more like 9 since they "give you" an hour lunch break, where you are still working. Plus a hellish commute. Being an adult sucks. But jobs pay the bills, not running. If running paid the bills, you'd be "working" about 15 hours a week, not 45.

Don't forget about relationships and the amount of time and money it demands to spend. Recently I had to buy some present for my wife (I took a relatively cheap travel bag for baby stroller from here https://thechangingtables.com/baby-stroller-travel-bag/). So I've lost my time arguing with wife, then searching for a present, buying it. But it becomes a problem when you start thinking - worth it or not.

I also strongly agree with this post.

If you had the privilege to go to college, you should either be able to get a job that you largely enjoy (in which case you won't feel like you are wasting your life being there) or a job that makes you a lot of money (if you choose this, making money probably makes you happy).

Commuting is, in my opinion, the biggest lifestyle downgrade from college. When you live with a spouse or a significant other and your jobs are not close to each other (like it is in my case and the case of almost every other couple I know), you have to commute. But, if possible, biking to work or taking public transit will probably keep you from being too miserable.

Also, there is so much technology that can make your life easy (grocery delivery apps, for example) that you can free up a lot of time that way. The trick is to not sink too much time into the technology that is really good at keeping your attention (Instagram, Angry Birds, etc). OP, you might try writing a list of your goals each week/month/year and that way you will be more likely to make time for those pursuits.

Meals and cooking can really take a lot of time out of your day. I cook only three times a week. My husband and I work till 6. I work two minutes away from home so that’s helps. He works 45 minutes away but chooses mass transit so he can relax and not fight traffic.

Back to meal prep. I have Sunday’s off so I cook a big meal that will be able to eat on Monday and I freeze enough for another meal. So I just cooked essentially 3 dinners on Sunday. Spaghetti or chili works well here. Tuesday is usually a store bought ready to eat chicken. I only eat organic no hormones chickens that my local grocery store supplies. We will eat that with a big salad. And have leftovers for Chicken sandwich s and enchiladas. Boom three meals in one. Wednesday I have off so again I will make another three meals. Maybe a ham freeze the bone to make split pea soup another day. There trick is to always have a freezer full of fast homemade dinners.

I also find 4 or 5 hours a day enough down time. I like to be productive. 4 hour is enough time for an hour run, tech time, chores ect. Oh on chores I do one a day so I don’t have any to do on my days off. Sunday besides my cook prep I do nothing besides my long run. If your smart you will learn to manage your life so you can have down time. For 3 years I worked 2 jobs. My regular job of 40-50 hours plus taught three classes on my off days and some personal training on the side. Still had time to run and workout.

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Is this how people generally live? Filling every moment of the day with something to do? I've always enjoyed just having a shitload of down time. And yes I worked in college, and majored in biochemistry. I maintained a 3.7 while skipping class most of the time to run, but I can't really skip work and still do well.

I guess its just something I have to get use to. For the single people here, when do you fit in dating? But I still think that introverts suffer when they are constantly doing stuff. My mind needs time to just wander sometimes, and places like YT, Reddit, and LR.C are addictive. How are some of you here so much? That Jamin guy is always here, is he unemployed?

The costs of spending so much time commuting far outweigh any cost savings of living so far from work. You need to move closer.

Ehhh that's not necessarily true. I'm not a city person but I work at a tech company in a city. I live an hour outside of it (with rush hour traffic) and much prefer the small(ish), rural town that I live in. I grew up in a small town so I feel much more at home and relaxed in that environment.

Rent is much cheaper where I live, so the added savings from living further away is another plus side. I don't enjoy going out to bars or anything and have numerous friends in the town I do live in, so that's not an issue. When there isn't rush hour traffic it only takes 40 minutes to get to the city, which I'm used to since I've always lived in rural areas. Living closer to family is great. Lastly, much easier accessibility to the mountains (I live in CO). So it definitely isn't for everyone, I can admit that much, but I much prefer 2 hours of active and entertained commuting each work day to living in the city.

The ultimate is to find a workplace with showers (or a gym next door), and live 4-5 miles away. Your runs to work and back will be as quick as the commute,

Yeah, kids are the worst. People always in denial about how great they are......"oh, but wait until you get older...who's going to take care of you?".....Please....