I argue with him as much as necessary to make him know I'm boss. And when he shows signs of forgetting this fact, I bicker a little more.
I argue with him as much as necessary to make him know I'm boss. And when he shows signs of forgetting this fact, I bicker a little more.
It's certainly your right to talk yourself into believing the crap you're preaching, but my guess is that your are trying to make yourself feel better because you're in a less-than-perfect relationship. I'm not bending. If you're in a relationship that has "rough edges," "challenges" or any other sort of conflict, then you are - quite simply - in the wrong relationship.
I believe you are also operating under the ridiculous notion that we're supposed to be tied to one person for life. That is just stupid. People change, and there is nothing wrong with letting someone go when you are no longer compatible with that person. I would rather go through life enjoying a series of good, short-term relationships than to be stuck in misery for a lifetime because I'm adhering to an outdated societal concept that we have to work through struggles with a mate.
Bottom line, I have to work through problems and make uncomfortable compromises every day of my life when dealing with co-workers and the general population. There is no reason why I need to endure that nonsense in my personal relationships too.
"People change, and there is nothing wrong with letting someone go when you are no longer compatible with that person. I would rather go through life enjoying a series of good, short-term relationships than to be stuck in misery for a lifetime because I'm adhering to an outdated societal concept that we have to work through struggles with a mate."
Please be fair and transparent upfront by telling that to any new woman you want to date and see how fast she runs. You are exactly what is wrong with the dating world. A quitter and a coward. Only promiscuous women are ok with short-term relationships.
Not A_Grown_Up wrote:
"People change, and there is nothing wrong with letting someone go when you are no longer compatible with that person. I would rather go through life enjoying a series of good, short-term relationships than to be stuck in misery for a lifetime because I'm adhering to an outdated societal concept that we have to work through struggles with a mate."
Please be fair and transparent upfront by telling that to any new woman you want to date and see how fast she runs. You are exactly what is wrong with the dating world. A quitter and a coward. Only promiscuous women are ok with short-term relationships.
First of all, I am neither a quitter nor a coward. The fact that I choose when I deem it worthy or not to immerse myself into miserable situations does not merit either description. I have no problem being up front about my relationship goals. Sometimes it results in two dates, sometimes in two months, occasionally two years. Why would I not be honest from the start? Those types of games are for those of you who seek drama and pain in your relationships.
Arguing is normal and if done in an occasional and respectful way, it can be a healthy part of a relationship. The real death knell to any relationship is when you don't even bother to argue about things that upset you. Arguing per se is not an omen.
But that's what quitters do, they deem something not worthy of their time and they quit. Marathons can be grueling, but you can stick through it until the end, or perhaps quit maybe halfway to 3/4 of the way through, or maybe even earlier. You're definitely not a winner.
Usually daily over stupid stuff. But it’s like we are at the point where it’s agree to disagree and just stfu. If my partner starts the arguments or nagging I just ignore at this point. Like yea yea bye... onto my life
Lenny Z --- You have it right. My sister has been married for 40+ years. They might argue and it might even get loud for a few seconds. But it's over quick. I am getting better with traffic///lol
It's possible to find almost anything on the internet about anything. Note that you did have to use the word
"astonishment," in your quote. That would indicate that it was not normal. Today it's normal for girlfriends and
boyfriends to have sex before marriage. We do not even bat an eye. Obviously you disagree with me. Most
people do. That does not mean it's the right thing or even common sense!!! By the way if Fred A Stair was alive
today he would indeed "A Stare."
asdgasdfasdfdsf wrote:
Fred A Stair wrote:[/
I must ask, did you both have premarital sex? Do you think that had anything to do with your eventual breakup?
Why do you feel as you do? (Since divorce and breakups are far more common today than they were in the ~ say 1920s ~
it seems to me this is a valid argument against this act.)
Are you asking me or the op or both? I wasn’t married, and we broke up because of other issues. If we had been married we might have stayed together but been unhappy.
Obviously most people who meet in their teens, 20s, or 30s do not have much life experience.
They do not have experience in relationships. Another thing that happens is we do not have time to
sit back and say, "what have I been doing wrong in my relationships?"
Most of us (both men and women) are incredibly dumb when they are young. This is for everything.
That is why I am a proponent of getting to know the person outside of sex before getting serious.
Few do that today. You had to do it in yesteryears because it was not acceptable to do otherwise.
Obviously there are other factors such as having Feminism as we have today.
There is something about the Bible that can make a difference in relationships. It is meant to be a
guidebook for our lives. How many of us use it?