Be single in your late 20s ==> Gradually get edged out of social circles

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I haven’t met a single man or woman who say that having a child was the “worst mistake of their lives”. Having children and raising them is a wonderful human experience, I reckon every sane and stable person should do this at some point in their lives. It’s amazing to see so much of yourself in your children, and even more amazing to know you could shape them and their future.

The older you are when you start a family, the harder it is to keep up with the young ones, physically. Best to start looking for that special person soon or you’ll miss that boat... like all the sad and single 40+ people who have never been married and never had kids..

When you reach a semi-pro or pro level of running you won't have time for them. I'm only training about 70miles a week and it's hard to keep up with friends. If you wanne do it right you have to have balance in life and a good sleep/eat/training system.

I'm 29 and i've realised that if my friends can't accept that running is everything to me than they are not real friends. In the end you only have 1 or 2 friends and hopefully supportive parrents. Just stick to your personal goal and try to be happy with your success!

Banana Bread wrote:

jamin wrote:

The majority of my college buddies are married without kids or are in a relationship. That means they hang out with each other as couples and I only get invited once in a while to be wheel 2N+1 (out of pity, I suspect). Anyone else know that feel?

Don't worry Jamin. Your wheels are better then theres. I bet there wheels would fall off if they tried running like you. Then you would be the only wheel

‘Then theres’?

You are literally the biggest cretin on these boards

Kiyosaki wrote:

Dude, who cares? Trust me on this, your friends who are getting married and settling down in their 20s are going to be uninteresting, suburban white folk very soon. They will stagnate and before long will dress, look, and act like their fathers, losing touch with pop culture, technology, etc. Their conversations will center around their jobs, Netflix, and whatever material possession they are saving up to buy.

Don't be one of them. It takes some work, but I recommend being like Kentucky or Duke basketball ... when your teammates leave, reload with younger, better ones. It will keep YOU younger too.

Spotted: The creepy old dude at the party.

There are bigger things to worry about than criticizing someone’s grammar or spelling.. it’s such an.. elementary-school-b*tchy-teacher thing to do.

Seriously. You get his point, move on and respond to it, or not. There are bigger things to do in life than to respond to people’s grammar and spelling mistakes. *facepalm*

I admit that this strategy is not for everyone; some people like to get into a routine. I also admit that this strategy has a shelf life as nobody wants to be the creepy old guy at the party.

A few points of clarification: I am not advocating not getting married. I am married. My wife is just a handful of years younger than me. That also keeps me young. But overall, the "so what" of my philosophy is that one should not stagnate. I think it is much easier to avoid stagnating when you surround yourself with active, interesting, curious people. Those people tend to be younger, although exceptions exist. he detriment of stagnation is losing touch. You don't want to be the old dude at the office who is still printing his emails. Technology is moving fast. Your friends who move to the burbs in their 20s and settle down are much more likely to be that guy than you are if you follow my approach.

jamin wrote:The majority of my college buddies are married without kids or are in a relationship. That means they hang out with each other as couples and I only get invited once in a while to be wheel 2N+1 (out of pity, I suspect). Anyone else know that feel?

I think they're turned-off by your Make America Great Again hat. Lose it. You live in Seattle, and wearing a hat like that makes you look like an idiot.

Ok agreed. As I approach the extreme upper limit of middle age, I wonder why pretty much everyone else my age thinks music peaked when they were 18. And golf, and Tom Clancy novels, and so on. But I dont delude myself that I'm still young and hip.

The Jamin seems overly concerned with acceptance and social value. Who cares. Just establish a few good friendships and have fun with them. Also become comfortable with doing stuff alone. Nobody thinks about or judges you as much as you think they do. That's your ego speaking.

Jamin, you're a fairly serious runner and a programmer (I believe), and the fact is both are rather solo types of pursuits. Sure, you work in a team, but I guarantee if you actually love it, you love getting lost in the code and creating something, making the computer do what you need it to do.

The difference between you and I is that I don't really care about social circles. March to the beat of your own drummer, understand who you are, make yourself happy. You will meet someone when you least expect it if you are truly happy and know yourself. It comes out as an inner calm and confidence.