Pedro Pan wrote:
By the time you reach 40 you should have a somewhat stable life. Coaches who are single, never married, over 40 something must have something wrong with them right? Personality problems, unable to grow up, drinking/drug addiction? Since they coach they must be trying to hang on to their youth.
Not including divorced although that may indicate other issues.
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Depends. If they're a high school coach and not married, maybe that's a little off. I wouldn't be so quick to judge somebody for not living up to the lifestyle you expect for them. A lot of Collegiate coaches are spending their lives between 25-40 years old moving up the coaching ranks. It's not uncommon to see a coach who is single in the profession. Imagine trying to date long term, but also moving across the country every 4 or 5 years. It takes a while in our profession to find a stable "home" to invest long term.
I've personally worked on staffs where everybody is single, and other staffs where everybody is married but me. I'm not 40, by the way, I'm right around 30 years old. I have a drink about once a month, don't do drugs, date, and have a very healthy lifestyle. I'm not aware of any mental issues I might have, but I guess you're the psychiatrist here.
Believe it or not, some people don't prefer to have kids like you'd expect them to. Kids can be a pain in the ass, and while I don't have any at this point I haven't ruled it out. I just have my priorities because I love my job and it is my priority.