Dutch x10 wrote:
Gentlemen, never, Never, NEVER pay for another date again. No dinner plans, ever.
Coffee, tea, Starbucks, arrive 30mins early and get and pay for your drink, let her get her own.
Why? You can't imagine this, but women, many women, love that they can get guys to pay for their latte, their meal, their movies. One woman I'd been talking with for two weeks, spontaneously confessed that the story she told me about a guy trying to rape her, was a lie, that she had been using men to pay for her movies and meals, because she was divorced and broke.
Not so unussual? She was a Doctor. She flooded out this whole story, then confessed she shouldn't be leading men on and letting them pay for her, it was dangerous. Then -- and this was freaky, she said "now that I've blurted that out and you know my dishonest, I'll have to hang up and block you now. And she did.
But not before I knew her full name and had her Linked in page.
That's just the worst example. Any woman that expects you to pay on a first meeting date - is not a mature or kind candidate. If a woman gets stinky because you don't offer to pay...well fate is saving you some time there.
I tell women now, that due to too many bad experiences, I only go "dutch" now.
As bad as you all hear that men are "dogs and pigs and only want one thing," there are just as many selfish, childhish, wounded, sick women out there.
Every classed modern woman I've gone out with has alway proactively insisted on paying her share. That called class and maturity. Most say they won't have sex before date 3-6, I tell them I don't pay for dates until after we are intimate. Lose a few, but I figure just the immature and unhealthy ones! I also have it my dating profiles I don't date women with herpes and am std free. That pisses some women off, lol. I can tell, because it's the ones who cancel the day before...they've reread my profile further down and caught that detail.
Had a great date tonight. 3 more lined up. All classy. One canceled for tomorrow in a pissy way. Figured she's herpetic. Not my fault. One even wrote me a nasty gram after reading my profile and said she should have to explain to an "adult man" that a partner could monitor their body and manage to not transmit herpes to someone. Which, totally isn't true, and that myth can be dispelled with 3 minutes of reading on the web. And young gents, a condom will not protect you from herpes or genital warts.
The best advice I can give you boys, is slow things down. When you go slowing, the cream rises, the high quality, together one's stick around. The needy and the speedy are dangerous (so many times I ask them if they are herpes free...and the answer is "no." They were never going to tell the next dude they slept with they had herpes. Humans can be so dishonest.
I only sleep with women I've dated for at least a month, and who has "fresh tests," I always keep my latest (tested after each new partner / relationship end) tests in my carrier bag.
Go slow, be smart, have fun, wait for high quality people.
Good luck out there!