hi! thanks for the advice to the helpful people . I have a group run with her tonight so that'll be fun ://
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Questionfortoday: thanks thats good advice, lol no there is nothing weird about her and coach dont worry, basically shes more of a goody two shoes to him while i sometimes alter workouts (with his permission but it bothers him a little i think) plus shes just more of a chatty person in general so she knows coach better.
Kvothe: I reread my post and it is honestly not exaggerated, although my phrasing was probably bad in that i only know of one person she told i was "sabotaging" her, although it might have been more, i just phrased it wrong because more people found out but idk if it was from her or gossip, sorry my mistake in phrasing but i'm trying to be honest
RunnerMom1981: this reminded me a lot of what i assume my mom would say. thats really good advice and ill try to keep it in mind
- for everyone saying focus on my own training thats what ill try to do, i am confident in what im doing right now and that its what will benefit me the most, but as im sure you no xc training can be scary because you get a little slower or whatever
Pond scum: ok ill be carful dude, i read an article on gaslighting just now and i really dont think shes that calculating but you never no i guess. thanks
DistanceRunner68: thanks this is really good advice, im definitely not going to confront her about this as there is no way that would go down well. Yes people are aware of her attitude on the team lol
C'mon now: yes there are two sides to every story but i really am telling the truth (at least from what i think is a reasonably fair perspective??), yes there have been runs where i have half stepped her or ran with other people or sassed her about how we should slow down, these aren't my finest moments or things that im proud of and i can honestly say that anytime i was sassy to her i would apologize and when i run with others she makes is such a big deal that i would have to make a big thing of how sorry i was. luckily sense this xc preseason started we have drifted apart so she didnt get mad(or at least she didnt make it apparent to me that she was mad) when i ran with other people hallelujah!!
as for lying about workouts thats not what i said, this probably wasnt my best decision but what i meant was that if she would ask me what my paces were on the cool down or the next day i would say i didn't remember, but i will be honest that i would occasionally add an extra 400 or hill rep or something without telling anyone- oops but it wasn't like i was tricking her or something ugh
Flagpole: ok i will try to just not let her get under my skin, i guess your right and sorry this is dramatic of me but i love running and of course i want it to be a good happy experience ya know. thanks for the advice.
That’s rough: thanks this is also really good advice, i agree talking to her about this wouldnt go down well, i hope that continue to distance myself from her it will be easier to focus on my training and racing because i wont always have her issues and drama swirling around in my head
by and bye: ok this sounds like good advice and similar to what ive tried to do but its sometimes hard because after like 40 minutes of running we just end up chatting and i feel so mean if she like telling me how hard everything is for her and i just act like i dont care, hopefully she wont think im being mean and she just wont start talking as much if i dont entertain the conversation from the beginning, i just dont want her to be like "why arent you talking why are you mad"
Coach Creeper & shaddaaapp: well this is probably unnecessary for me to include why not; i am prettier than her lol
Banana Bread: thanks, that is nice of you to say and reassuring . i dont really know where tulsa is though so sorry! haha
Machate99: thanks for the advice!
northeast runner: ok that sounds like a good idea and then i will know if i was changing to do what she wants so i can be accountable
Shoebacca: sounds good thank you, luckily she is going to a camp next week then the week after that im going on vacation so i wont be running with her much for a little bit.
Speed is key!: ummm ive given a lot of details yikes shes gonna find this but i guess no one is still reading this anyways- 1600 sub 5:15, 5k sub 19 (ik im not that good whateverrrrr)
Runs like 29's at a crappy college: lol if i did that i can see getting myself kicked off the team!
this was so long im ready for the "jeez runnergirl250 you have no life" posts but i dont want to ignore people who took time out of their day to help me and its summer so i have some fee time, sorry if i didnt reply to you but thanks again for the advice, i will reread it or maybe update this tread if i have any issues with her haha