thanks for your help! wrote:
Kudos, OP, for being caring and sensitive enough to realize that women aren't smart enough to make their own decisions about what to wear. I applaud that you've recognized that the way to dismantle the patriarchy is to make better decisions for women than they could possibly make for themselves.
Here's the disconnect on this issue. You can dismantle the patriarchy all you want, but you won't overcome certain characteristics of human nature that are products of evolutionary biology. Does my wife think putting on lipstick and heels to head to the office is any way sexual? Not in the least. It's literally the furthest thing from her mind as she's just trying to get out of the house with the kids in the morning. That doesn't change the fact those two things are still signaling to other males. Should she have to do that to appear professional? I would say no, that's part of the patriarchy I've fine with dismantling. Having women appear more sexualized for the delight of men is wrong. But what you're advocating goes to far. That women can have unlimited freedom to appear as sexual as they want and have no responsibility to comprehend how they'll be received by men. Do bun huggers go too far? I'd say no, but if you're not willing to understand the signal they send you're being purposefully obtuse.