NYTimes: "women delay having kids until it's too late"

What was a funny movie 12 years ago is becoming a reality:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-N9nVLXMhPc

Getting Old wrote:

overtherainbow wrote:

They want, heck demand, a male that is of equal status and earning as themselves much unlike the male counterpart. This presents a bit of an issue.

Really? I don't buy it. I've played both the breadwinner and homemaker roles in my marriage at various times as my wife and I rotated between schooling and the workforce, and navigated career changes. What I earned (or she earned) never had any effect on our relationship as long as both of us were contributing.

This might be your experience, but I've never met or heard of a woman that gave their husband the option to not work.

idiocracy wrote:

What was a funny movie 12 years ago is becoming a reality:

But I'd take President Dwayne Elizondo Mountain Dew Herbert Camacho any day of the week.

EarthGuardian wrote:

I see that as a good thing. People really shouldn't be having kids, anyway. They're bad for the environment.

All them illegals flooding the country and procreating like bunny rabbits and the ghetto queens seeking more benefits will make up the difference.

There is no dearth of children in this country, so I think not.

People should delay having children until they are 100% confident they are ready.

TAA wrote:

Getting Old wrote:

Really? I don't buy it. I've played both the breadwinner and homemaker roles in my marriage at various times as my wife and I rotated between schooling and the workforce, and navigated career changes. What I earned (or she earned) never had any effect on our relationship as long as both of us were contributing.

This might be your experience, but I've never met or heard of a woman that gave their husband the option to not work.

That might be your experience. But for years my own wife has been lobbying for me to stay home with the kids while she is the primary breadwinner. I know of several other couples who have gone this route or at least have the wife actively promoting it.

For the record, both my wife and I have good careers and neither one of us has any plans to end them to stay at home.

master piece wrote:

There is no dearth of children in this country, so I think not.

People should delay having children until they are 100% confident they are ready.

Only a fool would ever be 100% confident that they are ready.

Pretty confident? Yes

Healthy and solid relationship? Yes

Good financial situation? Yes

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But 100%? Never

Can you blame them? Who the fack wants kids at 25?

Smart phones and social media. If you look at the way people use their spare time, they tend to go for the phone. You have guys who are constantly scrolling through their phones, looking at women who seem more appealing and women who are doing the same thing with guys. It’s easy to grab your phone and lose several hours of the day by distracting yourself, which hinders life progress. Whether it’s FB, instagram, or Snapchat, people tend to waste a lot of their time seeking validation rather than being satisfied with what they have. We’re screwed.

Don't have kids! Let's all go extinct :)

CapnPerv wrote:

All them illegals flooding the country and procreating like bunny rabbits and the ghetto queens seeking more benefits will make up the difference.

Someone said--i think it might have been Jesus, "From each according to ability, to each according to need."

Maybe the government should consider taking babies away from people who have more than their fair share and giving them to people who can't have children. People wouldn't like it at first, but they'd get used to the idea. Everyone would benefit, especially the kids. Seems like a workable solution.

My kids were born when I was 32 & 36. I wish I started earlier.

Ok chief, good luck going on a first date at the age of 28, making 50K, and telling the lady you strive to be a stay at home dad.

There is no romantic love. Everything is about money and resources and very single statistic shows women only marry across or up.

STSBO wrote:

TAA wrote:

This might be your experience, but I've never met or heard of a woman that gave their husband the option to not work.

That might be your experience. But for years my own wife has been lobbying for me to stay home with the kids while she is the primary breadwinner. I know of several other couples who have gone this route or at least have the wife actively promoting it.

For the record, both my wife and I have good careers and neither one of us has any plans to end them to stay at home.

Neither of you are of lower economic status (i.e. earning potential) than your wives though

You can always freeze your eggs in your thirties and easily get pregnant when in your early 40's. So there is really no rush and it makes sense to focus on your career first as a woman.

You’re right wrote:

My kids were born when I was 32 & 36. I wish I started earlier.

Same here, I wish I had kids when I was in my 20s.

Both me and my wife have rather demanding careers and delayed having kids until in our mid 30s. I have been both the breadwinner and a stay home dad. Staying home with the kids does not suck, I actually enjoy it quite a bit, for sure more than my wife does.

As other have mentioned, the rate of infertility (and genetic defects) skyrockets with age for men too.

More power to them! The world is already overcrowded with assholes, no need to dump more in this reeking swamp of garbage, lol! Most people shouldn't have children, and those who want them, should have to get a license, for christ's sake!

Breadwinner and Breadmaker wrote:

As other have mentioned, the rate of infertility (and genetic defects) skyrockets with age for men too.

Not true.

Yes the rate goes up as men get older but it's a gradual increase, almost linear. For women, it's pretty linear until 32 or so then skyrockets until 42 when nearly every woman is infertile.

overtherainbow wrote:

These women you reference are rare at best if not unicorns. High earning women professionals do not want a guy that will stay home and play daddy daycare. They want, heck demand, a male that is of equal status and earning as themselves much unlike the male counterpart. This presents a bit of an issue.

I agree. My wife is a physician. I have a bachelor's degree in computer science and make a decent living working for a highly respected company. When she told her best friend from medical school that she was engaged, her response was to inquire if I was "at least" going to get a masters degree, the implication being that I wasn't good enough. My wife's friend is married to another physician of course.

High achieving women who expect to marry men who are equal or higher achieving narrow their prospects to a very small pool.