RIP: Former William & Mary star / 27:59 man Jonathan Grey has lost his battle with depression at age 29

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5 years ago 02/11/2018 7:49pm EST

Depression is the worst!! It doesn't matter how strong you might be or how tough you are, depression can touch anyone.

I urge those who feel as if they are alone in this struggle to remember that they are not. Seeking help can feel impossible sometimes but it isn't! There are people out there who care and want to help and listen.

I hope anyone who feels self-harming thoughts or urges will please please call the National Suicide Prevention Hotline at 1-800-273-8255 ! Or reach out... Reach out to your friends, neighbors, coworkers,family (it doesn't matter!) Pride is nothing compared to the cost of a human life. If you need help please please tell people.

I hope all of us can help do our part to help end the stigma and seeming silence surrounding mental illness in our society today!

PS - Matt, you and your family are in my hearts right now. I hope if you read this you know how many of us looked up to and admired Jon. He was one of the most passionate, dedicated, inspiring, quirky people that I have ever had the privilege of knowing.

5 years ago 02/11/2018 10:46pm EST

re: depression sucks!

Depression does not discriminate. It does not care who you are, what you do or you you have around you. It's a disease. Unfortunately depression was one of the things I had in common with Jon. I appreciated his openness about his struggles because it made me feel less alone. Having been there, I know that depression is terminal if left untreated. Although there are high and low periods throughout your life, it lingers and alters your filter of the world. A traumatic life-altering event can be the difference between life and death. My hope is that this tragedy leads to better attention and education about mental health, especially in the running community.

Jon was funny, genuine, honest, helpful, determined, ambitious, yet humble...just to name a few traits. He did not die in vain. His life touched many people and the memories will live on forever.

Right now my thoughts are with his family, especially his twin brother Matt. I can't fathom what they are going through.

5 years ago 02/11/2018 10:57pm EST

re: txRUNNERgirl

RIP... But what happened to David Torrence?

5 years ago 02/11/2018 11:02pm EST

re: LetsRun.com

Oh how incredibly sad... Love and prayer for his family

5 years ago 02/12/2018 8:12am EST

I agree 100%. I have lived through a family member taking this same route. I feel great sympathy for those that were close to him. I do not feel sorry for him.

5 years ago 02/12/2018 8:36am EST

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Same page different book wrote:
I agree 100%. I have lived through a family member taking this same route. I feel great sympathy for those that were close to him. I do not feel sorry for him.

I hate this perspective. People saying how selfish suicide is because THEY end up getting upset about it. That is a far more selfish position. Everyone loses family members at some point in their life, and it is awful. But imagine living with the feeling of wanting to die. Wishing a person would go through that just so you won't be sad about their death is the definition of selfishness.

5 years ago 02/12/2018 9:25am EST

Buckstop bill wrote:
Noooooo wrote:
I hate this perspective. People saying how selfish suicide is because THEY end up getting upset about it. That is a far more selfish position. Everyone loses family members at some point in their life, and it is awful. But imagine living with the feeling of wanting to die. Wishing a person would go through that just so you won't be sad about their death is the definition of selfishness.
You have that very twisted and backwards. You are clearly young and have never lost someone that way, I can tell you are one of those "depressed types" get over yourself and get help, or ruin the lives of the people around you. You don't know what you are talking about right now. Get over your feeling of "wanting to die" change your life. Get off the internet and avoid echo chambers like this were everyone talks about how chronically depressed they are..... do something about it.
Twice I was going to comment on this thread yesterday but decided not to. I too disagree with the headline " lost his battle" thats a lovely sugar coat. It's a choice plain and simple, and it's one that can destroy many lives. People with terminal cancer do NOT have a choice.
I too have lost an immediate family member to suicide, it is unlike any other form of loss. Yes people die, but this one stings the most, leaves the most questions, spreads the most guilt, and some people can never get over it.
I have witnessed first hand what this can do to other people. Death is a part of life, people are generally good at moving forward regardless of how tragic, however suicide is different. Some people cannot move past that, living with the thought of talking to someone 30 minutes before their demise? Not having a clue? I not only lost one family member I lost two. The aftermath changed everything and that person was never the same again, their relationship with me and other people was never the same.

I am not depressed and have no thoughts about killing myself. Unlike yours, my post wasn't about "me, me, me."

5 years ago 02/12/2018 3:37pm EST

re: Noooooo

Does anyone think starting a GoFund Me to help the family take care of the funeral expenses and anything else would be a good idea? The running community should come together and try and lift Jon's family the same way that he helped lift so many others in the community up over the years.

5 years ago 02/12/2018 3:42pm EST

re: Same page different book

Same page different book wrote:
I agree 100%. I have lived through a family member taking this same route. I feel great sympathy for those that were close to him. I do not feel sorry for him.

I have news for you: He wouldn't want you to feel sorry for him. You truly don't have the mindset of a depressed and/or suicidal person. I'm truly glad for you and hope that never changes.

Someone who is thinking about taking their own life DOES take into consideration others feelings......until they get so low that they do not. Then the plan goes forward.

Not trying to put you down.....I'm just glad you do not understand fully.

5 years ago 02/12/2018 5:31pm EST

re: want to help

If anyone in the Portland area would like to offer some support to Jon's twin brother, Matt, tomorrow morning there will be a run from the Leif Erickson trailhead at 8:00 AM.

https://www.facebook.com/photo.php?fbid=10211243779078610&set=a.1857434723940.90036.1483020053&type=3

5 years ago 02/13/2018 1:02pm EST

re: depression sucks!

5 years ago 02/13/2018 3:27pm EST

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5 years ago 02/13/2018 3:53pm EST

re: LetsRun.com

I feel like US society is pretty bad for people with depression. My happiest times have been when I've traveled. I've made so many friends when abroad, even if they're not deep friendships. I also go out with many more women. Not everybody has the money or time to do that though. If you're feeling bad, you could try it. It doesn't really solve problems when you're back though.

5 years ago 02/26/2018 10:38am EST

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