Question is in the subject line, do people who stay married actually love each other the entire time? Or after the first few years, is it more like an exercise in tolerance and sacrifice?
I struggle with this questions everyday, in deciding how to live my life. I am single father of two beautiful girls and have never been happier. I was with their mother 10 years before, 5 of them we were married, before separating. Separating/change was hard, but not anywhere as close to as hard as I was told it would be. Also, separating was a lot easier than living with someone I did not love or really even like anymore. I am a far better father single, I have my girls 50% of the times, the time with the three of us is amazing. We play violin, read, only watch a very small amount of tv, we sew, do household projects like build out doors chairs, we do physical activities, bake, cook, and that is just a fraction of it.
Additionally, I have had the same experience in all my relationships outside my family, after sometime I fall out of love. After 1, 2, 3 years, the love fades. I start to think about all the opportunities and sacrifices made my a married person.
So back to my questions, are there people who actually stay in love for years on end? or are these people just practicing a life of tolerance and sacrifice?
If all people are practicing tolerance, why do they do it? Is it economical/financial? Are they scared to be alone? Is it because society and/or religion have taught us to believe this is the right thing to do?
Any other insights welcome. FYI this definitely isn't an attach on marriage either. Maybe the answer is that I am the odd one out or I have never found the right person.