Who else is reviewing every interaction they ever had with a member of the fairer sex?

The other day I was training a new girl and she just put on a ton of perfume. It smelled very nice but I didn't even comment on it because of recent events. Same girl got a haircut. Again, I said nothing. I don't want to have to explain to HR

Beverage Joe wrote:

Seriously, I’m going back over everything I did either at work or after work or just casually in bars somewhere. I think I had my hand on someone’s right arm one time.

I’m a girl. #MeToo.

But seriously, don’t worry about it. The media is more tuned-in than ever to how often these “assaults” are embellished.

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Beverage Joe wrote:

Seriously, I’m going back over everything I did either at work or after work or just casually in bars somewhere.

Good? Are you looking to be congratulated or something?

adfasgasdf wrote:

Good? Are you looking to be congratulated or something?

Why do you think that is good, and why do you think the poster is looking to be congratulated?

Don’t worry dude! -A Girl wrote:

Beverage Joe wrote:

Seriously, I’m going back over everything I did either at work or after work or just casually in bars somewhere. I think I had my hand on someone’s right arm one time.

I’m a girl. #MeToo.

But seriously, don’t worry about it. The media is more tuned-in than ever to how often these “assaults” are embellished.

I don’t think this matters when you’re being escorted out the door.

In middle school I was banging my teacher.

#MeToo

Thank God I was in my 20s in the 80s!

You don’t need to review stuff when you don’t do anything wrong.

Beverage Joe wrote:

Seriously, I’m going back over everything I did either at work or after work or just casually in bars somewhere. I think I had my hand on someone’s right arm one time.

You do know that everyone on LRC has never had a chance to even come close to anyone else?

It is times like this when I step back and watch the ugly side of America unfold.

As an ugly male, I have not had any contact with anyone close enough to be considered sexual anything

In addition, I have not kissed anyone and I have never shared a bed with anyone.

Therefore, I realize that finally being ugly has its blessing.

I owe no child support

I owe no alimony

When it comes to 100% of pregnancies in the world... Mike, you are NOT the father

So, it is the dark side of refreshing to see all of the "Casanovas" getting what they deserve

No has always meant no

Sad what has happened to the women but now they are collectively speaking.

And I never worry. It's nice.

Not needed wrote:

You don’t need to review stuff when you don’t do anything wrong.

The problem is you may not have done anything wrong for a woman to accuse you.

I actually got accused once- it was odd, she accused me but didn't want to pursue it.

When the other workers found out they came to my defense (including women).

It turns out she was flirting with me (I knew this) her husband didn't like it so he made her do it.

She ended leaving on her own in disgrace.

fddfafdsasd wrote:

The other day I was training a new girl and she just put on a ton of perfume. It smelled very nice but I didn't even comment on it because of recent events. Same girl got a haircut. Again, I said nothing. I don't want to have to explain to HR

Good.

Would you have commented on a male coworkers cologne or haircut? If not, then you should extend your female co-workers the same courtesy. We're there to work and earn a living just like you, not to be hit on.

White male tears wrote:

fddfafdsasd wrote:

The other day I was training a new girl and she just put on a ton of perfume. It smelled very nice but I didn't even comment on it because of recent events. Same girl got a haircut. Again, I said nothing. I don't want to have to explain to HR

Good.

Would you have commented on a male coworkers cologne or haircut? If not, then you should extend your female co-workers the same courtesy. We're there to work and earn a living just like you, not to be hit on.

yes I have commented on male co-workers appearance and a number of women commented when I grew a beard. get over yourself. No one is hitting on your ugly face.

White male tears wrote:

fddfafdsasd wrote:

The other day I was training a new girl and she just put on a ton of perfume. It smelled very nice but I didn't even comment on it because of recent events. Same girl got a haircut. Again, I said nothing. I don't want to have to explain to HR

Good.

Would you have commented on a male coworkers cologne or haircut? If not, then you should extend your female co-workers the same courtesy. We're there to work and earn a living just like you, not to be hit on.

Lol this has gotta be troll. That's not hitting on someone it's speaking your mind about something they are openly displaying to you. There's a difference between "that smells nice" and "that smells hot". And yeah, I hate the smell of cologne so I would tell them that. I'd also say they're looking sharp if it were a nice haircut or that they look like a goof if it weren't. Guys probably speak more vulgar to other guys than they do to girls if anything. They just aren't as dramatic so it doesn't become a huge issue.

A female co-worker who I work with regularly came in last week with a totally new hair style, new makeup, etc. Although it was impossible not to notice, nobody said anything... out of fear. It was totally awkward because the normal thing would have been to say, " Hey, your new haircut looks good." Not in 2017, never... I would have expected comments if I wore a new suit or new shoes, grew a beard or got a new haircut, so it's not like there's an intent to harass.

mushroom cut wrote:

There's a difference between "that smells nice" and "that smells hot".

And there's also a difference between "that smells nice" coming from who you'd like it to come from and "that smells nice" coming from some ugly, sweat ridden, still living with mom loser.

I look forward to the day when men should be forced to consider the potential emotional distress they can cause by attempting social interaction with someone they're clearly well beneath. Hopefully the law will also catch up with this type of abuse soon.

Not needed wrote:

You don’t need to review stuff when you don’t do anything wrong.

You see the thing is, we don't get to decide what is wrong these days. Anything can be assault if you spin it enough and hold it under the right light.

On a serious note, everybody please take note of the fact that almost all of the current allegations and incidents occur in situations where there was a clear imbalance of power. Touching someone's arm (or more) in a bar is a totally different situation, since by virtue of being in that setting parties are at risk (it's an implied risk of being in that environment. Don't say that's called blaming the victim) You may have a person try to accuse you of assault and battery etc for simply touching them, just like some of the women will accuse (perhaps correctly) Weinstein of rape, and perhaps Lauer, too. Different matter

As far as being accused where nothing happened, perhaps yes, but in almost all these incidents there are/were multiple accusers whose stories all corroborated. If someone in your workplace accuses you out of the blue, and someone else did too, you may be in a jam. If you have coworkers who will stand up for you and say you are not physical with co workers, not flirtatious, etc you have a good chance of it going away.

example from the local angle

http://www.wbtv.com/story/36963282/facing-sexual-harassment-claims-a-prominent-charlotte-eye-doctor-surrenders-license

Live your life. Don't say anything to a female co worker you wouldn't say to a male co worker.