TennesseeMatt wrote:
The answer was posted on the first page:
"Have a grown-up conversation. It'll probably be a relief to him too.
"I'm happy to talk and don't want any awkwardness but I'm not interested in that way."
Or alternatively let it fester for years and never actually deal with it."
Be polite and this likely won't be awkward for very long.
Matt
This is the correct answer. If you want to nip this issue in the bud before it blossoms into a full blown flower capable of spreading further seeds of awkwardness. Here, let me give a handy guide:
1. Contact ex-boyfriend, say that you saw him in X location, and were surprised to see him at the university. Ask him what he is up to these days and what his 5k PR is now.
2. If you so feel inclined, suggest meeting for lunch or something, but be clear that you have no interest of getting back together, just want to catch up on the past few years and what's going on now. You don't want to give him the wrong idea and give him false hope.
3. At some point in this ordeal, make it clear that you have no interest in dating again, but just wanted to say hi and catch up rather than have some awkward encounter at the drinking fountain or whatever.
4. Send me a gift certificate for my favorite ethnic restaurant in my local area, as a token of thanks for helping you out.
What's amazing to me is how many young people don't know how to work through potentially awkward or difficult conversations and just avoid the situation, hoping it goes away or resolves itself or whatever. Do the right thing.
Now if he is at the same university because he has been stalking you for years and intentionally created this "random" situation, then that's a whole other problem and maybe it's a good idea to look at restraining orders. If so, please keep up updated for our entertainment.