Looking for serious advice here. I've been in a relationship for 7 years. Some very big ups and downs. There was cheating during some heavy fighting 4 years back. Also, some rough spots where her actions were really hard to deal with (temper, anger, etc).
It's at that point where I feel so pressured to get engaged, it either has to happen or we have to separate. To be honest, I feel bad too...it's not fair to her that we have been together for 7 years and still not engaged. Even with the cheating, it's not fair. I know this.
Here is the thing...the past 2 years have been pretty good. I have to say that she has changed a bit. Her temper is much better...most likely because she doesn't drink that much any longer. We have had a fairly good 2 years being together. However, no matter what anyone says, you can't get over cheating...and that's one of the big issues for me. Also, I'm dumb to the fact that I probably don't know everything from our past. All of these concerns float around in my head.
I have had moments where I told myself to just do it...literally to the point where I'm looking at rings and telling myself it'll take the stress away so just finish it. However, I have this pit in my stomach that says don't do it. It makes me a bit sick. I am also not excited about the idea at all. It doesn't get me excited thinking about getting marriage. I just can't keep living like this where I'm in a relationship with someone I love, but still not married.
Any thoughts? Anyone else ever been in this situation?