Why do guys seem to find it surprising that many women are attracted to people who are passionate about something and have drive?
Why do guys seem to find it surprising that many women are attracted to people who are passionate about something and have drive?
I have never once experienced the situation you describe
Have you been reading this forum?
Oh, and by the way, men are attracted to women who don't use the word "passionate".
You're welcome.
tunnel vision
hysteria
paranoia
try to take one away from her passion
... or move to another part of the country ...
It never fails to amuse me at how many obtuse guys there are here.
?seriously? wrote:
It never fails to amuse me at how many obtuse guys there are here.
It never fails to amuse me at how seriously some folks take other folks' posts (particularly folks named, '?seriously?'.
Here is a better question: Why do women, having found a guy attractive due to his being passionate about something AND having worked their way into becoming a significant part of said guy's life immediately set out to destroy said passion by insisting that the guy focus most of his time and energy on the woman rather than on his passion?
A woman here. I would love to date a guy who is passionate about something and is also okay with me doing the things I am passionate about (it is possible we may overlap). I've run into this problem in the opposite, where guys I've dated have needled me about some of the things I'm passionate about, like running, and have tried to get me to run less.
ny runner chick wrote:
A woman here. I would love to date a guy who is passionate about something and is also okay with me doing the things I am passionate about (it is possible we may overlap). I've run into this problem in the opposite, where guys I've dated have needled me about some of the things I'm passionate about, like running, and have tried to get me to run less.
Yes, I can see how that would be a problem - indeed the same problem.
Let go of your lovers' strangleholds, people!
Mooiiiisssttt wrote:
Can we assume that you are referencing passion for anal and gaping? Because if so, there is plenty of passion for that out there.
I doubt your mere assertion, feces d*ck.
Better Question wrote: Here is a better question: Why do women, having found a guy attractive due to his being passionate about something AND having worked their way into becoming a significant part of said guy's life immediately set out to destroy said passion by insisting that the guy focus most of his time and energy on the woman rather than on his passion?
Because you doofus, they want to TEST you! This is their "game"... here's how it works... they are attracted first to passionate action dude, but then, their reptilian brains begin to work. Sadly, women are just as controlled by their reptilian brains as men, however, they are less honest about this. Anyway, this is where her ego makes it into a contest and she will find ways, all kinds of ways to make it hobbies/passions vs. her. Emotional blackmail and manipulation will follow, constantly setting up loyalty tests...running vs. "her"/"our time"/ etc. In spite of the fact, she has her own timesinks and will never accept your effort to make similar tradeoffs... girls night out vs. cuddle time on the football viewing couch, for example...
The irony as you point to is that, if a woman succeeds in this asinine endeavor, she will LOSE RESPECT for you. This characteristic is self-defeating and infernal. It does contradict the general principle that women are smarter than men, yes, but that principle doesn't hold in all cases.
It takes a strong woman not to yield to this instinct, someone who has her own passions and interests and doesn't want them squashed by a dude in her life.
ny runner chick wrote: A woman here. I would love to date a guy who is passionate about something and is also okay with me doing the things I am passionate about (it is possible we may overlap). I've run into this problem in the opposite, where guys I've dated have needled me about some of the things I'm passionate about, like running, and have tried to get me to run less.
Insecure and underconfident males will of course do this same thing. They tend to be less emotionally manipulative and subtle than the mass of females doing the same exact thing, see previous, and this can relatively easily be headed off - by you - at the beginning of the relationship with a clear setting of boundaries. One of the few things that men are better at is the ability to let people be, they have less impulse to attempt to "change" their partner than women do,
?seriously? wrote:
Why do guys seem to find it surprising that many women are attracted to people who are passionate about something and have drive?
This goes both ways. I prefer dating someone who has their own interests and hobbies and even better, when they love their job.
donobon wrote:
?seriously? wrote:Why do guys seem to find it surprising that many women are attracted to people who are passionate about something and have drive?
This goes both ways. I prefer dating someone who has their own interests and hobbies and even better, when they love their job.
Completely agree! I have met few men AND women who are like this.
Three letters for you 998yfijk: ATM to take care of that. Enjoy.
998yfijk wrote:
Mooiiiisssttt wrote:Can we assume that you are referencing passion for anal and gaping? Because if so, there is plenty of passion for that out there.
I doubt your mere assertion, feces d*ck.
I find it sexy when a man loves animals. Screw diamonds, give me a man who loves his dog or kitty.
Winner winner Chicken Dinner
Better Question wrote:
Here is a better question: Why do women, having found a guy attractive due to his being passionate about something AND having worked their way into becoming a significant part of said guy's life immediately set out to destroy said passion by insisting that the guy focus most of his time and energy on the woman rather than on his passion?
redux wrote:
Winner winner Chicken Dinner
Uh you act like men don't do the exact same thing to us.
How about the multiple women I know who talked a good game and then married Sugar Daddy, who is 15-25 years older than they are, obviously for the money and security. Slimy, unctuous.
Or the women who endlessly chase the bad boy who makes them hot, but is a complete jerk off. But hey, the bad boy has passion, right?
Or the women, like the OP, who over-intellectualize everything and are paralyzed by their endless second-guessing of everything and everyone.
Women are ultimately enigmatic and undependable far too often.