NYClife wrote:
crazy2run wrote:I'm 23, single, male. I can completely relate to this.
You're 23... you would be a fool to not be single.
Also, +1000 re: NYC girls. I've gone on hundreds of dates and they all do the same thing; put on this facade of being cool/fun/relatable, then you really get to know them and they let their guard down and turn into legitimately crazy people. Are these NYC women or just women in general? Is that what being in a "relationship" is? If so, yes, OP, I definitely feel the same way. PASS.
I don't have experience with NYC women, but this is more or less how it's been with almost every woman I've gotten to know well. I've come to appreciate that a small but significant percentage of women (maybe 10%) are basically on the verge of a breakdown all day every day and it is a major challenge for them just to make it through the work day without having an episode of some kind. Even very well liked women in my life have turned out to be what I would consider literally insane when I got to know them deeply. I've also had multiple women attempt to ruin my entire life just because I didn't want to date them. Here I was, living my life and minding my own business, some woman decided she and I should be together, I wasn't interested, and then she starts spreading horrible rumors about me to everyone who will listen, sabotages my work and relationships, etc etc etc. After this happened twice, I started being much more defensive and have documented a lot of things. I've had to threaten legal action against multiple women and got two women fired because they were harassing me and trying to get me fired out of anger that I didn't want to date them.
Besides being vindictive, they're just insane. Women I've dated have gotten very angry with me because they imagined scenarios that hadn't even happened and were angry about how the imagined me acting in that scenario. Who the hell needs that kind of nonsensical garbage in their life? I would rather be alone than deal with any of that.
FWIW, many middle-aged guys I've talked to have said they really like kids but don't really care about being married, and some openly admit they hate their wife but are in too deep now to get out (losing their house, splitting their life savings, etc). Makes it hard to get excited about the idea of marriage.