What's up with people in their 40s with no kids ?

This whole troll thread is really dumb. THIS is how you waste your time? Engaging in a thread, knowing he's trolling?

Oh crap... I'm even worse cuz I responded to it...

What??? wrote:

Just because you can't keep a marriage together doesn't make him a bad Dad.That's crazy!!!

Despite the 0/10 troll post, I do want to comment on this. I think quite frequently people who can't keep a marriage together are bad parents. Very few marriages end because the couple just decided they aren't a good fit. Typically there is some kind of infidelity or wrongdoing on the part of one that serves as a nail in the coffin for the marriage. These are adults who made bad decisions as a spouse and will probably make bad decisions as a parent. So when a guy cheats on his wife 3 times, one of which is an affair while she's pregnant with his child, yeah, I do think he's a bad dad. Clearly he wasn't putting his family or kid first at several points along the way of being a bad spouse.

You're right that being a bad spouse doesn't guarantee being a bad dad, but I did want to point out that often it does mean the same thing.

John utah wrote:

financer wrote:

The number one cause of a declining crime rate in the early 90s?

Legalized abortion in the 70s.

Hard to argue that correlation. No doubt.

Freakenomics and all that.

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Some people don't want to be Real Men.

So you think the world needs to have a mini-you? Maybe you should get over yourself. You sound bitter.

Sad people wrote:

Kids are a gift.What's up with people that say no kids for me.12 of Americans get divorced I understand if you aren't married BUT NOT I DON'T WANT KIDS. I have my son 5050 custody shared arrangement.He is with me almost every other day. When I die it's like a part of me lives on.I know my 6 year old is a hell of a lot of work and money but I can't understand someone saying I don't want to mess with that and just have fun.Married people that do that make me sick.You have to leave something for this world.I am not mad FYI at people that can't have kids.

The world doesn't need more people and "leaving a part of you to live on after you die" is completely meaningless. I don't want kids personally but I know that it's often an accident anyways and if it happened I could be ok with it.

ck3237 wrote:

What about people 40 and not married?

Even smarter.

This world is way too populated and I'm glad people have figured that out and have stopped having kids as often.

Also there are people here where I live having kids while on food stamps, welfare to make more money because they don't want to work.

Then they complain about having all these kids.

You are going to be a great dad.

hahahaha. you have such narrow-minded views on life.

Person A – Upper middle class. Bachelor’s degree. Good job. Married. 2-3 kids. Works 45 hours a week, goes to kids games/school activities, grills burgers on the weekend, cuts grass, week vacation to Florida every spring, watches tv after dinner every night, SUV retires at 62 yrs old. Good person. Average high school track/XC pbs

Person B – Upper Middle class. Bachelor’s/mstr’s degree. Works for reputable non-profit in third world countries, helping thousands of people (including kids!) get fresh water, electricity, food, medical supplies. Married, owns small house/apartment. No kids. Travels the world and mentors kids in city where he/she lives once a week. Good person. Ran track in college, above average high school track/XC pbs. Will donate money to community when dies

Person C – Lower middle class, works two jobs, happily married, has several children with learning disabilities, active in local community church/PTA/neighborhood groups, college track star. Good person

Person D – Married. Adopted two kids. Ivy League. Wealthy and will pass on multi-million dollar company to children when dead. Racist, sexist, spoiled. 16:15 5k high school cross country.

Who’s better?!

I can answer this:

They don't have kids. That's it.

I became a dad late myself. I took the time to establish myself as an artist. Didn't need any kids around to mess that up.

So now my kids are big. They really mess up my artist life, ha ha!

Me, I would have been unhappy to NOT be a dad. I love it.

But, I can EASILY understand NOT being a parent.

A >>>>>>>>>>>> D > C > B

That's the problem right there: Some people feel like they should leave their mark in the form of kids just to feel less sh**ty about their own insignificance.

More often than not the same kind of people that should have just got an automatic vasectomy after their birth.

They have kids, can't raise them properly and then the rest of society has to deal with their s**t.

And no I don't want to see a picture of your kids neither, nobody cares.

I considered having kids once or twice but really adoption would be a better approach.

I am single, no duhgree, make just above the poverty line and coach high school runners. Tell me why I should have kids, please.

thejeff wrote:

You didn't make any vows at your wedding? Was this strictly at a courthouse or something? Genuinely curious. .

No wedding, no vows. Signed a piece of paper in about 30 seconds and we were married.

It was awesome. And so cheap ($15 bucks or so).

My marriage rocks because my wife is just like me. And I'm absolutely awesome.

not a collector wrote:

What's so good about being married to the same woman all your life?

Most great modern men get a new and younger wife when the time is ripe.

I find polygamous cultures quite interesting.

Except the mormons. I have nothing positive to say about them at all, except that on a personal level the dozen or so I know seem really, really nice.

But that religion creeps me the hell out.

hey there wrote:

The world doesn't need more people and "leaving a part of you to live on after you die" is completely meaningless. I don't want kids personally but I know that it's often an accident anyways and if it happened I could be ok with it.

We need more stable, functional people to have kids simply to try to make up ground on the hordes of clearly dysfunctional people having 5-8 kids.

Third grade literacy in my state is at like 38%, meaning only 38% of all third graders are reading on a third grade level. That gap grows bigger every year after third grade and rarely is their significant closure of that gap.

There's a tale/urban legend in my district (that way very well be true, but I don't know) that prisons are/were built and the need of such projected based on third grade reading levels because it's such a strong indicator of future educational success and conversely, high school drop outs and increased risk of crime.

And it seems like all of these kids have lots of brothers and sisters...

Person A,C, and D sound boring as hell. And Person D sounds bad, also. Don't know what track/xc pbs have to do with anything, though, nor money.

I like person B. You don't have to have your own kids to make a difference in kids' lives.

Rockstar Games wrote:

I considered having kids once or twice but really adoption would be a better approach.

So you're willing to raise the children of people who can't raise their children properly even though you resent those people?

financer wrote:

I like person B. You don't have to have your own kids to make a difference in kids' lives.

What's to like about person B? Some college liberal who never grew up nor cared for their own people, but wants to save the world? Delusional.