Hooper wrote:
Got my kids back today…the other guy has called in the medical board and my wife is begging me to stay with her…not…its all a dream.[/b{
Really?.....😥
Hooper wrote:
Got my kids back today…the other guy has called in the medical board and my wife is begging me to stay with her…not…its all a dream.[/b{
Really?.....😥
This is total BS /// wrote:
Hooper wrote:They tried to pull away and I put my hand on the handlebars or whatever you call them and either his foot or the kickstand hit me and knocked me to the ground. I should have left it there but … I tried to run after them but my elbow was bleeding so I got in my car and just drove around a bit. I saw her car and decided they would have to come back, so I went into the ER and they cleaned and wrapped my elbow - its broken.
Next day I got served with a restraining order notice to move out for 7 days no contact with her or anyone till the hearing and a criminal misdemeanor assault charge for "tampering with vehicle".
You're not the OP, and that's a terribly bogus story. They knocked you down by driving recklessly, broke your elbow, and you're the one who got a restraining order. You need to stand up for yourself and fight this, if true, which I doubt. If true, expose her and turn her in for dating a patient. Don't go through the hospital because they'll try to cover it up.
This is not the OP because the writing and sentence structure is totally different than the first post.
jecht wrote:
So even Hooper1 was a troll, but his writing style was solid. It was almost believable, like the 300k New Jersey "poor rich" people.
Ready to boost the score to 9/10 for how long it has gone on.
STILL NO PICS or PRs!
This is a running site.
This is the part that I found most unsettling. Huge violation of medical ethics. She could lose her license if this continued and crossed further boundaries. I don't give my personal phone number to any patients and I don't add them to social media, even patients I know from the running community who end up being my patients.
I don't want his pickle
Just want to ride on his motorsickle
And I don't want a trickle
'Cause I'd rather ride on his motorsickle…
The late great Jimmy Soul had you covered
Jimmy Soul wrote:
The late great Jimmy Soul had you covered
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=Y1ZJiBHh-Yw
" a pretty woman makes her husband look small
And very often causes his downfall.
As soon as he marries her
Then she starts to do
The things that will break his heart."
**!_ wrote:
Doesn't sound good man. Even if she hasn't officially cheated on you, she clearly values this guys friendship more than your feelings. Try talking to the guy man to man? Any decent guy would understand your position and back off. If he doesn't then its pretty obvious something is going on
I would consider approaching this guy as well. But something should be considered. You did delete this dude from your wifes FB account and he got readded. This should tell you the guy doesn't respect you, or your wife has less respect for you. If you love your wife fight for whats yours, I'd consider approaching him in a civil way not with boxing gloves and talk to him so he knows who you are and what he's doing. If he respects you he'll back off, if he doesn't back off you can bet you ass he's looking for more then just a friends with your wife. Is this dude married? Does his wife know he's talking to yours? I can completely feel for you, it's a helpless feeling. Good luck to you. Like another poster said, being around other divorced people can escalate and poison rationale thinking.
Ten second tom wrote:
**!_ wrote:Doesn't sound good man. Even if she hasn't officially cheated on you, she clearly values this guys friendship more than your feelings. Try talking to the guy man to man? Any decent guy would understand your position and back off. If he doesn't then its pretty obvious something is going on
I would consider approaching this guy as well. But something should be considered. You did delete this dude from your wifes FB account and he got readded. This should tell you the guy doesn't respect you, or your wife has less respect for you. If you love your wife fight for whats yours, I'd consider approaching him in a civil way not with boxing gloves and talk to him so he knows who you are and what he's doing. If he respects you he'll back off, if he doesn't back off you can bet you ass he's looking for more then just a friends with your wife. Is this dude married? Does his wife know he's talking to yours? I can completely feel for you, it's a helpless feeling. Good luck to you. Like another poster said, being around other divorced people can escalate and poison rationale thinking.
1. I agree a meeting would be useful but I would change the focus slightly. Your perception of "Michael" comes largely from reading his texts and unleashing your imagination. Don't make it a mano a mano testosterone fest. Have your WIFE invite him to dinner (or whatever). Invite his significant other (and their kids if they exist) also. If they don't and he is spending this much time on your wife, that suggests something. Not that a man in "committed relationship" with a family wouldn't not be thinking about "trading up," but a single adult paints a slightly different picture than a married one.
Proposing this social event also enables you to call your wife's bluff. If he is as "fun" and "easy to talk to" as she claims, he should be "fun" and "easy to talk to" for you as well. If there is hesitation or waffling then you have gleaned some more data. Why (you ask your wife) would it be a bad idea or awkward? Why would Michael be uncomfortable? You can make the date/location flexible to accommodate his (and family's) schedule, food allergies etc.
If the proposal is rejected then we all are a little more informed. And if the dinner (or barbecue/pizza/afternoon at the lake) goes off without a hitch you have made a new friend and you owe your wife an apology, big time.
2. About the texting phenomena, analyze the data here. In general, how frequently does your wife text? Some people seem riveted to their phone. They remind me of that old Merle Travis song about smoking:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SWXbVsMkz1U.
Is your spousal unit a compulsive texter? Does she send videos/images/jokes to others? DOES SHE SEND THEM TO YOU? How frequently does she "flirt" (however YOU meant it in your description of their texts) with you by text?
Does she text frequently from home, weekends & evenings? How many texting addicts does she connect with, male or female? When she is around you, is she attached to her computer or phone?
How much texting does she do to you from work? If you text her at work with a question about your kids, how long until she gets back to you?
Collect and analyze the facts. The two lines of questions suggested above are very straight forward and their results would likely be very illuminating.
I have been trying to wrap my mind around what lead up to your situation Hooper. Your concessions about about a flat space in your marriage from career pressures,devotion to kids etc explains part of the story but the catalyst is still missing. See if this resonates.
Your wife apparently has a fairly narrowly specialized practice, clearly is not a GP if stitches are not in the normal range of services. And orthopedics are out if shoulders go beyond her practice. So what specialty area with an office practice make are likely to bring together a 40ish physician and a potential suitor as doctor patient: Not pediatrics, not ObGyn, orthopedics is already out, general surgery? But for what? And wouldn't surgery suggest that the patient has more fundamental problems making him unattractive? Internal Medicine? (See-surgery)
No, your wife's a dermatologist. Wait does our interloper have skin cancer, psoriasis or acne? None of those are triggers for romance, but INK removal would explain a great deal.
We are dealing with a younger man, say 30ish, who in his halcyon days bought into the tattoo game and now as he moves into a professional life that ink coming out of his collar or on his forearms is an obstacle to advancement. I am guessing he is a deputy DA in the Boulder County office.
About 18 months ago he had performance review which noted the tattoo issue. He began the process of having them lasered off. That means 6-12 30-60 minute monthly visits with your wife. Lots of potential awkward silences and he lays their half naked while she lasers him. But your wife is a gregarious person, almost has to be as part of her practice. And he is a street wise, ambitious younger man with an exposed youthful body. Did I mention he played football with the Buffs? He was a safety, not some fat lineman. Safety fits with the fearlessness he project as a biker and his post playing passion: martial arts. The hand he cut requiring stitches? Sparring workout.
So over the course of 8-9 months your wife and her patient came to look forward to his monthly laser session where she found someone easy to talk to, who showed his sensitive side by nurturing the domestic violence victims he ushers thru the legal system but also a dynamite sense of humor when he regales her with all the preposterous behavior that finds its way thru the criminal justice system. And his firm, half naked body, well she has to remind the office staff that no selfies are permitted with that.
Fast forward to December. Ink is gone, doctor-patient relationship is over and sadly, the regular first Thursday of the month laser/flirting sessions end. Withdrawal, grief emptiness creep in for both. This innocent connection can't be over! What can replace it? The miracle of Mark Zuckerberg: Facebook!
Neither intends Facebook to be more than a lifeline to the past laser treatments but within weeks it becomes a force that neither can contain. The fun innocuous doctor patient relationship morphs into something neither quite understands but both crave. His girlfriend catches on quickly and is out the door. Hooper my friend, you are caught up in the collateral damage of a foolish 18 year olds decision to keep up with Buffs by getting as many tats as he afford.
And so the moral of the story? Tattoos lead to divorce
Wow! Nicely done. Anymore series coming up?..;)
Reads like a novel wrote:
Wow! Nicely done. Anymore series coming up?..;)
Well, as we now know, he's not as smart as either of his siblings, but, he strikes that critical balance between bold and serial killer and so fits into the world of other people better than either of them. Regardless, excellence should be rewarded. Nice job!
Reads like a novel wrote:
Wow! Nicely done. Anymore series coming up?..;)
+1
But please no sequels with jar jar binks
OP
Most of these things blow over if they are just physical, i would say just ignore it and it will likely all go away sooner or later.
nada bada bing wrote:
OP
Most of these things blow over if they are just physical, i would say just ignore it and it will likely all go away sooner or later.
OP
stop worrying, it is just physical, it definitely blows, and after awhile I will get tired of her
Hooper - Email me. eerily similar and I have experiences I can share
You can't be shy on here since it's anonymous so please no secrets on here. We like juicy info...:)
Back story wrote:
I have been trying to wrap my mind around what lead up to your situation Hooper. Your concessions about about a flat space in your marriage from career pressures,devotion to kids etc explains part of the story but the catalyst is still missing. See if this resonates.
Your wife apparently has a fairly narrowly specialized practice, clearly is not a GP if stitches are not in the normal range of services. And orthopedics are out if shoulders go beyond her practice. So what specialty area with an office practice make are likely to bring together a 40ish physician and a potential suitor as doctor patient: Not pediatrics, not ObGyn, orthopedics is already out, general surgery? But for what? And wouldn't surgery suggest that the patient has more fundamental problems making him unattractive? Internal Medicine? (See-surgery)
No, your wife's a dermatologist. Wait does our interloper have skin cancer, psoriasis or acne? None of those are triggers for romance, but INK removal would explain a great deal.
We are dealing with a younger man, say 30ish, who in his halcyon days bought into the tattoo game and now as he moves into a professional life that ink coming out of his collar or on his forearms is an obstacle to advancement. I am guessing he is a deputy DA in the Boulder County office.
About 18 months ago he had performance review which noted the tattoo issue. He began the process of having them lasered off. That means 6-12 30-60 minute monthly visits with your wife. Lots of potential awkward silences and he lays their half naked while she lasers him. But your wife is a gregarious person, almost has to be as part of her practice. And he is a street wise, ambitious younger man with an exposed youthful body. Did I mention he played football with the Buffs? He was a safety, not some fat lineman. Safety fits with the fearlessness he project as a biker and his post playing passion: martial arts. The hand he cut requiring stitches? Sparring workout.
So over the course of 8-9 months your wife and her patient came to look forward to his monthly laser session where she found someone easy to talk to, who showed his sensitive side by nurturing the domestic violence victims he ushers thru the legal system but also a dynamite sense of humor when he regales her with all the preposterous behavior that finds its way thru the criminal justice system. And his firm, half naked body, well she has to remind the office staff that no selfies are permitted with that.
Fast forward to December. Ink is gone, doctor-patient relationship is over and sadly, the regular first Thursday of the month laser/flirting sessions end. Withdrawal, grief emptiness creep in for both. This innocent connection can't be over! What can replace it? The miracle of Mark Zuckerberg: Facebook!
Neither intends Facebook to be more than a lifeline to the past laser treatments but within weeks it becomes a force that neither can contain. The fun innocuous doctor patient relationship morphs into something neither quite understands but both crave. His girlfriend catches on quickly and is out the door. Hooper my friend, you are caught up in the collateral damage of a foolish 18 year olds decision to keep up with Buffs by getting as many tats as he afford.
And so the moral of the story? Tattoos lead to divorce
Is this Hooper making a comeback? Cleaner writing but connects a lot of dots. Maybe he got a ghost writer?
Well done. Top 3 post of the thread. 1. Original passive aggressive post inviting the other guy to dinner. 2. OP3. This.
Back story wrote:
I have been trying to wrap my mind around what lead up to your situation Hooper. Your concessions about about a flat space in your marriage from career pressures,devotion to kids etc explains part of the story but the catalyst is still missing. See if this resonates.
Your wife apparently has a fairly narrowly specialized practice, clearly is not a GP if stitches are not in the normal range of services. And orthopedics are out if shoulders go beyond her practice. So what specialty area with an office practice make are likely to bring together a 40ish physician and a potential suitor as doctor patient: Not pediatrics, not ObGyn, orthopedics is already out, general surgery? But for what? And wouldn't surgery suggest that the patient has more fundamental problems making him unattractive? Internal Medicine? (See-surgery)
No, your wife's a dermatologist. Wait does our interloper have skin cancer, psoriasis or acne? None of those are triggers for romance, but INK removal would explain a great deal.
We are dealing with a younger man, say 30ish, who in his halcyon days bought into the tattoo game and now as he moves into a professional life that ink coming out of his collar or on his forearms is an obstacle to advancement. I am guessing he is a deputy DA in the Boulder County office.
About 18 months ago he had performance review which noted the tattoo issue. He began the process of having them lasered off. That means 6-12 30-60 minute monthly visits with your wife. Lots of potential awkward silences and he lays their half naked while she lasers him. But your wife is a gregarious person, almost has to be as part of her practice. And he is a street wise, ambitious younger man with an exposed youthful body. Did I mention he played football with the Buffs? He was a safety, not some fat lineman. Safety fits with the fearlessness he project as a biker and his post playing passion: martial arts. The hand he cut requiring stitches? Sparring workout.
So over the course of 8-9 months your wife and her patient came to look forward to his monthly laser session where she found someone easy to talk to, who showed his sensitive side by nurturing the domestic violence victims he ushers thru the legal system but also a dynamite sense of humor when he regales her with all the preposterous behavior that finds its way thru the criminal justice system. And his firm, half naked body, well she has to remind the office staff that no selfies are permitted with that.
Fast forward to December. Ink is gone, doctor-patient relationship is over and sadly, the regular first Thursday of the month laser/flirting sessions end. Withdrawal, grief emptiness creep in for both. This innocent connection can't be over! What can replace it? The miracle of Mark Zuckerberg: Facebook!
Neither intends Facebook to be more than a lifeline to the past laser treatments but within weeks it becomes a force that neither can contain. The fun innocuous doctor patient relationship morphs into something neither quite understands but both crave. His girlfriend catches on quickly and is out the door. Hooper my friend, you are caught up in the collateral damage of a foolish 18 year olds decision to keep up with Buffs by getting as many tats as he afford.
And so the moral of the story? Tattoos lead to divorce
you had an incredibly boring life for years and didnt prioritize each other. what do you expect? its not about trust its that your relationship has sucked for over a decade and you think thats ok to live like for the rest of your lives. you want your wife back? to continue like this? geesh i wouldnt want to be with you either. transcend the typical judeo christian americanized marriage mindset. prioritize your wife. you know. the one you married. and maybe, just myabe it could work. even if she has cheated. get over it. she will. a 100% faithful marriage is so much rarer than you are indoctrinated to believe. crying all of church? dude. get out of church you need WIFE time not church time. youre so blinded into thinking this is our commitment shes being unfaithful blablabla without rewalizing NO you commited to be a good husband. you didnt learn the most inportant thing about really making a marriage work. PRIORITIZE HER AND YORSELF YOU IDIOT. youre more of a nanny. being a husvand and father doesnt mean pouring everything into your kids.
set firm boundaries with your kids. stop doing thinfs you dont need to. have fun with yor wife every day. EVERY DAY. go out at least once a week. remove whatever other commitmentd necessary. kids soccer. whatever who cares. set boundaries wuth your kids. like after 8 GO THE F AWAY. dont bother us unless youre dying
Is there a rule against attaching a helium balloon to yourself while running a road race?
Am I living in the twilight zone? The Boston Marathon weather was terrible!
How rare is it to run a sub 5 minute mile AND bench press 225?
Jakob Ingebrigtsen has a 1989 Ferrari 348 GTB and he's just put in paperwork to upgrade it
Move over Mark Coogan, Rojo and John Kellogg share their 3 favorite mile workouts
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