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How does the saying go: One man's lost is another man's gain?
No David! wrote:
He has all the power. He gets half and allimony and probably the kids and child support. Which means the house.
She holds the power in the relationship no doubt. But he definitely holds the cards when it comes to the divorce.
You a lawyer? I thought there was another thread years ago about Colorado being a "common law" state, not a "community property" state, and that while it sounds the same to us non-esquires, our boy could get less than half and possibly no alimony.
I don't know about that in Col wrote:
No David! wrote:He has all the power. He gets half and allimony and probably the kids and child support. Which means the house.
She holds the power in the relationship no doubt. But he definitely holds the cards when it comes to the divorce.
You a lawyer? I thought there was another thread years ago about Colorado being a "common law" state, not a "community property" state, and that while it sounds the same to us non-esquires, our boy could get less than half and possibly no alimony.
Couldn't the OPs posts in this thread constitute condoning her conduct? And an admission of violation her privacy etc ?
If that evidence got in, would any of the other posts get in as expert opinion?
So, Mr. Hooper took the time to write this enthralling narrative of his life, desperately seeking the sage advice from the brilliant minds of LRC, then doesn't bother to reply in 3 days? I think we've been had.
Fast Ass wrote:
Maybe she's cheating on him because he's a runner...
We, men of thin bodies and bright-colored shoes, men of long-runs and long-limbs, maybe the blame lies in ourself.
women who want excitement go looking for bad boys with motorbikes
but women marry men like us
maybe that has to be enough
I like divorced women wrote:
How does the saying go: One man's lost is another man's gain?
Well, it definitely does not go like that.
One man's loss is another man's gain.
Random guy doing your wife wrote:
Glad there are no hard feelings and I am not responsible at all. I feel a little guilty still because I feel like I came between you and your wife. But you open your mouth and then I feel all clean again.
I am sorry that you feel so badly about your lack of cognitive abilities that you are forced to try to cover them up with your fantasies. Very sad.
You are in my prayers but it's probably time to move on.And being an MD and you being a teacher is probably a different social situation as well--too much disparity :/
Indeed In Deed wrote:
Random guy doing your wife wrote:Glad there are no hard feelings and I am not responsible at all. I feel a little guilty still because I feel like I came between you and your wife. But you open your mouth and then I feel all clean again.
I am sorry that you feel so badly about your lack of cognitive abilities that you are forced to try to cover them up with your fantasies. Very sad.
if the other guy is not responsible why are you responding to him and why so bitter?
Is OP update
What a response this has generated
I haven't gone through all 6 pages but if it hasn't been said I'm going to say it and make this really short.
1. This is headed towards adultery and/or divorce.
2. Your wife is emotional cheating. Getting upset is not an overreaction, but under valuing your feelings is.
3. No communication should happen between members of the opposite sex unless it's done in a group setting (involving your spouse). There is 0 need for this! FFS set the boundaries. If anyone protests about it, it's usually because they're polygamous. It's amazing how many couples invite emotional cheating into their lives by not setting boundaries, then wonder why the hell they broke up.
This is all you need to know.
End This wrote:
No communication should happen between members of the opposite sex unless it's done in a group setting (involving your spouse).
Yup.
For that matter, there is zero need for my wife to own shoes, since she isn't allowed to go outside the house.
Well I'm not sure how you pronounce it or anything, but I believe it's called a menage a trois.
trollottery wrote:
Yup.
For that matter, there is zero need for my wife to own shoes, since she isn't allowed to go outside the house.
It goes both ways. You're like a child with that authoritarian exaggeration.
By all means go ahead and let you and your SO flirt with anyone. Good luck on your infidelity.
OP, are you sure you can't live through this? Life is long, and your wife is obviously going through a phase where she wants a little more (maybe a lot more) excitement than you're giving her. But really, is she cold toward you? Does she disrespect you in front of your kids? Do you still have sex with her, and is it good? You may just have to put up with her wild spell and wild ways to have the woman you want, and in the end she may like you more for it.
On the Flip Side wrote:
You may just have to put up with her wild spell and wild ways to have the woman you want, and in the end she may like you more for it.
^this
OP should be happy that his wife is happy.
cucks R us wrote:
On the Flip Side wrote:You may just have to put up with her wild spell and wild ways to have the woman you want, and in the end she may like you more for it.
^this
OP should be happy that his wife is happy.
This is a distance running board
If OP becomes a sprinter, he won't have to worry.
Workouts will only be maybe 20 minutes long which means he'll have more time to stay at home.
When his wife's cellphone rings from receiving texts from that other guy, OP can dash to the phone and read the message preview before the phone screen once again turns off.
My mental image of the OP is of Steve Carell's character from Crazy Stupid Love, and his wife is off on a motorcycle ride with the Kevin Bacon character. As others have suggested, here's what the OP really needs to do:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Zckciw8lD1k
Ok, maybe not exactly that. But the OP needs to become the best version of himself that he can. A dozen years of stay-at-home daddy-ing and substitute teaching is not a recipe to bring out your best. "Your wife cheated on you because you lost sight of who you are as a man, as a husband, and probably as a lover." So go find your best self, whether that is through style or adventure or whatever, go do it. If you become the best version of yourself, your wife will either realize that she really does want to be with you, or you'll be ready to find whoever comes next.