Where's Dr. Phil when you need him?? Letsrun.com of course! Am I over-reacting or is my wife messing around on me?

So you want her back right?

If a man entered your home and stole your car you'd hit him with a baseball bat right?

If a man tried to hurt your relationship with your kids you'd stop him right?

So what are you prepared to do to get her back and avoid seeing your kids part time?

It's time to go all in like Darth Vader man.

Take this guy out of the picture.

Just do it.

And understand that you need to change things because it can and will happen again

more to say ...

my heart goes out to you Man

this deceitful behavior chews you up i know personally , that is just how mine started

texts

then flirting

then meeting up

then i caught my ex in bed with another man

i was pissed so i kicked his as#

i felt i was justified , we were married that's my wife !

and ... well .... I got arrested for fighting the man in bed with my wife !!!!

I had 4 years of court battles over this before just 2 weeks ago i finally cleared my record !

PRAISE THE LORD i was able to get pas it legally but emotionally i have a long ways to so ....

First of all trust in Jesus for your happiness and validation not your spouse

big leap there !

2 are you doing a great job with your girls ... then that is what you can control and keep it up !!! you can't raise them with a broken heart

decide your minimum acceptable standards (and this guy is not in your equation that im sure )

example ... if texting and flirting are ok say so if they are not say so make it clear ANYTHING OVER THIS LINE is not acceptable and be prepared to act on it swiftly if it is crossed . you have to be a leader and have to do hard things (get counseling help with setting these standards if you need it

3 how bad do you want to fix this ???

again sit down and decide its the hardest part !

what are you willing to do to change to give up etc

4 become transparent tell her show her your going to fight for your marriage and exactly what that looks like and MAKE CLEAR YOUR STANDARDS

no other guy even fun flirty fun nice guys are in any mans acceptable standards .

you deserve exactly what you offer ...

faithfulness ...

its not overreacting ... its self preservation ... its family preservation .... its marriage preservation

watch that movie war room you'll see what i'm talking about

good luck Man im praying for you and your wife

God can change her heart , but he will likely work on yours at the same time be ready for tough times !

its obvious she has connected with guy . she wants her cake and eat it too

You are is serious trouble dude: remember this movie?

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=PKEE-fS9WrU

Name one thing she truly still likes about you. Look hard at your relationship and name it. Not how you take care of kids or clean etc. one thing about you. Start there

And name 10 things you like about yourself. Not you and her. You.

Focus on those 11 things.

Get yourself together rested and focused. A storm is coming whether it brings you closer or tears you apart but it is coming. Get strong and get ready.

She is cheating on you. Zero doubt.

Talk to a divorce lawyer today. Find out what you have to do, take her for everything you can and move on.

Do not give her a second chance. She is scheming and doing this in a calculated way.

Every time you think you want her back just picture her naked and riding her boyfriend and loving it.

Good luck. Report back.

kick her out before she does wrote:

90% of divorces involving college educated women are initiated by the woman.

Link or you're a liar.

Maybe she's cheating on him because he's a runner...

We, men of thin bodies and bright-colored shoes, men of long-runs and long-limbs, maybe the blame lies in ourself.

I find it very sad that letsrun is already a very mean place, moreso with these comments.

Demand counseling. The odds are about 99% that she's only still with you because you take care of the kids.

Loser guy wrote:

So you want her back right?

If a man entered your home and stole your car you'd hit him with a baseball bat right?

If a man tried to hurt your relationship with your kids you'd stop him right?

So what are you prepared to do to get her back and avoid seeing your kids part time?

It's time to go all in like Darth Vader man.

Take this guy out of the picture.

Just do it.

And understand that you need to change things because it can and will happen again

Indeed, you are a loser.

The TWO people who are responsible for the marriage are the husband and wife - NOT the other guy. He is irrelevant. The success or failure of the marriage never was and never will be his responsibility.

This is between the husband and the wife - nobody else.

Dennis T Reynolds wrote:

Attention guys, don't ever go through your significant other's phone/computer. It's a pretty f*cked up thing to do.

If you're married you've done it.

Don't trust Mario M wrote:

Mario Mendoza tried to steal my wife a couple of years ago doing what he does best : lying. Too bad it didn't work, loser. I found out through voicemails he was leaving her (she had deleted his texts) with 'I love you, baby' and stuff like that. So those who say that you can't save a relationship after this kind of stuff happens are wrong.

Well, you can of course. As long as you are willing to live the life of a cuck.

Oh, and by the way, one can only steal something from somebody else if that "something" is the property of that "somebody else?. Is your wife your property?

If it was just between the husband and the wife then there would not be another guy.

Is the other guy interested in being a good stepdad? Could be. The kids are involved too.

It is not the other guys responsibility to preserve or respect the marriage, but to say he is irrelevant is an idiot move.

The serpent was irrelevant in the garden of Eden?

If you want to stay married start making time for her and dating her at least once a week. Do fun things together again. Do the things together that attracted you together in the first place. If you be the man she was attracted to to begin with you have no need to worry about other guys.

Cold reality wrote:

Indeed In Deed wrote:

Indeed, you are a loser.

The TWO people who are responsible for the marriage are the husband and wife - NOT the other guy. He is irrelevant. The success or failure of the marriage never was and never will be his responsibility.

This is between the husband and the wife - nobody else.

If it was just between the husband and the wife then there would not be another guy.

Is the other guy interested in being a good stepdad? Could be. The kids are involved too.

It is not the other guys responsibility to preserve or respect the marriage, but to say he is irrelevant is an idiot move.

The serpent was irrelevant in the garden of Eden?

Try taking a reading comprehension course. It might do you some good.

Not Really a Brojo wrote:

Work out a deal with her, something like this:

1. Increase your life insurance policy and have her as the sole benefactor

2. After say, 8 months, go "missing" after your boat capsizes

3. After you are declared legally dead, she will get your life insurance money

4. Have her deposit half the money in your offshore bank account

5. Enjoy your new single life in the Caribbean

Solid plan.

Correct! Only women can be a homewrecker. A man will just tear open the backdoor and maybe leave a window open.

Hooper wrote:

Her reactions to this situation is to tell me I don't let her do anything and that I'm just a jealous husband. I've admitted to her that I've made poor choices in my comments at times...by questioning this guy or that guy. I know it's wrong and not healthy for our relationship. I know that's not fair to my wife, it's just me being insecure.

Your response to her being such an assh*le to you is annoying.

My advice is to STOP putting up with her crap. Tell her BS! That it's her who's creating the problems, not you. I agree with those who say to focus on your own life. Personally, I would do both of these things. #1 be clear that you know exactly what she's doing (no need to get into specifics, so don't), and that she's making a mistake.

Beyond that, let it go and keep doing your own thing. Don't let her depend on you to take care of the house and home any more. Certainly do your part, but don't do her part as well. Be prepared to divorce and move on with your life, if it comes to this, which would hurt her (at least convenience wise) a lot more than you. Text, friend, call, talk with and see at least one women friend on the side -- and start working on this NOW.

Good luck to you, and keep us posted.

Pretty good; 8/10. You lost me with the motorcycle ride up Sunshine Canyon. Unless that's a euphemism for Patient Zero riding your wife's love canal.

On the off chance you're not a troll, you frankly come across as an insecure, possessive, whiny little bitch, especially w/r/t snooping on your wife's phone, Facebook, etc. No woman is attracted to this kind of behavior and if there were problems before, it's a sure bet to drive her further away. Recommend counseling (but probably too late).

OP

You're falling into the r9k trap, or you know, the 4chan trap

The majority of these posters are already convincing you to divorce or view your wife in a very suspecting light.

Maybe she just wants a little attention. I do that to and sometimes flirt with female colleagues that are taken.

Trust your wife, OP. This is America and we are free to make our own choices in life.

Listen to my post and don't feed these toxic trolls who want to see you ruin your relationship even more. Don't make LetsRun be the reason your relationship is crumbling.

Calm down and keep the blood in your head. You know that song, Right?

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