doing the best I can wrote:
42 y.o. female
Recently fired while earning 105K
Ph.D. in clinical psychology
Rent apt
Own nothing, owe nothing
no kids, never married
struggling to meet someone because I’m afraid of getting hurt
10k PR 43:23
best race: 3:19:27 at NYC marathon
Fired while earning $105k and owe nothing. Sounds like you (hopefully) have a pretty good nest egg to live off for a while.
Struggling to meet someone because you're afraid of getting hurt? So you'd rather not meet anyone? That makes no sense. Take the walls down. Whatever happened to you in the past is in the past. You either learn from it or you continue to not let anyone in because of it.