I'll start with a personal experience. A friend who I have been interested in for over a year recently said to me that we need to find a word for people who are soulmates, but never date as they are best friends. I wanted to die.
I'll start with a personal experience. A friend who I have been interested in for over a year recently said to me that we need to find a word for people who are soulmates, but never date as they are best friends. I wanted to die.
asdasdasd wrote:
I'll start with a personal experience. A friend who I have been interested in for over a year recently said to me that we need to find a word for people who are soulmates, but never date as they are best friends. I wanted to die.
Is he aware of your feelings for him?
I'm really hot, so I'm unfamiliar with this "friendzone" concept. Unless you're talking about when a girl is into me and I string her along platonically for months so that I can soothe my aching ego.
I make it pretty obvious in my opinion
Here's a lesson for the poor schmucks who practically live in the friendzone - if you haven't pulled your dick out within the first five minutes of knowing her, you're wasting your time.
I had a chick take an open door crap while I was standing there because she feels like I'm her brother.
My biological sister doesn't crap in front of me.
years back i had made out with some chick and never went further, a few weeks later i was told she had a crush on me. so i thought maybe i will pursue this...
she gave me the whole lets be friends nonsense, not wanting to be zoned i smiled said ok and never tried to talk to her again. but every party that i saw her at she would be drunk and try to flirt with me and get me thinking i was in it to win it. we would text and then she would tell me how awesome i am blah blah blah, then tell me how much of an a$$hole her bf is...
so i ignore her, but here and there i kept getting annoying drunk texts and calls being flirty and very provocative, till she knew she had me then drop the bf card and tell me she wished she could find a nice guy like me. after a year or so of this i was so annoyed i broke off all contact. years later she hits me up, says she wants to go out and have some beers, says she single, flirts pretty naughty like. i thought "oh man this could finally be it"
go to the bar have a few beers and then she starts blabbing on about her ex, and her last string of flings and how they were all a$$holes and gives me a side hug and says "im so glad i have such a great guy friend".....i gave her a dirty look and told her
"do you understand there are only two guys that get stuck in the friend zone?"
and she says "no? and whats wrong with the friendzone?"
and i told her
"gays and dudes who will never be good enough, and i dont f*ck dudes"
she had no idea what to say and i left her alone at the bar with the bill....again years later she called said she was in my town and would love to meet up, i told her i wouldnt waste my time, she tried talking sh*t, and i just hung up.
dont ever let yourself be zoned, once you know its happening think about the reality, gay dudes and dudes who will never be good enough are the ones who get zoned....so stand up, be a man/a$$hole and dont let it happen
oh man thought of another time i had to end the zone....yeah i was pretty bad at getting zoned....
middle school, had a crush chick zoned me and like 15 other guys. she played with all of our minds. eventually one by one we all had enough and gave up on said chick. by senior year she was still hot but no one gave much of a sh*t about her cause she was such a notorious b*tch about turning every guy into the friend zone.
anyways sometime in the spring me and two buddies go to one of the local restaurants, turns out she is one of the waitresses. of course she is acting stuck up and worthless when she sees us and walks away, we have to seat ourselves and wait and wait and wait. she finally comes to our table acting nice
"oh hey guys i didnt see you come in"
bull$hit she didnt, of course my too friends and try to flirt with her and she is loving it, but somehow i was not at all into it especially as she saw us walk in and pretend she didnt see us for 30 min. when finally she touches my shoulder to get my attention and asks
"oh so what are you doing?"
"oh me? im ignoring you.....on purpose"
i was straight stone cold face, i didnt plan on it or anything just came out on its own. my friends were shocked and started laughing and she was in serious shock, cried and walked away. and then i realized how awesome that was and we laughed super hard. she never came back and we just got up and left, but we all felt so good about what just happenend
zoned wrote:
First story was great. Second? Well you were just an a$$hole. You held onto that grudge for 5 or more years? From middle school? That's pathetic.
moose wrote:
I'm really hot, so I'm unfamiliar with this "friendzone" concept. Unless you're talking about when a girl is into me and I string her along platonically for months so that I can soothe my aching ego.
lol
Disgusting. Every female should be obligated to date and have sex with every man that might possibly be interested. If you are nice to her for more than five minutes that puts her under obligation to date you, she has to. Obviously this doesn't count for uglies and fatties.
Both you and this girl failed to grow up it seems. That reads like 13 year old drama continuing through the next 15 years.
yeah except now im married and she is still flailing around, she tried to contact me a few years ago in an email...it started off with how her ex was such a jerk...i never replied
the reality is 90% of all LR's are skinny 15:40's at best 5k guys, still single and were friend zoned since puberty. yeah i was zoned a number of times till i decided i wouldn't allow it to happen anymore. and for all those talking sh*t, dont act like you were super happy to be rejected then flirted then rejected then flirted then rejected then the "oh come on you are my besstesssst friend" and then goes on to tell you how her bf pounds her in the back door. if you dont get upset about it you are a huge loser. when a chick does that to a guy, but is also doing it to 15 guys all at once and you dont get upset, your a loser.
my two friends were dragged along by her as well and zoned hard. but when she came to us they instantly became losers again cause they were puppy dog face and loser status, but i wasnt going to have any of it. she loved the fact she had 15 morons drooling for her and she played them all and set them in the black hole of friend zone.
tell he im pathetic all you want. how many guys do you know that drag along 15 girls and zone them?
So is the idea behind this whole "friendzone" concept basically that every girl who speaks to you is obligated to fuck you and that you are a victim any time this does not occur?
Um, why would you be upset about girls like that?
It's funny how you never hear stories about people getting "friend zoned" in their late 20's or 30's. So far, the few stories on here are from like middle school and college. Is it that you wise up to the bullsh*t and see right thru it? Is it really a "if we aren't going to f**k, it's not even worth trying to play the game" mentality?
Not Really a Brojo wrote:
It's funny how you never hear stories about people getting "friend zoned" in their late 20's or 30's. So far, the few stories on here are from like middle school and college. Is it that you wise up to the bullsh*t and see right thru it? Is it really a "if we aren't going to f**k, it's not even worth trying to play the game" mentality?
Getting better at recognizing signs a woman sends when she is interested vs thinking that you can charm "the one" into liking you.
Don't play their mind games. They just want to string you along to boost their ego when they don't feel good or feel fat. Some of them are total psychopaths and they don't even know it.
just clarifying wrote:
So is the idea behind this whole "friendzone" concept basically that every girl who speaks to you is obligated to fuck you and that you are a victim any time this does not occur?
No it's more about the dishonest teasing and flirtation that girls use to reel in attention and validation from guys they have no romantic intentions with. I'm sure some (if not a significant portion) of these stories come from the point of view of desperate losers who would f*ck anything with a pulse crying that their "sweetheart" just wanted to be friends and nothing more. I think it's the way some girls simply use guys for validation (just like some guys boink girls for validation) in the form gifts or compliments.
Word of advice to those consistently caught in the friendzone - LEARN HOW TO ATTRACT WOMEN. Hint: looks and money play very little part in this equation, at least until middle age when women want a dude who can provide for her and her kids, even then you still need to be able to attract them to some extent if you don't want a painful divorce/ joyless marriage. Also, have some dignity and the confidence to say no to girls once in a while, girls actually LIKE THIS. Girls are not interested in mindless flattery. The fact that you have such little self-respect to let women push you around, and not go for what you want, is why girls aren't attracted in the first place. Trust me, dignity and self-worth trumps (HA!) pu$$y every time.
Honestly I have never been friend zoned. I'm sorry you've had to go through that. I also broke 15:00 for the 5k a couple times. All true.
On the other hand, I have put girls in the friend zone. My best friend in HS was a girl. She wanted to be more than friends, I wanted to date her friends. It's not that she wasn't attractive, she just seemed more like a sister, and I never had feelings for her.
I have a couple more stories, but unfortunately they might just piss you off since I can't relate to what it's like to have that happen to you.