How many here don't sleep with spouse?

I suggested it to my wife before we got married; she hated the idea. Later she warmed up to it but never made the switch. I can sleep through anything, sex is great and I am not offended if she moved to another room. I am also up 2 hrs earlier so even more reason.

Tradition based on e onomics I suppose but why she or others suffer restlessly I don't know.

I sleep with your spouse.

I'm amazed by the number of couples I know that don't sleep together or have much sex after the first kid. The thrill is gone. Its like Catholic summer camp for them.

Admittedly guys snore, have apnea, roll around and make stinky farts, and that gets old quickly.

She has the jimmy legs.

I was just telling my wife the other day that it's still one of the great pleasures in life to have her lying beside me every night and be able to snuggle. If I had to choose between sex and sleeping together.., well, I'd choose sex of course, but sleeping together is really nice.

mandatory joke wrote:

I sleep with your spouse.

Your handle makes your response clever.

My obligatory response: Feel free to sleep with her as long as you don't have sex with her. I'm possessive that way.

mandatory joke wrote:

I sleep with your spouse.

Disappointed that this wasn't the first response.

question- why another room why not separate beds in same room?

Wake up sex is a favorite of ours, of course end of day sex is a staple of our sexual diet and a spontaneous middle of the night romp is quite enjoyable too.

The idea that sex must be prearranged doesn't seem right.

My wife and I sleep in separate beds in the same room. We're a modern couple.

More restful sleep wrote:

For the last couple years I have not slept with my wife. We have a good sex life but we don't sleep together.

It started with nights I felt restless or couldn't sleep, I would move to the guest room in the middle of the night. Finally we made the sleep divorce.

I like it. When we visit people we sleep in the same bad. We always get separate beds in hotels.

Our adult children think it's weird.

No idea why you need to run to a different room. Just have beds which are not attached. I believe in getting a full night's sleep and if the spouse is keeping you awake for non "attention" reasons, then figure out a way of doing it.

Sex life shouldn't be affected.

We've been sleeping separate for 3.5 years. Started because my wife wanted to try co-sleeping with our daughter when she was born. Wasn't enough room, plus I'm up 2-3 hours before her and that would wake the kid. I love it, she loves it. We've got absolutely no issue sleeping together while on holiday or if someone comes to visit and takes the room I sleep in, but we both get better sleep and if we need some cuddle time we do while watching a movie before bed. Also, we're only 35 and 33, so it's not just for "the old folks".

Sleeping in different rooms is weird, unless one spouse disrupts the other's sleep with snoring or something. I can't imagine being in the same house with my wife and not talking with her as we go to sleep or when we wake up. Or being in separate rooms through the night.

Funny timing. I got pretty sick last week so I slept in the guest bedroom instead of hacking and coughing all night next to my pregnant wife. We both got better sleep than normal and agreed it was bittersweet to go back to sleeping next to each other.

I don't think I'd make it a permanent thing, but I can appreciate the perks. My wife tosses and turns through pregnancy and she wakes me up several times through the night.

My wife has chronic insomnia and my snoring wakes her up. She gets up around 3 am every night and wanders the house. She returns to bed in the guest bedroom for a couple hours of undisturbed sleep so as not to disturb me and to avoid my snoring. I get up two hours before her so it works out great. When we travel (camping, hotels, staying with friends) we sleep together no problem.

I sleep in a different room around half the time - I get far better sleep that way. I dunno. Not good for the sex life I suppose but not a disaster either.

A lot of doomed marriages on here.

not good wrote:

Sleeping in different rooms is weird, unless one spouse disrupts the other's sleep with snoring or something. I can't imagine being in the same house with my wife and not talking with her as we go to sleep or when we wake up. Or being in separate rooms through the night.

This.

Pretzel Man wrote:

not good wrote:

Sleeping in different rooms is weird, unless one spouse disrupts the other's sleep with snoring or something. I can't imagine being in the same house with my wife and not talking with her as we go to sleep or when we wake up. Or being in separate rooms through the night.

This.

I agree with this, but I have gotten up and moved to the guest room occasionally if I'm having trouble sleeping. Same with her. Mostly we don't want to wake up the other on those nights. I find I sleep quite well in the guest room, but I wouldn't think of making that arrangement permanent.

Pretzel Man wrote:

not good wrote:

Sleeping in different rooms is weird, unless one spouse disrupts the other's sleep with snoring or something. I can't imagine being in the same house with my wife and not talking with her as we go to sleep or when we wake up. Or being in separate rooms through the night.

This.

yeah well my wife generally goes to sleep an hour earlier than I do and wakes up an hour earlier. So we do talk just before she goes to sleep. But waking up...she'd be on her how wherever I slept.

and I do snore