Couldn't have said it better. I'd add that urban city sprawl has hurt family. Grandparents are no longer available, mostly for bad reasons. Too many step-families not brought on by death but by selfish choice. F'ed up siblings of yours taking the full attention of one Grandparent that could otherwise help the responsible families. Too much bad stuff to name. Taking care of your own and then helping others friends in your same classification, category, $$ level or similar attributes and world view - can work wonders.
H. Dong wrote:
Met my wife st 26, married 28, first kid 32, second kid 36.
If I could move marriage up 2-3 years and having kids 26-28 I would. It is exhausting being in your 40s chasing kids around. I couldn't imagine being any older.
Waiting is not what it's cracked up to be. Everyone wants to travel and move up the ladder and that's great. Until your old with young kids.