I NEVER get upset and am certainly not even remotely approaching that in my discussion with you; wasn't even a consideration. I am Mr. Spock. I am just setting you straight that your ideas don't apply to everyone.
Regarding expectations, why should anyone do with their life what other people expect of them? People who are in charge of their lives don't let the expectations of others drive what they do.
Regarding what "average" people do, I disagree with you there. To get that Policy Analyst job working with Donna Shalala, she rose to the top of 1000 applicants and got that job (three hired at the time). You have to show excellence to even get a job like that, both academically and in the interview process. She did a great job while there...not something an average person could have done. She also went out and got a University Professor job with her work demands after being out of the work force for 15 years. I submit to you that "average" people don't become university professors at all, and even fewer people are successful becoming one after being out of the work force for 15 years.
Now, if you define "average" as anyone who is not a genius like my wife, then ok...there are professors and people who work in important jobs in government who are not geniuses. That's because there aren't enough geniuses to go around.
I reiterate though that her work and family life has gone exactly as she has wanted it to go. Just because you are uber smart and have serious degrees from serious universities doesn't mean you need to use all of that at all times. It just keeps doors open for her that others don't have, and she has opened the doors she wanted to open when she wanted to open them.
Your idea of success seems narrow and extremely passive. People who take charge of their lives do whatever they want to do, brother.