Let's be real - people are just looking to date / marry the most attractive person they can get

Not me but I ended up marrying an amazingly attractive woman anyway.

84-2343034330-3403 wrote:

Not me but I ended up marrying an amazingly attractive woman anyway.

LOL - how convenient

At the upper level anyway, people rarely end up with a partner of their exact looks level. a 9 or 10 usually ends up with a 7 or 8. Both sexes, not including goldigger/provider setups, which most marriages are to some extent.

People are "attractive" for reasons other than looks, and some person who's cosmetically attractive by "model" standards may be so vacant or self-absorbed that she's not actually attractive to adults at all. I know. Big shock, huh?

brains > any other factor

Dr. Reality wrote:

brains > any other factor

Uh, right. Ask women if they'd rather date Ryan Gosling or some Harvard Professor.

ABC - always be closing! wrote:

The exception to this rule is gold-digging women, who will marry a troll for $$$

Close, but not entirely accurate. The rich man must still have GAME in order to get a hot woman. That's why smooth Donald Trump is surrounded by hot women while awkward Mark Zuckerberg is not.

Trump smooth? He can't even speak a coherent sentence. Plenty of rich guys with no "game" are married to hot women. Women find wealth and power more attractive than looks. You must be just getting started in life.

Red Pill Giver wrote:

Dr. Reality wrote:

brains > any other factor

Uh, right. Ask women if they'd rather date Ryan Gosling or some Harvard Professor.

Your example is garbage because there is much more at play than just his looks. There are plenty of people who are more attractive than Ryan Gosling, but they aren't unbelievably rich and famous, as well as well-spoken.

Put a 8/9 guy who is a cocky mattress store manager next to a 5/6 guy who is a chill Harvard professor. Let the girl mingle for 30 minutes or so. Results would be much different.

Like a poster above said.. there is much more to attraction than looks. Is that how someone GETS your attention? Yes. Is that how someone KEEPS your attention? No. In my case, women keep my attention by being well-spoken, motivated, adventurous and kind. For others, it will differ - maybe being able to show off your hot (but annoying) girlfriend is enough - but not for most.

Appearance deteriorates with time. Marry someone you can stand to be around or it's never going to last. You're not going to be banging 24/7.

Dr. Reality wrote:

brains > any other factor

Women under 30 don't give two f--ks about money.

i don't know what the h--k they are thinking when they go out with guys. some guys are poor, stupid, ugly, short, uneducated, or criminals and they get ok shorties.

Red Pill Giver wrote:

ABC - always be closing! wrote:

The exception to this rule is gold-digging women, who will marry a troll for $$$

Close, but not entirely accurate. The rich man must still have GAME in order to get a hot woman. That's why smooth Donald Trump is surrounded by hot women while awkward Mark Zuckerberg is not.

Mark Zuckerberg is faithful to his wife, whereas I'm guessing that Donald Trump has not been his whole life.

Yeah, so much better to be faithful to your plain jane rather than banging BOTH your hot wife AND a bunch of side pieces. Just make sure you also submit to her silly religion as well to prove your betahood.

Cmon dude wrote:

Red Pill Giver wrote:

Close, but not entirely accurate. The rich man must still have GAME in order to get a hot woman. That's why smooth Donald Trump is surrounded by hot women while awkward Mark Zuckerberg is not.

Mark Zuckerberg is faithful to his wife, whereas I'm guessing that Donald Trump has not been his whole life.

It's been said here before:

Smart, sane, good-looking

Pick 2.

I only dated three women in my adult life before marrying.

The first was stunningly beautiful, a ballet dancer, very smart and funny. But she was borderline militantly feminist. By herself she was great company but around her friends are her mom, you'd think I was her mortal enemy.

Second was a very pretty redhead, and true to legend, a real fireball in the sack. Also very smart, but no sense of humor, and extremely emotional and often angry. She loved to nag.

The third became my wife. Gorgeous, smart, funny. Loves animals. Doesn't want kids. Friendly. We've been together eight years and never one have we had a fight. We've had disagreements and discussions, but never a fight. She's a real winner.

My advice to anyone who wants to get married is start dating the best friend you have that you're sexually attracted to.

I'll admit that's pretty much what I did. My wife is the most attractive person I have ever dated. She's also, thankfully, the one I get along with the most.

The problem is in your title. There is a big difference between dating and marrying.

I dated all kinds of people. And yes, that included some pretty hot women. Contrary to stereotypes there were a couple hot women I dated who were also smart. But ultimately having the same values about life, communication in the relationship etc should determine who one marries. No one wants to marry someone they are completely un-attracted to physically, but those other things can make even an "average" looking person look way more attractive.

When I met my wife to be, we would have these 9 hour conversations and be surprised where the time suddenly went. We just "clicked". I'm sure the picky people here on LR would rate her a 7 in looks but I completely fell in love and rate her a 10.

I will bet the OP has not been married.

ABC - always be closing! wrote:

That's what dating is - lots of pretension about finding the "right fit" but 90% of comes down to snagging the most attractive woman (or man) that is also attracted to you. The exception to this rule is gold-digging women, who will marry a troll for $$$

Nope. I'd rather date a guy who really makes me laugh and is kind than a hot guy who is inconsiderate and an ass.

One night stand would be a different story..

I don't know man, I married my wife because of her wit and charm. Her supermodel looks were just a bonus! Just like she married me because of my 160 IQ. The 13:00 5k and 800k a year were just a bonus.