Help me to difffuse this incredibly awkward holiday situation

Can I stay at your mom's house for a few days?

Regular Poster wrote:

True story: My buddy Jason lost his virginity to his stepsister. She was 19 (and actually really good looking) and he was 14. He has 2 DUIs now. There is a moral in here somewhere. Sucks about your parents, tho.

The moral is Do Not Drink and Drive

Jive Turqy wrote:

You're just skipping over the part where OP tells his mom not to tell the boyfriend about the dad staying over? It wasn't his problem until he counseled his mother to deceive his roommate.

Messy boundaries all around. This shouldn't be OP's business. And an ex-husband couch surfing one night shouldn't be anything anyone cares about.

I'm pretty sure there's more chaos going on that could turn this into a legendary thread.

Precious Roy wrote:

You just have to accept the fact that your parents are just regular people who will do stupid things and have problems in their relationships. That is not your problem and never should be.

You seem like a smart guy, PR.

OP should not have advised his mom to keep a secret from her SO, which makes it seem like she has something to hide; she, in turn, should not have taken her son's advice, or even solicited it.

OP, I'd address boundary issues with your mom first and foremost. It makes me feel a little sad that she came to you, who has a clear conflict of interests, on this.

Happy holidays.

ScottEvil wrote:

OP should not have advised his mom to keep a secret from her SO, which makes it seem like she has something to hide; she, in turn, should not have taken her son's advice, or even solicited it.

OP, I'd address boundary issues with your mom first and foremost. It makes me feel a little sad that she came to you, who has a clear conflict of interests, on this.

Happy holidays.

OP said he gave his mom advice after she told him his dad was staying. Not that she asked for advice. Or am I misinterpreting that?

Either way, OP should not have told the boyfriend that his dad was staying with his mom after advising his mom not to inform the boyfriend.

Help!! wrote:

It's a long and complicated story, so I'll just give the cliffs

-parents divorced a long time ago, but are amicable.

-dad lives far away

-dad flew into town for christmas, asked to stay with my mom for one night before he moved into a hotel

-mom has been seeing a guy for a long time. I'm currently living with him. when she told me my dad was staying with her last night, I told her bad idea, but if he does, don't tell her boyfriend. she didn't tell him.

- mom's boyfriend found out about dad sleeping over and is pissed and hurt that she didn't tell him.

I feel caught in the middle.

Is this really an actual family?

Seems to me your mom holds the key.

the truth seems to have always worked in my life. then you don't have to try to remember your lies.tell the truth and then just deal with it.

get used to it.. wrote:

If this actually happened, you caused it. You told her to not tell him. Why didn't your mom's boyfriend stay with your mom and your dad stay with you at your moms boyfriends place?Dumba$$es.

EXACTLY what I was thinking. I'm looking forward to more details...

Nfkndmdd wrote:

I too have plowed your mom

Well, she told me you weren't exactly a plow king. And your icicle melted so fast..

knox harrington wrote:

Not much you can do now besides wait for this to slide into the past.

Lesson learned, that was bad advice.

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Great thread. Keep it rolling. OP - just because your mom's boyfriend is bi doesn't mean he lacks the male ego. You need to do something nice for him, but don't keep it secret from mom.

So, are your mom and your roommate still together?

get used to it.. wrote:

If the dad's son is staying there why the hell not?

spouse swapper wrote:

Dad stays at mom's boyfriends place.... I guess that makes sense.

Well because he might forget that his real dad is there and nail him by accident.

Help!! wrote:

It's a long and complicated story, so I'll just give the cliffs

-parents divorced a long time ago, but are amicable.

-dad lives far away

-dad flew into town for christmas, asked to stay with my mom for one night before he moved into a hotel

-mom has been seeing a guy for a long time. I'm currently living with him. when she told me my dad was staying with her last night, I told her bad idea, but if he does, don't tell her boyfriend. she didn't tell him.

- mom's boyfriend found out about dad sleeping over and is pissed and hurt that she didn't tell him.

I feel caught in the middle.

If I was watching this on Maury, I would guess that you are actually your own father.

How long did you spend on creating this novel?

Did your Dad hit that like the good ol' days?

Your dad should have stayed with you.

I thought mom had learned her lesson and her boyfriend had cooled off, but I just found out

-that mom decided not to go out with him tonight because she is "sick"

-boyfriend suspects dad has made plans to stay at mom's place tonight

-dad mentioned he was flying out in two days but was vague as to where he was staying

-mom's boyfriend wants to show up unannounced

Not sure what to do.

Help!! wrote:

I thought mom had learned her lesson and her boyfriend had cooled off, but I just found out

-that mom decided not to go out with him tonight because she is "sick"

-boyfriend suspects dad has made plans to stay at mom's place tonight

-dad mentioned he was flying out in two days but was vague as to where he was staying

-mom's boyfriend wants to show up unannounced

Not sure what to do.

Why won't you address the issue of you living with your moms boyfriend?

This thread is useless without moving pics.

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