lunar looney wrote:
No better time than the present to move on, seriously. You should have made your escape the moment the verbal abuse began. There's no excuse for verbal or physical abuse no matter how angry or emotionally hurt she may be feeling.
Sorry to hijack this thread, but it's been helpful reading everyone's posts.
I appreciate the dialogue. I normally post here on occasion using a different handle, but want to hide my identity.
Anyway, deciding to leave your wife is a big decision and I've been seeking advice from certain family members and reading a lot online about abusive marriages/relationships. Borderline Personality Disorder is something I read a lot about, but not sure if my wife has all the traits. She definitely has a form of OCD which rears its ugly head in our home - she's constantly cleaning day and night (our place is immaculate despite having 2 dogs). Yes, I help out, but it's never good enough for her. She has to recheck everything I do even though it's just fine.
We rarely cook at home for fear of "making a mess". We rarely have people over for the same reason. Whenever we argue, she never apologizes and it's always my fault. I've been walking on eggshells for years and finally decided to say, "F___ it! I don't care anymore".
She hates my newfound confidence in standing up to her BS and as a result, she's gotten pretty violent on two or three occasions.
2017 should be an interesting year for me.