Women I date end up trying to boss me around and get mad when it doesn't work.

Jamin??

Not jamin. He hasn't even dated a girl much less for 6 months.

OP: they sense you are submissive to their agenda and are trying to install you as a beta male/worker bee to do their bidding. The solution is to dominate the frame from the very first contact, and to walk away if they don't comply.

Females are beautiful in so many beautiful ways, and that means that they are also totally mental. Bonkers. Bananas. Loopy.

As a reference, my GF texts me every day about how sexy and smart I am; I respond to maybe 1:4 of her texts. We only meet when I feel like it. She has been head over heels for years now like this. She would as soon chop off her right arm as give me drama or BS. Girls give you the respect that you feel deepest in yourself. Pretty F'n deep in my case.

Trudat wrote:

As a reference, my GF texts me every day about how sexy and smart I am; I respond to maybe 1:4 of her texts. We only meet when I feel like it. She has been head over heels for years now like this. She would as soon chop off her right arm as give me drama or BS. Girls give you the respect that you feel deepest in yourself. Pretty F'n deep in my case.

While I agree with much of what you said, I don't think it applies to my case because I DO cut the girls out for this crap, and I DO live my own life. That's the issue. I have my own goals and own way living my life, and women always seem to want to change me so that they are always #1 priority. That might be fine for most people, but I am an unconventional person who has done and wants to continue doing extraordinary things (if I can use that term without sounding pompous or arrogant). Women don't really seem to understand these things and get mad that I won't abandon my goals and dedications for them. It's a major problem.

That is exactly like me. I've been with this girl for four years but she left me twice, for up to a year. I let her go no questions asked. She always came back, on my terms, which is no drama, no monogamy, meet on my terms. She now has unconditionally surrendered and is in bliss. I still encourage her to date other guys, but she will never find another like me, and we both know that. And now, in her submission, she is more beautiful than I could have imagined.

It seems quite clear that either you're into bossy chicks or you're a too stubborn to adjust to them. Those two can not coexist. Give up on one.

It is clear that the two overconfident, bragging male posters in this thread are with obese ugly women with Daddy issues and that is why they keep coming back. Any women above a 4 would have high tailed it out of there and said good riddance.

Planting your ass in front of the computer for hours on end while you play angry bird or some other inane game WILL turn on the bossy gene in women. It's a fact. Get up and DO something.

axman wrote:

While I agree with much of what you said, I don't think it applies to my case because I DO cut the girls out for this crap, and I DO live my own life. That's the issue. I have my own goals and own way living my life, and women always seem to want to change me so that they are always #1 priority. That might be fine for most people, but I am an unconventional person who has done and wants to continue doing extraordinary things (if I can use that term without sounding pompous or arrogant). Women don't really seem to understand these things and get mad that I won't abandon my goals and dedications for them. It's a major problem.

No, it's NOT a major problem. It's THEIR problem. Live your life. Move on when needed. No problem.

axman wrote:

This has been a recurring pattern in my life. Generally when I date a girl, things will start off well enough, but once she gets comfortable, maybe after 6 months or a bit more, she'll start trying to boss me around a lot and telling me what decisions I should be making in my life. I don't appreciate this at all and let it be known, but so far it hasn't really worked. They don't stop trying to run my life for me and seem to think I should be their servant or something, and I finally get so tired of it I break up with them. This has happened with four long term relationships so far.

Is this normal at all? Does anyone else experience this?

they sense YOUR passivity and as we all know, nature abhors a vacuum

Trudat wrote:

That is exactly like me. I've been with this girl for four years but she left me twice, for up to a year. I let her go no questions asked. She always came back, on my terms, which is no drama, no monogamy, meet on my terms. She now has unconditionally surrendered and is in bliss. I still encourage her to date other guys, but she will never find another like me, and we both know that. And now, in her submission, she is more beautiful than I could have imagined.

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Please don't take advice from this joker. He is blind and stupid. Being with someone for 4 years while she was away banging other dudes for half of that time is comical. Anyone with any experience knows on and off relationships are a ticking time bomb. This is also an example of a submissive girl who probably has no goals in life except to please men. The OP seems to like girls who are ambitious and overly stuck up. Both of you need to find better girls to date.

I like your response Beefsteak but I also like what Trudat said.

You guys are funny. May want to create a comical duo. You sound like a Mr T type. Trudat would fit nicely.

A lot of women don't have much real power and are insecure about it, so to compensate they become bossy and controlling. They will try and hide it when they meet a man they like initially, because they know that a controlling woman is generally undesirable. They hope they can lure the man into liking them so much that their inevitable controlling tendencies will be ok with the man eventually.

"It Ain't Me, Babe" by Bob Dylan

isoL8 wrote:

A lot of women don't have much real power and are insecure about it

rolmfao

Exactly.https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4d8o8vNTNao

old guy 70 wrote:

"It Ain't Me, Babe" by Bob Dylan

axman wrote:

This has been a recurring pattern in my life. Generally when I date a girl, things will start off well enough, but once she gets comfortable, maybe after 6 months or a bit more, she'll start trying to boss me around a lot and telling me what decisions I should be making in my life. I don't appreciate this at all and let it be known, but so far it hasn't really worked. They don't stop trying to run my life for me and seem to think I should be their servant or something, and I finally get so tired of it I break up with them. This has happened with four long term relationships so far.

Is this normal at all? Does anyone else experience this?

Life and relationships are all about patterns. Most of the time this is a pattern that was learned from our parents. So, it would appear that your mom was a bossy know it all.

Or you are a beta male and haven't realized it and will forever be alone.

isoL8 wrote:

A lot of women don't have much real power and are insecure about it, so to compensate they become bossy and controlling. They will try and hide it when they meet a man they like initially, because they know that a controlling woman is generally undesirable. They hope they can lure the man into liking them so much that their inevitable controlling tendencies will be ok with the man eventually.

This has been the case each time. Had they been their genuine selves early on I would have run the other way. I understand everyone shows only their best sides early in relationships, but these girls were like Jekyll and Hide the contrast was so great. One didn't start going crazy until more than a year into the relationship. I tried working through it with her for 5 months, but it was like she had a severe learning disability or something since I would tell her exactly what the problem was, but she would never make any attempt to stop the behavior that was the problem. What was so strange too is that she was devastated when I dumped her. It was like it came out of the blue in her mind even though I had had three long serious conversations with her about it.

Someone said it's not a problem, it's their problem. Well, it's my problem when I'm dating them and then have to dump them and have wasted 5-17 months of my life.