Donger wrote:
Agreed. But 2 glasses a wine a day is borderline. My advice: Don't drink at work functions.
No it isn't. 2 glasses of wine a day is fine. I am more of a beer guy, and I approve of drinking at work functions, but I think the OP needs to abstain at this party. My reasoning is 100% anecdotal.
My XC team in high school won the state title. We were serious runners and three of our top seven went on to full D1 distance scholarships.
My junior year, we went to an XC invite in the mountains. It was at a University and our coach had a former teammate who taught at the school. So our coach's friend and his wife were going to have us all over for a pre-race pasta dinner the night before the meet. They were so nice to do it, had about 30 kids to their house and made a ton of pasta and salad and other things. Great dinner.
Afterwards, we were all just kind of hanging out and nervously talking about the meet, and we noticed that our coach was having a beer with his friend and a couple of the parent chaperones. It's not like we hadn't seen beer before. Hell, a lot of us drank when we could get our hands on alcohol, but this was different. It was the two worlds colliding and it just seemed funny to us. So we win the invitational the next day and we are staying another night because we had a fun team dinner at a restaurant that night. It was like a 5-hour drive so the coach made a fun weekend out of it.
So at the dinner we see our coach and a few of the parents drinking wine and it was just too much for our stupid, adolescent brains. We started plotting a way to get beer back to the hotel. Sure enough, one of the slow kids has a terrible fake ID but sneaks out of the restaurant and buys two cases of beer at a gas station across the street and puts them on the bus (school activity bus) while we are all still eating. I still remember he threw them in one of the back windows. There are like 6 of us watching him do this out the restaurant window. We get on the bus, hide the cases under the seat and then amid the confusion of getting off the bus, we hide the cases behind a back wheel of the bus and come back for it later. We get it inside and everyone is drinking. This goes on for about two hours until some moron starts running up and down the hallway with a beer and he gets busted by the parents. Coach is furious and lines us all up and tells us that he hopes it was fun because he is going to get fired and probably sued. Girls are crying, guys are feeling terrible. It was a wreck.
We were also a private school, so luckily there were no hard/fast rules about the issue. The parents obviously had the coach's back and he is still coaching. The kid who bought the beer took the punishment and got a 3-day suspension. We didn't get into trouble, but looking back it remains a shameful part of my past.
Your athletes likely know that you drink. They know beer exists. They know their parents and friends drink. They know that drinking in moderation can be healthy. But there is NO REASON you need to bring those two worlds together. It is one little party. Go out immediately after. Hell, go have a few beers before. Don't drink in front of them.