In an online dating profile, how do I convey that running is very important to me without coming across as a jerk?

Should have added: The point I'm trying to make is NOT that you need to find an opposite, it's that you don't have to find someone that matches you. I wouldn't limit myself right off the bat in a dating profile but pointing out just how serious you take running or that you are seeking someone who takes fitness as serious as you. Would you really not date a girl who is perfect for you in every way but doesn't care that you like running, so long as she accepts it?

I've already said it's not so much "running" but just finding someone who values fitness and health as much as I do. Since I run, I thought that would be something I'd put in my profile.

This is not real life wrote:

But other than watching some of the same TV shows, our hobbies don't overlap in the specific sense. Sure, she does yoga and I run, but I still enjoy video games during nap time while she likes to surf the web for leisure, she likes to go out to eat and to a play with her friends while I like to go to punk concerts. We have a few friends in common but mostly have separate friends and interests too.

A tidy, traditional relationship. Gender roles to the rescue!

Sign up on a fitness dating site.

Mind you I know someone who signed up on a Christian dating site. Met a girl who banged him on the first date.

Chicks don't read any of that crap, they just look at your height and photos. Say you're 6'2 and get some professionally shot photos done. After that you can write whatever you want in your profile

".....profile info profile info profile info, I am also an avid/competitive runner. continue your profile information....."leave it at that. one sentence is all you needUnless you are an olymipic trials runner or a professional that structures their entire life about trainng and recovering from training, you shouldn't go out of your way to talk about it. I've seen spouses convert to running because they like being together to run who were previously non-runners. Try to find someone you are compatible with first. Chances are, you'll be their husband/wife longer than a hobby jogger. It probably shouldn't be a pre-requisite. If he/she is interested and asks you about it, it will come up in conversation and then you can say how much you run. Eventually, maybe they will ask how fast and you tell them. You are getting to know them, running isn't who you are (i hope)NEVER say what your best times are unless asked, that's lame.enjoy the single life...

o978 wrote:

Trying to make an online dating profile. I notice that in general, a lot of people will say that they are "very outdoorsy" or "love running/cycling/hiking, etc." but there's a wide range between people who are serious about it and out every day and people who do this once every two weeks. Unfortunately it seems like the latter happens a lot.

I don't want to come across as someone who takes myself too seriously... but I would prefer to date someone who is similarly passionate about something related to fitness. It doesn't have to be running necessarily.

In my profile, how do I come across showing that running is very important to me without looking too one dimensional?

One of the questions on my dating profile was "name five things you can't live without." #1 or #2 on mine was running shoes. A lady noticed that, emailed me, and we started a conversation. The shoes were the only mention of running on my profile, but she was a serious runner too, so it struck a chord.

That was 10 years, 2 kids, and many miles ago. We actually rarely run together, but support each other and still love it. And each other.

Then say that: "Avid runner looking for someone who values fitness and health as much as I do."

You said your concern is:

If that is your concern, what is more important is what is in their profile than yours. If you just go along the lines of the two posts below and keep it casual, you get it out there you run. You can then look for like minded people who also run if you are into that.

I like this approach:

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But then again I'm the guy who swipes left to people who stress how they are obsessed with fitness and working out on their profiles.

For god's sake... sack up, and put in your profile that you're an avid competitive runner. If a chick's not down with that, you don't want to waste time with her anyway.

(drops mic, leaves stage)

The fact you're considering dating a woman says to me you aren't serious about running. I dumped my ex so I could focus on my goals and training.

Would the advice here be different in any way if you're a woman? I have in my profile that I'm an avid runner. However I went on a "run date" with one guy who saw that and said he ran too, and I found out that his "running" was once or twice a week at 9+ min/mile.

Halfcrzy wrote:

I think just saying "passionate about running" is enough. I am a female who is passionate about running and those words alone would intrigue me to learn more. Even just "running" filters out a lot of guys. I remember when I met these two guys who were both awesome runners/athletes in general. I ended up being way more attracted to the one who didn't show it off. He would finish top five in big races and you would not even know it whereas the other one was more intense and into his accolades. But I guess there is a different type of girl who are attracted to that, it just isn't me.

Passionate about running and hot women. That's being honest. WE need to be more honest and to the point, and without all the accolades.

nyc gal 42 wrote:

On OkCupid in my "Most private thing you're willing to admit" section, I've put "I sometimes browse Letsrun.com".

So far no luck with someone recognizing what that means or why I would put it in that section. Some messages about how I must be into running (they probably typed in the Letsrun home page). It would be funny if I got messaged with a Letsrun inside joke but nothing yet... I guess there are not that many Letsrunners on online dating?

Too bad you don't live in CT. nyc is a little too crowded anyways, I like a to have a little space with my gal. and not share it with some smuck having a some fancy wine at the next table. Maybe just a quiet evening next to the river on the bench overlooking the river and the day turns to dusk and the city lights reflect off the water. Not much else you need, except a good gal who appreciates this and away from the bustle of the city.

Honesty and humor are good to get noticed.

Once on a date, try listening and showing interest. A lot of people don't do these very flattering things.

As a guy that's been married almost 15 years I think this is hilarious. For one, interests are highly temporal. What matters to you in your 20's doesn't mean shit when you're 30, etc. I was a serious runner at 20. Now I'm a father. Figure out why running means something to you. Most of the stuff I'm passionate about mean little to my wife and that's perfectly fine. Even if you are deep into running she doesn't need to be your training partner. Are you really running the other direction from someone who might be passionate about swimming / cycling / Pilates?

Para the Cynical

Write down that you run every day.

That's all you need to say.

Simple! Your profile pic is of you running! It's that simple!!! End of discussion.

nyc gal 42 wrote:

Would the advice here be different in any way if you're a woman? I have in my profile that I'm an avid runner. However I went on a "run date" with one guy who saw that and said he ran too, and I found out that his "running" was once or twice a week at 9+ min/mile.

Curious, why should that matter? I would prefer a guy who gave an effort of running vs someone trying to match my speed or mileage. Personality, sense of humor, intellect and in good shape (not necessarily in running) would be ideal.