Snooped through gf phone

This relationship sounds like a wonderful piece of work. Please, get married so you can come back and entertain us with some more stories.

HelpARunnerOut wrote:

her ex used to check her phone

Read the words you just wrote very carefully.

It was 2 years ago.

booooo wrote:

HelpARunnerOut wrote:

haha ok, i feel really stupid. I confronted my gf about it. The old messages were from me. She had a fake name for me in her phone because her ex used to check her phone and she hadn't changed it yet. She was actually pretty cool about the whole thing, but now she thinks I'm nuts for checking her old phone. Anyway. Thanks for the insights everyone.

Troll. There is no way those messages wouldn't have been familiar to you, since YOU were the one conversing with her.

4/10 since you got 4 pages before revealing yourself as a troll.

HelpARunnerOut wrote:

It was 2 years ago.

booooo wrote:

Troll. There is no way those messages wouldn't have been familiar to you, since YOU were the one conversing with her.

4/10 since you got 4 pages before revealing yourself as a troll.

No one is that dumb. When reading the texts you would know if she was talking to you, about things that you had taken part in. Troll.

booooo wrote:

HelpARunnerOut wrote:

haha ok, i feel really stupid. I confronted my gf about it. The old messages were from me. She had a fake name for me in her phone because her ex used to check her phone and she hadn't changed it yet. She was actually pretty cool about the whole thing, but now she thinks I'm nuts for checking her old phone. Anyway. Thanks for the insights everyone.

Troll. There is no way those messages wouldn't have been familiar to you, since YOU were the one conversing with her.

4/10 since you got 4 pages before revealing yourself as a troll.

Plausible scenarios:

1) PNSO has already set in and he didn't remember she used to be more "into it."

2) Sexting texts of his body are no longer familiar.

3) He was cheating on her and all the sexting got jumbled up.

I doubt they will actually get divorced...Huma seems co ck whipped.

boomheadshot wrote:

HelpARunnerOut wrote:

her ex used to check her phone

Read the words you just wrote very carefully.

+1

also, can you verify you sent these messages? she just sounds like an incredibly adept cheater.

I would ditch her immediately. You will never be able to trust her so you can never have a real relationship. When you meet the right person, you don't cheat on them. You are not the right person for her so she is not the right person for you. I hate to be killjoy but that is the solid truth. Move on.

ABSOLUTELY NO QUESTION, give her the boot. I've ran into this before. I was suspicious and had every reason to believe my ex was being shady. Was bestfriends with a dude on Snapchat (while that was still around) when were official and her ex. I wouldn't asked her but she was being shady and was lying I felt like about this guy on her top friends being "just a friend". She feel asleep one night and I snooped through her Twitter dm's and sure enough, flirting, number exchanging going on. I let it slide (stupid me) because I really liked her and hoped she would change. Plus women get super mad when they find out guys do stuff like this so I just thought I would avoid a big fight. But hey? Don't be unloyal and there's nothing to worry about people. Anyway, if she's unloyal then, she most likely still is now. I learned that the hard way. Sad thing is, this chick dumped me down the road and treated me like crap, ignored me, and I did nothing wrong to her. It's like she changed overnight. I was the best guy she had ever been with, she told me this 7 months later after dumping me for a guy I knew she'd go after. Turned out she found out he was a total dbag and tried coming back to me. Snooze you lose honey. Definitely gotta show her the door. You'll find a gal one day that will truly respect you and your feelings. Don't waste them on someone who is unloyal.

Stone Cold wrote:

ABSOLUTELY NO QUESTION, give her the boot. I've ran into this before. I was suspicious and had every reason to believe my ex was being shady. Was bestfriends with a dude on Snapchat (while that was still around) when were official and her ex.

Snapchat is over? You kids, you drop it like it is hot all the time.

HelpARunnerOut wrote:

Attn: How or do i even confront my girlfriend? I made the classic mistake of looking through her old phone while she is away and found messages regarding a single instance of infidelity just a few months after we started dating. We have been together for almost two years now. LetRun ethicists, what should I do?

I looked at my old boyfriend's phone and I did it because I felt in my gut that he was lying to me. We met on a dating website and I found out he was still setting up dates with women all the while he was dating me. And he was also texting his former girlfriend and also telling a couple of his friends about 3 women (including me) who were pursuing him.

If your gut tells you to check, this is NOT a good sign. Go with your gut. If you find out the person is lying and/or still trying to meet other people while you're in an exclusive relationship, leave immediately.

Oh, man. You alone make your problems. What for do you date with her, if you even don't trust her? Or will you say, that you wanted to check her phone not because of suspicions? Phh, man. First, you should remember if in these SMS there were some sexting massages, if you don't know what is it, then just check some examples - https://vivmag.com/49-sexting-examples-to-turn-any-men-on-fast/ . If there were some of them, then it's better to break this relation, because people don't change, and if she made these ones, she will make it twice and will hurt you more.

tough decision wrote:

It was a long time ago, if you can let it go, let it go. Let it go forever, forget all about it.

If you think it's going to gnaw at you forever, confront her soon, don't let it fester.

If you opt for the latter solution DO NOT let her turn the tables and make it about you snooping at her phone, what you did was kind of crummy, but doesn't rise to the level of infidelity.

Don't try coming up with some nutty parallel construction ruse to try and convince her that you found out through some other means than snooping at her phone. You'll make it too complex and unbelievable and it will blow up in your face. Take the heat for looking at the phone, and press the infidelity.

This.

Go ahead and cheat yourself . The odds of getting caught are like getting caught doping . Reach into your vagina and pull out your ball sack bro . ??

Someone actually wrote an article about texts that girls can send to turn on guys?

That's real tough.

Since you're a beta, let it go and pretend it never happened. Buy her flowers.

The post is over 3 years old. Would be great to hear if that relationship is still going.