More teachers are having sex with students. Should teachers be banned from friending students?

Several teachers I know who taught years ago would actually say it was way more common back in the day and not even frowned upon.

There were teachers at my high school who had children with students and kept right on teaching.

Two colleagues of mine ended up marrying students. This was long before social media. We have about 35 teachers on staff. Do the math

He won in 1983 (2:17:45 -- age 28) and 2001 (2:28:28 -- age 46).http://www.runnersworld.com/masters/farley-simon

Where was this stated ? wrote:

When did he win?

What were his times ?

Southbound 35 wrote:

Former Marine and two time winner of the Marine Corps Marathon

http://www.wfaa.com/news/crime/irving-teacher-60-arrested-for-improper-relationship-with-student-17/50739893

Yes, any teacher that is "friends" with their students on social media is asking for trouble. It's an unnecessary step towards temptation. Why put yourself there?

Any communication should be in a public group. Same thing if you're married, any private communication with someone of the opposite sex is just unnecessary.

The future is transparency. Speaking of transparency why do the brojos keep on deleting threads without any explanation? I was enjoying a thread about a guy who got laid off his job, now deleted. WTF? Being secretive is a perverted old man move. Be part of the future bros

When I went into teaching in 1984 we were told to never be alone with a student, to keep the door open if a student enters the room. They should now add that you should stay off Facebook, Instagram or whatever kids have now. As posted above teams should have public sites for communication.

Adolescent boys and girls sometimes have crushed on their teachers and coaches. Don't be vulnerable, don't allow yourself to be accused

off base wrote:

The number of teachers having sexual relations with students is way up over the last five years.

Citation needed! Do you have any evidence for this?

gigfan wrote:

off base wrote:

The number of teachers having sexual relations with students is way up over the last five years.

Citation needed! Do you have any evidence for this?

Of course he doesn't. Totally made up.

Coach wrote:

Any teacher who friends students or spends time alone with them is an idiot.

This is spot on. I teach high school, and am a male teacher. I will not be in a room alone with a kid, nor I will not accept friend requests from students until they graduate, and then only because I know many of their families well, and many of my former students still ask me for help on their papers, etc. when they get to college.

I am hyper-aware of the accusations that can be made, especially as I am youngish, fit, and not terribly ugly. And while I understand that a lot of guys on the outside think it would be hard not to feel attracted to students, I can say, from my standpoint at least, it is not. Being around these kids daily is such a reminder that they are just that: children. They may not all look it, but they very much so are. The stuff they say and do is so absurd that anyone who finds them attractive would have to have some issues IMO. And besides that, I take pride in being a solid role model. I know there is a lot of hate for teachers on Letsrun, but I do believe it is a job with a great deal of responsibility and influence, and I want to go home at the end of the day knowing I could have a net positive impact on society.

They're called boundaries wrote:

Any communication should be in a public group. Same thing if you're married, any private communication with someone of the opposite sex is just unnecessary.

That is insane.

Do you have no female friends or colleagues? Do you communicate with your same-sex friends and colleagues only in public groups?

It sounds like you don't trust yourself if you need to set up extreme rules like "no direct messages" with ALL women.

I graduated in 2002, so a little before social media was a thing. Did hook up with my teacher a few times who also happened to be my XC coach. Wasn't a big deal then. Isn't a big deal now.

That's what I like about those high school girls man...I get older, they stay the same age...

...yes they do...

off base wrote:

The number of teachers having sexual relations with students is way up over the last five years. Right now we are at about one new student/teacher sexual relationship per school day. Many people are blaming the increase on teachers having social media connections with students. Some schools already have bans on teacher/student electronic communications and many others are looking into it.

I'm not sure how I feel about this. I hate the idea of banning technology, but I also don't think a teacher should be buddies with their students.

How do you feel?

I knew of a teacher who got to abuse a student, even other girls and teachers knew about it and did nothing. This was like 12 years ago though.

j'aime les peeps wrote:

off base wrote:

The number of teachers having sexual relations with students is way up over the last five years. Right now we are at about one new student/teacher sexual relationship per school day. Many people are blaming the increase on teachers having social media connections with students. Some schools already have bans on teacher/student electronic communications and many others are looking into it.

I'm not sure how I feel about this. I hate the idea of banning technology, but I also don't think a teacher should be buddies with their students.

How do you feel?

I knew of a teacher who got to abuse a student, even other girls and teachers knew about it and did nothing. This was like 12 years ago though.

Got to?

+1

Ackley wrote:

He won in 1983 (2:17:45 -- age 28) and 2001 (2:28:28 -- age 46).

http://www.runnersworld.com/masters/farley-simon

Where was this stated ? wrote:

When did he win?

What were his times ?

Whoa thanks !

I guess the 83 time would have made him an 84 Olympic trial qualifier .

gubyenletsrun wrote:

To the "volunteer coach" higher up on the thread...please don't coach. It sounds as if you were not able to relate to the girls at all because they were attractive to you. Also, I doubt they were attracted to you. Get over yourself.

What a stupid and douchey thing to say. A single 22-year old guy finding an 18-year old attractive isn't abnormal. I was self-aware enough to never allow inappropriate situations develop. Plus, people change over time. I'm in my 30s, happily married with kids (and less attractive). Coaching a girl's team wouldn't be a problem for me at this point.

Don't be such a douche, man.

This is going back a decade or two. In the Catholic school in my hometown, one of my friends during his senior year started dating an eighth grader. She was very mature for her age, the parents were alright with it, etc. It was pretty normal dating stuff. He graduates and immediately enrolls in college over the summer with a goal of graduating in 3 years by going year-round. He continues to come home and date while she is going thru the rest of her high school years. He graduates in December of her senior year. Unfortunately, he gets hired as a music teacher in a small town a county over. Can not date her anymore!!! She attends her senior year prom with someone else. They were married the summer after she graduated high school. They are still married with 3 great kids. No one talks about their age difference of 4 years.

Analyzerr wrote:

They're called boundaries wrote:

Any communication should be in a public group. Same thing if you're married, any private communication with someone of the opposite sex is just unnecessary.

That is insane.

Do you have no female friends or colleagues? Do you communicate with your same-sex friends and colleagues only in public groups?

It sounds like you don't trust yourself if you need to set up extreme rules like "no direct messages" with ALL women.

Ah you beat me to it! Yes that is totally insane. No private communication with the opposite sex hahahaahaha. that person has been watching a few too many victorian england dramas.

It's there now. They say don't friend until 5 years after graduating HS.

It's there to cover their ass, not be enforced though.

Just don't be a creep.