Anyone date a girl with borderline personality disorder? Were there any early warning signs?

You're my F-ing hero. Not kidding.

If anyone in a relationship sees parallels to guys out of a relationship with a BPD girl, please leave the relationship as soon as you can. The sooner the better. Do not wait.

It's prison. Especially if you love her. But you can escape. It's only a matter of choice.

I left my BPD fiance 3 times only to come back and leave her again for good the fourth time.

You may think you can help her but you can't. She doesn't want your help. You may think she won't survive without you, but you can't truly live with her.

Please. I'm still hurt by everything I went through but I'm so blessed to now have my freedom. We're all runners here. Find the peace in yourself by lacing them up and bettering your own body and mind. The trail is yours to enjoy.

Freebird

Ask Brad Pitt or the friends and family of Phil Hartman.

+1 Had a run-in with a Narcissistic man. Wow it was like dodging land mines hidden in the same. Ridiculous expectations in terms of commitment and the relationship right off of the bat. Very controlling and in CONSTANT need of praise, attention and affirmation. If you are not careful your self-esteem and sense of reality can be permanently affected dealing with these types. I got away about 6 months in but I have a good friend who married and had kids with a guy like this and its been HELL. I think she's close to really leaving now as her youngest is heading off to college after this year. You can have compassion and sympathy for these types but please do it from afar!!! Do not engage and if you do get out ASAP!!!

Well, this one girl I met said she really liked to read this forum, so I took that as a warning sign for some sort of serious personality disorder.

Dude bro, First, you said make a list. Then you said "you've got to go with your gut. And your heart." If I am am supposed to go with my gut and heart, why make the list?

I wish my brother had your sack--he's been married for almost 30 years to a woman who has all of the classic BPD characteristics, it has been hell on earth for him, and I think he is actually going insane from the constant psychological pressure of trying to preserve to outward appearance of a happy relationship. Thank god has she stopped coming to most of the family events, though I am sure she'll find a way to make a grand entrance soon, since I haven't seen her since last Christmas.To all you youngins out there, heed the advice of this thread--RUN from BPD!!!

I know a guy w BPD. He actually took a vid of his children's mother going down on him and then he sent it to her mother, his mother, his sister and brother and the girl's therapist. He's a real piece of work. He's kidnapped one of their children and done countless other things. Ask any therapist, stay away from anyone and everyone w BPD.

All of us that have been in a relationship with a BPD share histories that are remarkably similar. Those of who are lucky realize that the only solution is to cut your losses and RUN (shout out Phil Hartman, and thank you, Joe Rogan for preserving Phil's legacy and allowing his tragedy to inspire others, including myself, to RUN). I am near the final stages of divorcing my wife of three years whom I strongly, strongly suspect has BPD. That being said, she refuses to acknowledge any of her horrific acts, including myriad grotesques instances of physical, emotional and sexual abuse. Without that acknowledgement, no diagnosis can be made, and no treatment for her illness will be effective. If your mother had Ebola, would you lie beside her until she passed? Would you require your three year old daughter to perish along with you? To my brothers and sisters, we are with you.

Doclove wrote:

The early warning sign is them being female.

?. Lately, I’ve had patients (males) who were diagnosed w/BPD . Not exclusively a female diagnosis. Nice try.

Wonderful. An entire thread with 70+ posts discussing how to best discriminate against people with mental illness. Maybe the answer is for you all to be strong enough to help instead of judging them and deeming them unfit...

I dated someone who had the same characteristics of your wife. This person gave me an std. Lied pathologically and carries a weapon on their persons all the time. I don’t know if it’s BPD. I believe it’s a form of narcissism. This person has a pattern of seduction and abandonment of partners. Exes can confirm. People who know this person or know of them confirms the pathological lying is real. They’ve never had a real job other than work they receive through family and close friends. They are unable to complete any projects short or long term without intervention. Even education has been an issue. This person can’t finish what they started. This has had an unfortunate impact on their romantic relationships. It’s scary to see my ex around children. I do check in online from time to time cause I’m concerned for the welfare of their new partner and am at a loss of what to do, so I just pray for these future victims. Definitely dodged a bullet for myself. I am receiving therapy for what my ex put me through.

Danger Will Robinson wrote:

Well, this one girl I met said she really liked to read this forum, so I took that as a warning sign for some sort of serious personality disorder.

Indeed.

When my GF says there's something wrong with me, I say "most definitely.."

"After all, I'm here with you." Fortunately, she then laughs at my humor.

LR Lowpoint wrote:

Wonderful. An entire thread with 70+ posts discussing how to best discriminate against people with mental illness. Maybe the answer is for you all to be strong enough to help instead of judging them and deeming them unfit...

You're an idiot. You've never lived with an individual who has BPD. Consider yourself lucky. People here have acknowledged it's a mental illness that's not their fault and it arises from childhood trauma. To repeat what's been said, these people will not accept help and are only a nuisance to society. That is the unfortunate reality. They are walking parasites. They can not be helped. They can be offered help, but those who try to help will be hurt significantly.

Doclove wrote:

The early warning sign is them being female.

There are far more males with BPD than females.

I can't imagine how much of a loser a person must be to be in the relationships described in this thread. Seriously, how pathetic are all of you?

melo seeds wrote:

I can't imagine how much of a loser a person must be to be in the relationships described in this thread. Seriously, how pathetic are all of you?

About the same as your ex.

If you know someone with a mental health issue who seeks to improve and get better, and you are in a relationship with them and have feelings for them, I would recommend talking with them, asking to join them in a therapy session to better understand what they're going through.

I don’t think everyone who is dating a person with mental problems is morally obligated to involve themselves to that degree. In some cases it might be the healthier choice to end the relationship.

A psychologist for Johnny Depp's defense team testified that she evaluated Amber Heard as having Borderline Personality Disorder and histrionic disorder. Must have been quite a marriage between his substance abuse issues and her emotional issues.