Why not go for your regular run as usual, and then use the date run as a second run of the day?
Why not go for your regular run as usual, and then use the date run as a second run of the day?
Tell him youre free 10-11am but need to leave at 11am because of meeting your friend for lunch. Suggest running at the gym.
Meet up at the gym and run on treadmills next to each other. If things are going well tell him your lunch date was cancelled and now your free.
Suggest heading back to your place for a hot tub soak with champagne and back rubs.
I think I know why this is so difficult for the OP. I've dated many many girls. Like I have to use two hands to count them. And I'm 37. So I know a thing or two about women. Anyway, I tend to make women uncomfortable when we go out. In my experience, this is the worst thing in the world for a woman -- to feel uncomfortable. They hate it and they'll do anything to avoid it. In this case, the OP would be VERY uncomfortable having to either a) push a guy who can't keep up for more than a mile, or b) running ahead and leaving a guy who told her to "go on without her." That last date where the guy couldn't keep up and made her run on without him made the OP feel very uncomfortable -- she didn't want to leave him, didn't want to make him feel bad, didn't know whether staying or running away was worse, still wanted a workout herself, etc. So she is terrified of feeling the same way again. Here's my advice: get over yourself. Meet the guy for an easy run on your easy day (or an easy run in the evening if you run in the morning) and try to enjoy it. If it works, great. If not, just laugh about it and suggest to meet up later for coffee. (Or not, if you don't like him.)
I'm a ladies man wrote:
Anyway, I tend to make women uncomfortable when we go out.
Hi, Jamin.
I'm a ladies man wrote:
I think I know why this is so difficult for the OP. I've dated many many girls. Like I have to use two hands to count them. And I'm 37. So I know a thing or two about women.
Wow youre like the horse whisperer of women!
laadies? wrote:
I'm a ladies man wrote:I think I know why this is so difficult for the OP. I've dated many many girls. Like I have to use two hands to count them. And I'm 37. So I know a thing or two about women.
Wow youre like the horse whisperer of women!
More like the whore whisperer.
Paying women to have "casual encounters" with you is not dating.
Old Man Runner wrote:
More like the whore whisperer.
Paying women to have "casual encounters" with you is not dating.
If it's not dating then why do they always ask me if I'm looking for a date?!?!?
I had one come up to me in Vegas and ask me if I was looking for a good time.
I told her sub 15 minutes for a 5K and she just laughed at me.
Okay this thread has been amusing lol I knew at the very least I'd get funny responses.
I'm leaning towards saying we should go for a hike or a run, and picking one of the nice parks around here. I feel like conversation moves more nicely and it is easier to tell chemistry if we are doing something outdoors as opposed to sitting for coffee or lunch. Also if it goes well maybe I could suggest getting coffee afterwards. Also if we do a hike first I can ask more about how much he runs. Idk dont you guys have that thing where you can be attracted to someone but the attraction goes up or down depending on how fit they are?
From reading this thread, it's good to know that runners being autistic isn't just limited to one gender.
schmuck wrote:
Not XY wrote:I'd suggest driving somewhere nice for a run and gently heading off on your separate ways, then meeting up for coffee afterwards.
Wow, the women of LetsRun are as autistic as the men.
This thread is highly entertaining.
Its you who is possibly autistic. Or doesn't have many social skills/much experience with women.
I was being polite, you are meant to be able to read between the lines. Its a common skill amongst social human beings.
I think any reasonably serious female runner hates to be asked to go on a run by someone (be that a guy asking them on a date or a female friend who is "taking up running") unless they have a very, very easy run scheduled for that particular day. Usually with the guys, they assume they can keep up and are fit because 3 years ago they thought about running and did so for 15 minutes. Its embarrassing for both. If you run slower to let them keep up, your run is ruined (and they might assume you want your run ruined on a regular basis). If they are faster than you, your run turns into either an unscheduled tempo run or a demonstration of their physical superiority. If they slow down so as to keep pace with you, it risks coming across as patronising or them as not very serious runners.
All options are potentially annoying. Whereas going for a driver to somewhere with a café is a nice alternative. You get outside, the guy might develop some sense and suggest a walk instead.
The OP sounds interested, other women may vary. I generally find guys who assume they can keep up with you on a run or that you are happy for them to join you are so irritating as to not to make the short list. It would make me even break the nice girl's code of giving a guy a chance, of going out on just one date because a guy has the courage to ask you and then just gently letting him down.
But yes, go ahead and assume that women are autistic instead of just not wanting something. Has that happened to you a lot?
To all the people posting this is fake because it doesn't sound like a girl, the poster never said that they were female.
Just because they say a guys asked them out doesn't mean the OP isn't also a guy.
U mad hun?
brahhh wrote:
To all the people posting this is fake because it doesn't sound like a girl, the poster never said that they were female.
Just because they say a guys asked them out doesn't mean the OP isn't also a guy.
How about when she said:
"Unfortunately I am not trolling and am indeed a woman who has been on this forum for a while."
1. Are you a guy or a girl?
2. Your choices are pretty standard and boring. Come up with an alternate, more stimulating choice and ask him.
He will be able to run your pace and distance or he wouldn't have suggested it. For all you know, your pace will feel like a "jogfest" for him.
The real reason he wants to go for a run is that he wants to try these lines on you:
"Your pace or mine?"
and
"How far do you want to go?"
Do you want to have sex with him? Cuz that's what he's asking.
If you do go to dinner. If you don't friend zone him with a run.
How big is his moose knuckle?
OP,
Where is this magical wonderland where you live, where all I have to do is run 8-min.-mile pace & I get a date?
Free Advice wrote:
He will be able to run your pace and distance or he wouldn't have suggested it. For all you know, your pace will feel like a "jogfest" for him.
The real reason he wants to go for a run is that he wants to try these lines on you:
"Your pace or mine?"
and
"How far do you want to go?"
*clap clap*