A guy asked me out and asked if I wanted to get coffee or lunch or go on a run. Thoughts on this?

Not XY wrote:

I'd suggest driving somewhere nice for a run and gently heading off on your separate ways, then meeting up for coffee afterwards.

Wow, the women of LetsRun are as autistic as the men.

This thread is highly entertaining.

I hope he reads this and realizes that he doesn't actually want to date you because you sound terrible. If you can't go on a slow run with someone for fun, chatting and getting to know them... You sound like a cyclist.

What does it matter if he can't keep up? Laugh about it, finish the run or don't, do something else or don't. He's not trying out to be your new training partner.

Are you sure that this guy is also into guys?

0/10. Comical.

3/10 for effort (because in this culture we celebrate and reward effort).

But he (OP) lost me on the line about not liking small talk. Girls like small talk.

I have to admit the responses here have made me laugh. Unfortunately I am not trolling and am indeed a woman who has been on this forum for a while.

Here's what I'm thinking:

Tell him a run sounds great, or even a hike (gives him a way out and he looks fit enough to be fine on a regular hike). If he wants to run, either say "I usually run this much" or ask him how much he usually runs (good way to gauge how serious/fit he is). Maybe say we could always get coffee afterwards.

Thoughts?

The Golden Corral idea sounds better than a run.

At the very least, you get a free lunch.

getting advice from lrc... wrote:

Tell him a run sounds great, or even a hike (gives him a way out and he looks fit enough to be fine on a regular hike). If he wants to run, either say "I usually run this much" or ask him how much he usually runs (good way to gauge how serious/fit he is). Maybe say we could always get coffee afterwards.

How about suggesting a specific route? "How about a loop of Parkloop park?" or "I like to do a numberofmile run up and down Riverpathrun River?"

OR be like those michelob ultra commercials and do intervals on a track, go back and shower, and then go have michelob ultras

getting advice from lrc... wrote:

Okay let me explain further. A guy asked me out and asked if I wanted to get coffee or lunch or go on a run.

How does he know that you're a runner? How well do you know each other?

I find it odd that someone would ask you out for a run without understanding your running habits. I would personally always opt for a coffee with someone I don't know well. Any kind of exercise tends to be very personal and can involve various forms of nastiness (anything from heavy sweat to gastro issues) that aren't exactly fodder for a great first date.

0/10

Seriously one of the worst attempts I've ever seen. Not even funny either.

We don't know each other very well. We talked once and have mutual friends one of those friends suggested a set up here. I assume this friend was the one who said I ran.

This is the thing about running. There is such a wide range in abilities and someone who just hears that "you're a runner" assumes that running is universal even though "runner" could mean running every day or running once or twice a week.

getting advice for lrc... wrote:

We don't know each other very well. We talked once and have mutual friends one of those friends suggested a set up here. I assume this friend was the one who said I ran.

This is the thing about running. There is such a wide range in abilities and someone who just hears that "you're a runner" assumes that running is universal even though "runner" could mean running every day or running once or twice a week.

Well that settles it then. I'm not sure what answer you're expecting from the forum, because you've already decided that if it's not a good enough workout you don't want to risk the run. So don't. Or lighten up and meet for the run on your easy day. It won't kill you to run a minute over your usual recovery pace if he's not some uberserious hobbiest like you.

No I have no problem with someone being a minute slower than me. But past experiences seem to show that there are people who can't even keep up for a mile or two.

getting advice for lrc... wrote:

No I have no problem with someone being a minute slower than me. But past experiences seem to show that there are people who can't even keep up for a mile or two.

So run for a mile or two.

Why are you making this so difficult?

minong wrote:

getting advice for lrc... wrote:

No I have no problem with someone being a minute slower than me. But past experiences seem to show that there are people who can't even keep up for a mile or two.

So run for a mile or two.

Why are you making this so difficult?

Just don't fvcking run at all. Meet for coffee or a drink or something and have a nice conversation. There, it's sorted. /thread.

If this is real, there's a good reason you're single. Take a HUGE step back and try to enjoy life.

Doesn't seem very long...

getting advice for lrc... wrote:

Doesn't seem very long...

Are you even attracted to this poor sap? You seem a lot more worried about your workout than any potential dating situation.

Just ask him how fast he is. If he is offended, he's too sensitive. I'm surprised no one else has proposed this.

It's a sweet question though; you seem like a nice person. Good luck.