5th date. Went on a picnic with this woman that I like.
We are having a good time and then she takes off her glasses an dvery matter of factly cleans the on my shirt.
She wasn't joking or anything.
This was like 'old hat' to her.
WTF? Clean them on your own damn shirt.
Is this a red flag? Should I be pissed?
Not a troll and this really happened.
I was in shock and didn't know how to respond.
My date cleaned her glasses on my shirt.
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Yes, it's a red flag.
To her if you got pissed by this. -
It's your own fault. You need to stop wearing those fuzzy microfiber shirts.
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Were you wearing the shirt as this happened?
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5th date, yes, it's tacky.
1. She should have used her own shirt if she was wearing one.
2. If she didn't ask first, then rude and presumptuous.
3. Next thing you know she'll be using your couch as a napkin while you're eating.
4. Girl has poor social skills and manners.
5. How old is she? 5? -
Star wrote:
Yes, it's a red flag.
To her if you got pissed by this.
Ding! Ding! Ding! -
If this is your fifth date you should have a lot more information than anybody on this board has about what kind of a woman she is, how compatible she is, etc.
If you think this indicates something significant, then it does. Must not have been very good dates if that is what you are focused on. -
Yes I was wearing the shirt when she napkintized it.
It was a new shirt I bought just for the date.
She was an only child if that offers any clues.
We are both in our 30s.
Thanks for the feedback thus far.
We had fun and made out - but I felt used. -
She tried to take your shirt off. It's nothing to fear.
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doormatt8383 wrote:
We had fun and made out - but I felt used.
You are in your 30s and "making out" on your fifth date...time to up your game. -
What kind of shirt was she wearing? Was it a dress that was not useable, accessible to clean her glasses with?
Tell us what SHE was wearing please. -
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Star wrote:
Yes, it's a red flag.
To her if you got pissed by this. -
She was wearing a halter top type thing. She was laying down. Nothing fancy. My shirt was new from TJ Max.
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Pics of the date?
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Well if her halter top was tight fitting and she couldn't clean her glasses with it, she could have been feeling comfortable enough with you that she'd clean her glasses with your shirt. There's an intimacy about it.
A gesture of knowing each other.
But, if you felt used than perhaps her social queues were off. She could have asked, joked, something to make it feel intimate instead of a gesture that made you uncomfortable.
I would give it another date and see if there's more 'using' or if she's trying to be more intimate and familiar with you. -
Excuse to get your shirt off. You missed the social queue for additional intimacy.
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Mr. Obvious wrote:
doormatt8383 wrote:
We had fun and made out - but I felt used.
You are in your 30s and "making out" on your fifth date...time to up your game.
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If you were indeed wearing the shirt, then this really sounds like an innocent playful/cutesy type of thing. If it seemed strange to you in context, maybe it was. I don't know what you two are like.
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Your shirt was likely dirty and full of lint anyway.
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I only date women with good genetics, so they don't need glasses. So I can't really help you out with this one. Maybe some other people used to dating the lower quality women could give you some advice?
