My date cleaned her glasses on my shirt.

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  • doormatt8383
    3 years ago 06/16/2016 2:50pm CDT
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    5th date. Went on a picnic with this woman that I like.

    We are having a good time and then she takes off her glasses an dvery matter of factly cleans the on my shirt.

    She wasn't joking or anything.

    This was like 'old hat' to her.

    WTF? Clean them on your own damn shirt.

    Is this a red flag? Should I be pissed?

    Not a troll and this really happened.

    I was in shock and didn't know how to respond.
  • Star
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    3 years ago 06/16/2016 2:52pm CDT
    re: doormatt8383
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    Yes, it's a red flag.
    To her if you got pissed by this.
  • Attractive Nuisance
    3 years ago 06/16/2016 3:05pm CDT
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    It's your own fault. You need to stop wearing those fuzzy microfiber shirts.
  • Question please
    3 years ago 06/16/2016 3:09pm CDT
    re: doormatt8383
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    Were you wearing the shirt as this happened?
  • fogging up
    3 years ago 06/16/2016 3:14pm CDT
    re: doormatt8383
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    5th date, yes, it's tacky.
    1. She should have used her own shirt if she was wearing one.
    2. If she didn't ask first, then rude and presumptuous.
    3. Next thing you know she'll be using your couch as a napkin while you're eating.
    4. Girl has poor social skills and manners.
    5. How old is she? 5?
  • pop_pop!_v2.2.1
    3 years ago 06/16/2016 3:22pm CDT
    re: Star
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    Star wrote:

    Yes, it's a red flag.
    To her if you got pissed by this.

    Ding! Ding! Ding!
  • Mr. Obvious
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    3 years ago 06/16/2016 3:25pm CDT
    re: doormatt8383
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    If this is your fifth date you should have a lot more information than anybody on this board has about what kind of a woman she is, how compatible she is, etc.

    If you think this indicates something significant, then it does. Must not have been very good dates if that is what you are focused on.
  • doormatt8383
    3 years ago 06/16/2016 3:35pm CDT
    re: Question please
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    Yes I was wearing the shirt when she napkintized it.

    It was a new shirt I bought just for the date.

    She was an only child if that offers any clues.

    We are both in our 30s.

    Thanks for the feedback thus far.

    We had fun and made out - but I felt used.
  • she wanted the D
    3 years ago 06/16/2016 3:39pm CDT
    re: doormatt8383
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    She tried to take your shirt off. It's nothing to fear.
  • Mr. Obvious
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    3 years ago 06/16/2016 3:41pm CDT
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    doormatt8383 wrote:

    We had fun and made out - but I felt used.

    You are in your 30s and "making out" on your fifth date...time to up your game.
  • napkinhoar
    3 years ago 06/16/2016 3:42pm CDT
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    What kind of shirt was she wearing? Was it a dress that was not useable, accessible to clean her glasses with?
    Tell us what SHE was wearing please.
  • This is all you need to know
    3 years ago 06/16/2016 3:45pm CDT
    re: Star
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    First Responder Award !!!

    Star wrote:

    Yes, it's a red flag.
    To her if you got pissed by this.
  • doormatt8383
    3 years ago 06/16/2016 3:51pm CDT
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    She was wearing a halter top type thing. She was laying down. Nothing fancy. My shirt was new from TJ Max.
  • Mr. Obvious
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    3 years ago 06/16/2016 3:53pm CDT
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    Pics of the date?
  • NapkinHoar
    3 years ago 06/16/2016 3:54pm CDT
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    Well if her halter top was tight fitting and she couldn't clean her glasses with it, she could have been feeling comfortable enough with you that she'd clean her glasses with your shirt. There's an intimacy about it.
    A gesture of knowing each other.
    But, if you felt used than perhaps her social queues were off. She could have asked, joked, something to make it feel intimate instead of a gesture that made you uncomfortable.
    I would give it another date and see if there's more 'using' or if she's trying to be more intimate and familiar with you.
  • Mating Signals
    3 years ago 06/16/2016 4:01pm CDT
    re: NapkinHoar
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    Excuse to get your shirt off. You missed the social queue for additional intimacy.
  • Mating Signals
    3 years ago 06/16/2016 4:02pm CDT
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    Mr. Obvious wrote:

    doormatt8383 wrote:

    We had fun and made out - but I felt used.

    You are in your 30s and "making out" on your fifth date...time to up your game.


    1000 times this!
  • Question please
    3 years ago 06/16/2016 4:10pm CDT
    re: doormatt8383
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    If you were indeed wearing the shirt, then this really sounds like an innocent playful/cutesy type of thing. If it seemed strange to you in context, maybe it was. I don't know what you two are like.
  • Perspective sharing
    3 years ago 06/16/2016 4:45pm CDT
    re: doormatt8383
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    Your shirt was likely dirty and full of lint anyway.
  • sdfsdfsdfsdf
    3 years ago 06/16/2016 4:46pm CDT
    re: Question please
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    I only date women with good genetics, so they don't need glasses. So I can't really help you out with this one. Maybe some other people used to dating the lower quality women could give you some advice?