Are long distance relationships in college worth it?

No. Move on.

Depends entirely on the people involved. Is the relationship worth investing a lot of time, energy and effort on? We did long-distance for 18 months and we're now married. It was hard though.

absolutely not.

You can give it a try for a semester, but odds are that it won't work.

for some they are, for others no. It depends on how often you see each other, how long you've been together, etc.

one of you will cheat on the other in the first 3 months or find someone you want to be with instead and end things

It depends but usually it doesn't work, especially if she is good looking and likes to socialize. The beer starts flowing, she's lonely, and starts getting attention from someone she finds attractive...being 13 hours away means you won't be seeing each other very often.

i did it for 3 years. got engaged. didn't work out. it was for the bestA long-distance relationship helped me devote more time to running and definitely school, which I greatly appreciate in hindsight, but as far as the relationship goes, no, it is not a good idea. when you get together now and then it's hot and exciting, but that's brief and the relationship doesn't grow unless you are on the phone 2 hours a day, which detracts from college big time.i took a year off the long-distance relationship thing and had great sex with some hot girls. Developed great friendships, I even got straight A's. I traveled to Europe for a summer. I also had my running PB's that year, FWIW. My favorite year of collegei wouldn't do long distance. it's my only life regret and I'm generally a very happy happy person

quetzalcoatl wrote:

My high school GF of almost a year and I are going to be attending different schools this upcoming fall. I'm staying in state, and she is going 13 hours away in Florida. I'm posting this because I'm curious if it's even worth it. Do long distance relationships even work?

OP: you will never get any really helpful responses to this.

I could point you to examples of long distance relationships that worked (my in-laws have been married for 35 years now, they started dating in high school and stayed together for 4 years of undergrad and got married immediately after college).

I could also point you to examples of long distance relationships that didn't work (my high school girlfriend and I made it for one year of college before we broke up).

But you know what other relationships sometimes work and sometimes fail? Relationships that aren't long distance! Ultimately it is the relationship that matters, not the distance. The distance between just makes your life suck in some ways, it doesn't make the relationship work or not work. If it was going to fail anyways, it just makes it fail sooner, IMO.

Only you two know what your relationship is really like, although close friends might be able to give you some insight. I wouldn't focus on the distance, but on the relationship itself. Make your decision based on that.

No. Break up and bang all the women you can in college

Nope and especially not when going to college

Stick with the middle distances and long sprints.

Works for me!

What's your 5k PR? What is hers? MPW?

I've worked at a university for 11 years now as faculty, and several years before as staff, in 3 different states. IT's always the same... every year tons of frosh gals come to college with boyfriends and promise rings.... and guys come to school with pics of the hot gal from back home... then over Thanksgiving and Winter break, they make it official and end the relationships. Over/under, I'd say the odds are 90/10 you break up by Christmas next year. That said, there are some folks who make it, and heck, I have a friend who dated long distance all through college, got married after, and they're celebrating their 20 year anniversary soon. So who knows, it's all in the couple as many have said.

I do think your ultra distance will make it harder than the folks who are are 1-2 hrs away. You'll both be having different experiences, different friends... the person who said to grow the relationship you have to spend 2 hrs a night on the phone which is not good for academics or you college experience is right.

If you want to go to college with the GF still "official" try it. No harm, no foul. If you break up over the holidays after first semester, so be it, and if you don't , that's fine too. Assuming yall don't have shared credit cards/phone bills/etc at this point in your life, the "leaving penalty" is low, so do what makes you happy.

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OP: you will never get any really helpful responses to this.

Bzzt! OP got a ton of good advice.

Pause the relationship. You can both go off and date and do all that fun college stuff. No bridges burned, no animosity. Maybe a little later circumstances in life will bring you back together. Maybe not. You want to leave that door open.

Obviously, you will both be sad about it at first, but, life is taking each of you in different directions for now.

Me and my then girlfriend did the whole long distance thing. She went to a college in North Carolina. I'm proud to say we made it through all 4 years and we are now married! We have been together for now 10 years two of which are married and we are welcoming a baby boy in August!

The key to us working is we communicated everyday. We had a set schedule to talk at 9pm every night. We also did 20 minutes in the morning before her class. I will admit it was not easy and my wife almost broke up with me at the end of the third semester but she stayed committed to me. After about year two we decided to stay committed to one another.

Things that you don't do is make it into a texting relationship. You need to actually speak to one another. Also don't get jealous at all. If she wants to go out let her do it. Jealousy destroys a relationship.

If you have any questions let me know. If you want my opinion give it a shot and see where it goes.

quetzalcoatl wrote:

My high school GF of almost a year and I are going to be attending different schools this upcoming fall. I'm staying in state, and she is going 13 hours away in Florida. I'm posting this because I'm curious if it's even worth it. Do long distance relationships even work?

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Hi,

I wonder if it actually worked for you and your gf, cause it didn't for me.. MentalFloss has an excellent article about the science of long distance relationships:

I've been alsways curious about the psychological effects of such relationships, but I was "young and in love" lol

Long-distance relationships are not easy, but if you truly care for your partner and want to continue that relationship post-college, always look forward to that time.

Thinking about our future together kept us going, kept us faithful, and kept us motivated to put in the work. In the end, it was well worth it.

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