Porn addiction - is it affecting your running?
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http://www.stuff.co.nz/sport/other-sports/77589473/new-zealand-olympic-running-star-nick-willis-opens-up-on-pornography-addiction
Kinda brave for him to open up about this. Saw it on facebook.
Bet there's a far few posters on here with the same addiction... -
I count it as cross training.
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Nick Willis says help from his wife, Sierra, has helped him beat his porn addiction.
That's nice of her to help him beat it. -
No, but once in a while it interrupts my Letsrun trolling.
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Its a good way to maintain testosterone levels. Ryan Hall should try it.
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Great quote:
" we decided to beat it together" -
notaddictedtoporn wrote:
http://www.stuff.co.nz/sport/other-sports/77589473/new-zealand-olympic-running-star-nick-willis-opens-up-on-pornography-addiction
Kinda brave for him to open up about this. Saw it on facebook.
Bet there's a far few posters on here with the same addiction...
Good for him, but let's say things that need to be said.
This is oversimplifying the issue.
People need to have an outlet for contemplating and distilling categories of beauty and aesthetics,
Of understanding sexuality, sexual instincts,
Of understanding their past
And of fantasizing.
These three causes overlap but are distinct. Erotica, in ideal infrastructure , could and should do this. But it doesn't today.
First, people are not responsible with technology. Ergo the hijacking of the internet by corporate media conglomerates instituting rigid control, and the propagation of a prevailing cliche un cultured cultural order. In the vacuum of freedom and no leadership, people have fallen into the institutional structure of a stupid new social media culture.
By being irresponsible with technology, they have no value system, and are like mice, taken out of their natural ecology, into a cocaine elver lab experiment.
Christianity and real world brick and mortar social networks can help, but here we have work to do too and Christians today are lazy as h3ll when it comes to understanding sexuality and the theology of sex.
Second, as per the heuristic with lots of art music and culture, 99% is garbage, 70% of the remaining 1% is ok, and 30% of the remaining 1% is very good or transcendent. With the material of pr0n today, most of it is total garbage. So people who do make an effort To find quality Are exhausted when they get there. They have no chance of serving the three causes and operate in blindness, making no progress and falling to the bottom of the ladder again.
Btw If you think that only men face a process and challenge interface like this, you are also wrong.
But that's a topic for next lecture.
Some of us are un married. Some were un married before and in spite of their marriage now, were philanderous little sh1ts previously. Most didn't make any conclusion or triumph, they just moved into something else. Their is garbage leftover.
You can't swing from one pole to the next... Master sexuality and master monogamous devotion and classiness, And you will be prepared and you will balance the equation.
The sexuality is Always there. True diligent folk are rare. Mostly people try to cover their own butts, try to have their cake and eat it, straddle every position so as not to offend anyone and not to be implicated. There are people scheming and listing behind the scenes, and there are those who think they have their lusts in control and are "obeying" (blindly) stock religious morality but their social lives are almost entirely subconscious expression of promiscuous desiring and acquisitive instinct. There is much specific evidence argument and proof of this that will be discussed next time.
There is a need outright to have an outlet for monogamous romance, and a separate sometimes overlapping but distinct need to have refuge from competition and the world, in the domestic setting and to get the benefit of the doubt of purity, innocence and childlike sweetness. But if you confuse these two engagements as being sufficient, rather than occasionally necessary, you are calling a deal done , a work finished, before it is so. Jealousy and ignorance has not yet been slayed and will be reborn. The children and families will create the new mating candidates and structures. Judging from the recent go rounds, there is no compelling reason to think the parents and children (young adults to be) won't repeat the worst mistakes of those of this time and some eras past.
Is it really that difficult to consider a bunch of different worlds together and try to reconcile and make progress? To give a little thought, science and direction to sexual meditations?
Those of strong training and mind must righteously master dark arts. Wizards of tomorrow are needed, as hordes are at the gate. I shall remind you of the horror of the breakdown of civilization, and the non victory here makes the petty greed and winning in the social and dating scenes, look insignificant. In the soil of laziness and conflation, of truth mixed in falsity, demagogues and opportunists are taking root. Constituencies in many camps are morphing into extremism. Everywhere, the microcosms are shaking with volatility, poised for entropy and chaos.
We have equivocated extremist Europeans, equivocated extremist Christians, equivocated extremist pagans, equivocated extremist Muslims, equivocated gangs and cartels, equivocated extremist rural folk, equivocated secular folk. When suspicion and overreaction and chaos build on each other, it will not be a pleasant time to be alive. People are overreacting, people are losing nuance, people are going in excess of what is required, in activities where excess can be destructive and violent versus fruitful and harvesting. -
Jesus lighten up and watch some porn!
if that's what it takes to win an Olympic silver count me in! -
Wait. Willis is a Christian? Why are all the good distance runners Christians or believers in God?
"I am 2.5 years porn free (and it feels AMAZING)," Willis, a proud Christian, posted on his Facebook page. -
I respect Willis a lot for being so open about his issue but what do you do if you are a victim of post nuptial shut off and your wife just flat out no longer wants to have sex? Separation or divorce is not so easy when you have young children.
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I go back and forth on my opinions about porn. Ideally there would be some kind of state-sponsored prostitution as has existed in a few past societies, or at least more realistic sex education. Our society has a huge disparity between what sexual practices are considered acceptable and normal vs what people do in practice. I think porn helps a lot of guys get a peek into the real world of sex that's hidden behind a lot of fairy tales, and these fairy tales of romanticism really do everyone a disservice: the women who can't be honest about their sexual desires and the guys who are clueless because nobody is telling them. There's just layer upon layer of bullshit.
I think maybe a good practice would be to look at porn like a speed workout or something. It's good for learning and developing yourself but too many workouts during racing season are counterproductive. -
I'm 9 days into a quit program.
I really want this to stick.
It has to be bad for you - take a look at this website
http://yourbrainonporn.com/ -
How is watching a clip and rubbing one out such a bad thing? If you aren't getting sex then you gotta get the poison out somehow. Masturbation existed before porn. The imagination is no different. I believe it would only be a problem if it was interfering with the real thing or taking precedent over other life duties. Other than I that it's a great start or finish to a day
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Well this is weird
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I wonder what kind of porn he was into?
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He made some very good points. Respect him for the post and for him recognizing how many women are hurt by porn - not just a spouse/girlfriend, but the women/young girls exploited by the industry. Just a sad, sick industry.
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Wow I can't believe he said that. I know he's talked about his drinking issues when he first started at Michigan in the past but I'm surprised he thought it beneficial to come clean publicly about this given he's been "clean" 2 and a half years.
Is that a legit website. I feel like its a New Zealand version of the onion. -
Talk about needing to rub a couple out......go take care of business before you hurt yourself.
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Just checked his facebook and I guess this is legit.
https://www.facebook.com/nickwillisnz?fref=ts -
Snape_Dark_Arts_Course wrote:
notaddictedtoporn wrote:
http://www.stuff.co.nz/sport/other-sports/77589473/new-zealand-olympic-running-star-nick-willis-opens-up-on-pornography-addiction
Kinda brave for him to open up about this. Saw it on facebook.
Bet there's a far few posters on here with the same addiction...
Some of us are un married.
Do ya think? Jeez!