why is a mans height such a big deal to women?

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Not all women care about it.

I'm 5'6", my ex gf was 5'10"

We looked like this -

https://multmetric.com/?person0=0-Me-168-%23F5C9B3&person1=1-my%20GF-179-%23A464EF&currentMetric=ft

But who cares? We felt OK with it

I had a relationship with a 5'7" guy and although I'm onpy 5'3" and a size 8 myself, I did almost feel like I was with a dinky toy. He was a runner and small and lean but also seemed a bit... fragile. That might have been purely down to how he acted but it was a very different feeling from my other boyfriends who were all 6' or more. He also slept around and in the end, that led us to split up, although in retrospect I was too tolerant of his other "issues", including him kind of hiding behind being somehow a bit fragile in order to excuse his cheating.

So now as a result, I turn down shorter guys as I associate it with being messed around/them feeling unmasculine and having to price themselves more with multiple women. Or at least I was previously attracted to short guys because I thought it seemed to fit well with my own height, whereas now, I don't even look at them.

My college teacher was a short Asian guy, and his theory was based on migration periods, where a new population moved into an area and gradually replaced the old. in a lot of places, this was a European population replacing an indigenous, Asian descended population, whose ethnic features included being shorter, more muscular and less gracile. So tallness is looked upon favourably as its the trait associated with the conquerers.

Manny the Manlet here. As a middle-aged Manlet, I can tell you with complete confidence that height is a huge factor. Being 5-6 I was restricted to dating much shorter women - usually the ones 5-2 or less. Women like to wear heels when they go out (I don't blame them - women look so sexy in heels) and therefore a 5-3 or so woman with 3 inch is as tall as me! Most women want their man to be taller than them - a few inches taller at least. It's been that way forever.

So, my dating pool prospects are limited when you're restricted to shorter women (it's seems like women are so much taller these days). I've met women taller than me that we've had so much in common and think so much alike only to be rejected because I was shorter than them (many wanted to just be "friends" because we had so much in common).

Now, there are exceptions - the big one being money $$$$ and high-social status. If you're wealthy with high-social status, you could be a 5-0 shorty and get gorgeous, hot women (we see this all the time with Hollywood stars). But realistically, these women are only interested in your money and if the money were to dry up they're hightailing it out-of-there! Lol.

I don't blame women one bit. What woman doesn't want a nice, tall masculine "Alpha" male that she can hang on to his arms and be proud when they go out. 🥰.

But I'm telling you fellow Manlets - it's tough sledding out there! Us Manlets have to compete with a smaller pool of shorter women. In the next life I'm going to be a 6 footer! Lol.

https://youtu.be/FTm0CQWZPio

Manny Manlet wrote:

Women like to wear heels when they go out (I don't blame them - women look so sexy in heels) and therefore a 5-3 or so woman with 3 inch is as tall as me!

https://youtu.be/FTm0CQWZPio

Most women don't wear heels to be "sexy", they wear them to look thinner because they elongate your frame. Very few women want to "look sexy" as opposed to looking stylish, attractive and slim. "Looking sexy" is generally something only hookers or porn stars aspire to as most women simply want to get to know a guy first before having sex with him.

You will get those desperate women who respond to the "you look sexy" comments and some others who ignore them but hate them, but its honestly so easy for women to have sex with a guy and so dangerous out there in terms of possibly being raped or sexually assaulted that "looking sexy" really isn't something in any way aspirational.

And whats with all these guys who can't date women with well paying jobs and assume women are chasing after their $60-80k annual income? Do you never actually meet professional women or something?

In terms of things that put me off men, height isn't at the top. Its sleeping around and cheating that is the thing me and my friends try our hardest to avoid. Shady guys are out.

help me understand wrote:

I never understood this

Because the female world conspired against you shorter guys by getting together at their world general body meeting in Prague and passing Article 98471 resolutely declaring their commitment to the pursuit of male height.

help me understand wrote:

I never understood this

Because as they say: tall height, long peepee.

Perhaps it's the subconscious association with "good genetics." This viewpoint subconsciously perceives that the man is more capable/successful and the offspring will be desirable. It's of course not necessarily true but women have been preconditioned to think a certain way for a while. They are emotionally charged beings and also security seeking beings. A taller height could also be subconsciously perceived as more capable of heeding that female need for a sense of security.

Don't know how these things get found and bumped after 5 years, but I'll go.

Attractiveness on an instinctual level is based on the drive to procreate. So markers of sexual maturity and health are attractive.

Boobs and shapely hips signal to a man that a woman has gone through puberty and can make a baby. Add to that looking young and healthy and that's a prime baby mama.

For women, height and muscles signal that the boy has reached manhood and can impregnate her and furthermore can protect and provide for her. Men in general are taller and bigger than women, so instinct identifies that as being manly. For women, if a man has a strong personality and is perceived as a leader, that also signals that he could be a good head of the family. Short, ugly successful guys also tend to get their choice of women.

So height and physical attractiveness are part of the equation but not the whole equation. It's more complicated for women than for men, but the instinct is there.

My grandmother and my sister are both taller than their husbands and I'm sure we all know couples where an attractive woman is paired up with a shorter guy.

C'mon now....not all of them wear heels to look thinner & elongate their frame. Lol. I recently got "friendzoned" for being too short by a very attractive marathon runner who is 5-8 (I'm barely 5-6. Lol). She wears 3 inch heels with her short skirts and told me it's for sex appeal (who would have thought). I also dated a lot of women in my younger years before I got married way back in the 80s & 90s. (I'm widowed now). Most of these girls were very attractive & fit and dressed in heels for sex appeal particularly going out at the clubs.

I also dated attractive women with "well paying jobs" back in the day. Same thing now - if they were quit a bit shorter than me then I was giving a chance. If they were taller they told me to take a hike. Lol. I'm saying the super short wealthy guys (Hollywood stars, entrepreneurs, pro athletes, etc.) can usually get any women they want because of their bank accounts & high-social status. Just go look at 4-11 Danny Devito's hot wife and tell me that's not true. Lol.

Joggger wrote:

Tall men have large "tools", short men have small "tools" the size of little boys.

My vast number of hours in public locker rooms says that this correlation is extremely weak.

Some guys are either lying about their incomes (ahem), are creepy and a antisocial, depressed and have no social circle, or maybe just plain ugly and physically unappealing , that’s why they’re not dating professional, stable women

Hi, Flagpole!

To make a long story "short", being short is definitely detrimental, but it's not nearly as difficult as some might think.

Generally, the worst environment for a short male looking to meet up with girls is in a bar. If you're trying to pick up a girl as a short guy, forget about it unless you have big time game. Sure, once in a while anybody can get lucky, and I did, but as a rule clubs are not the best milieu to meet girls.

As far as the height of the girls goes, (I'm 5'5), I usually ended up dating girls my height to a few inches taller, they never had an issue with height. It was the 5 to 5'4" range where I would "strike out" the most. As others have already said, I believe the short girls didn't want to date short guys because it made them look short, the "medium" height girls didn't have those hangups.

But yes, no doubt the "pool of potentials" is smaller as a short guy. I would estimate you're starting at about 2/3 of the total, as 1/3 will dismiss you out of hand, that's just the way it goes. Girls are biologically wired as guys are, both

genders are superficial if we're being honest.

I was a bit luckier than most, when I was in my twenties I was extremely fit and good looking, and actually had girls hitting on me, which made it a lot easier than it otherwise would have been.

Just keep yourself fit, well groomed and have confidence, it's really not that "big" of a deal.

Take home, guys, just be extremely good looking

Because of guys like this.

A man shouldn't have to stand on a stool.