why is a mans height such a big deal to women?

i concur..... wrote:

Not necessarily, my sister who is very attractive and successful married a guy shorter than her. She is 5'6"and he is 5'4" and they have been married a long time. It can happen!

She settled with regards to her height preference. She likes everything else about him.

Pete Best wrote:

Size of wallet is #1.

The great Mickey Rooney wasn't the tallest guy around but he had no problem getting the ladies to notice him.

yes, for guys like you, money is the only way you will get ladies. They'll still get with guys like me while you're at work all day working your ass off, but a long as you're ok with that and your post-nuptial shutoff, everybody wins.

Haha.

You must be 16.

no I'm just a guy who is unemployed and gets laid.

C'mon guys! Be honest. There is not a single one of us running geeks that has a clue what attracts women to men.

Embrace the ignorance!!!

Yao Yao wrote:

jamin wrote:

* more photogenic next to women

Shortness is an inferior trait.

Oh yeah!

Yao Ming is great at running and looks really photogenic next to women.

Tthere are a shitload of short Hollywood movie stars because it's easier to get both them and the lead actress in the same frame. If there's a big height difference, you have to use weird angles or props to get close ups. So they use men like Tom Cruz and Johnny Depp who are the size of women.

jamin wrote:

Shortness is an inferior trait.

Please elaborate on inferior traits. Are there others?

hahahahahah wrote:

C'mon guys! Be honest. There is not a single one of us running geeks that has a clue what attracts women to men.

Embrace the ignorance!!!

how's that going for you? haha

intetesingherrjamin wrote:

jamin wrote:

Shortness is an inferior trait.

Please elaborate on inferior traits. Are there others?

Sure, there are other physical traits that put a guy further down the totem pole.

I'm short, 5'6". I would have to disagree.

Women typically will have no problem dating guys who are their height or taller.

Woman's avg height is 5'5".

It's all about confidence. Jamin you are shooting yourself in the foot before you even walk out the door.

Alan

like the previous poster i am 5'6 and I have no problem getting the girls.

I don't think this is a question of whether short guys can get some. Most any guy can get women. It's a question of whether a short guy can get the most physically attractive women. The answer to that is, on average, no. There will always be outliers. If you are hugely confident, charming, and (most importantly) make lots of money or are famous then you can be the exception that proves the rule.

Jamin man, you are really getting worked up about the height issue which only further reinforces the small man syndrome thing.

Sure, women generally see being tall as an attractive trait but it's only one of a whole bunch of things women generally find attractive such as:

Handsome looks

Fit body – slim, toned and smooth often are highly desirable

Nice eyes

Nice hair

Well groomed – neatly shaven, fresh breath etc.

Nice teeth

Well dressed

Personality – caring, compassionate, ambition and a good sense of humour go a long way

I’m 5’9” which is not anyway near being tall these days but never had any problems with women – been with females covering a range of heights from just under 5’ to 6’.

Remember, most Hollywood heart throbs are well under 6’ – Depp, Pitt, Clooney, Walburg and of course Cruise. Sure, they’re rich and famous but they are all handsome guys in their own right who would be successful with women even without the fame and money.

Also, height is one of those things that you can kind of do a bit about if it really bothers you – wear a nice heeled boot and/or style your hair to give the appearance of being taller.

Stop moaning and start focussing on your plus points. Your moaning makes you sound like an old, clapped out dude who is tired of life. Women won’t dig it.

Runningart2004 wrote:

I'm short, 5'6". I would have to disagree.

Alan

I have a strong feeling that if you were honest, you'd be agreeing with the premise that women generally prefer taller men, and that shorter men, like you, don't do that well in the ladies department. C'mon Alan, put down the protein shake and be honest.

It's not.

Runningart2004 wrote:

I'm short, 5'6". I would have to disagree.

Women typically will have no problem dating guys who are their height or taller.

Woman's avg height is 5'5".

It's all about confidence. Jamin you are shooting yourself in the foot before you even walk out the door.

Alan

While you second point is generally true, you are already out of the game for 50% of the women out there (assuming fairly normal distribution). As long as you have other redeeming qualities you can get by with the 50% that you can work with, but for losers like Jamin it has to be just a pure numbers game and to not even be in the game for half of them right from the start is a killer.

I also don't believe that average height for women is 5'5. I am a tad over 6 feet tall and I see tons of women that are taller than me. It may be a DC thing, and I am sure they are wearing heels, but 5'5 seems really short to me to be average.

help me understand wrote:

I never understood this

Firstly this question involves women and understanding women is not a phrase that reflects anything that happens in a mans mind with any degree of regularity.

A stab at an answer:

Many women are fashion conscious and wish to wear high heeled shoes to give their lower legs 'a better looking line' (what ever that phrase means). Most fashionable ladies garments are designed to be worn with heels*. If they are shorter than the man and the heels would make them taller that alters some basic sense of continued symmetry to their dear minds. Therefore women look for partners that they would be able to wear heels with and keep the status quo.

Woman that are taller than average tend to know getting a partner they can wear heels with is difficult so they look for men they are taller than and that keeps the height difference continuum in place.

Now a bit of pure speculation based on a small sample size of taller than I am woman I dated. Almost all said something to the effect that being taller than the man adds a sense of implied inferiority to the thought process of rival woman, requiring them to think 'That short guy must be special how come I can not attract a special guy like she can".

* so yes garter belts are specifically designed to be worn with high heels

jamin, do you feel inadequate to most women?

mellow seeds wrote:

I also don't believe that average height for women is 5'5.

You're right: for American women, it's closer to 5-4:

(p. 14).