What if you qualified for the Trials, but your wife asked you not to go because of Valentine's Day?

rojo wrote:

How can we answer this without pics?? ;)

Or without PRs.

I think you meant soon to be ex wife.

Another wife with 25 years under my belt, most of it happy. Certainly, this is a big deal to him and I would never do anything but completely support and cheer him on and celebrate later. On second thought, maybe the only thing that would give me pause is if I was giving birth to our child during those 2 plus hours. But honestly, if labor was just starting, I'd send him on his merry way.

I'd understand - maybe - if it was a family funeral or wedding anniversary or something as important as that. But V-day? Man - fuggedabout it.

Cupid Runner wrote:

I mean, do you skip the Trials? What do you do? What if she gives you an ultimatum? I mean, it would make her seem like a crazy person, but what if she was awesome on all other fronts and this was just something she threw down as a test? Like, do you leave your wife over one race? Was it terrible planning to hold the Trials on Valentine's Day weekend?

Any wife or GF that would insist you give up a likely one in a lifetime opportunity for celebrating valentines day isn't much of a wife or GF. Time to unload her. What's the next ultimatum if you cave?

txRUNNERgirl wrote:

PHD-Donkey wrote:

the marriage and relationship were doomed from the start. NEXT

This is the dumbest question ever, but I'll pretend it's real for a sec. The day (and marriage) isn't all about you, but it's also not all about her. You wouldn't and shouldn't be married to someone who doesn't accept that you're a serious runner or support your goals like running the Olympic Trials. At the same time.

Bring her with you. Run the race Saturday morning.Take her out Saturday night.

Guess where my wife and I are going on valentines day? Boston Indoor Grand Prix, be in the stands right at the finish line. I'll wave at you all. Now THATS a wife :)

Valentine's Day is just a scam to make money. You can show your love for her 364 other days of the year. You can't qualify for the Olympics any other day

What's your wife's 5k PR?

More realistic and actual situation:

My wedding was on the same weekend as an ironman triathlon. My friend was invited to my wedding. His girlfriend was registered for the ironman, which was 900 miles away. She gave him an ultimatum. He actually cried when he told me he was sorry that he would not be attending our wedding. 15 years later, we are still married. His marriage to this woman lasted 10 years. 6 of them were happy.

Cupid Runner wrote:

I mean, do you skip the Trials? What do you do? What if she gives you an ultimatum? I mean, it would make her seem like a crazy person, but what if she was awesome on all other fronts and this was just something she threw down as a test? Like, do you leave your wife over one race? Was it terrible planning to hold the Trials on Valentine's Day weekend?

How do you even manage to get in the training to get to the Trials while married to a woman like that?

This is a no brainer.

Run. Dump her. Then find someone who isn't as superficial.

It's really that sample. Any woman who would think some commercial holiday trumps a once in a lifetime opportunity for many needs her narcissism diagnosed.