I'm 32 and have serious issues with professionalism

That jerk who pissed you off at your last job (the one who always found a way to take credit for someone else’s work), he’ll be at your next workplace too.

And that total B!t(h who is non stop drama and manipulation, pushing everyone’s buttons while climbing the ladder, yeah she’ll be there too. Different eye shadow and hair style, but you’ll know it’s her after the first passive aggressive confrontation.

It took me a decade or so to figure it out. Better late than never.

Try meditation. Next time you get angry just turn your attention towards your breath and slow down the breathe, it will work wonders. And before you know it you will be the opposite of what you are right now. There is pure power in the breathe.

the OP of this thread wrote:

haha i posted this thread how long ago? I'm 36 now. I got fired from one other job after that one for lack of professionalism. it was the best thing that ever happened to me. now I work at Costco and I've only hung up on one b*Tch and fortunately calls aren't recorded

My ex used to be a bit like this - had trouble with authority figures and bosses in particular, and thought he should be the boss. In reality, he just didn’t have the skills or talent to navigate through management, but luckily for him he had good enough technical skills to guarantee employment.

Strangely, his father was like this too but even worse. Employment history was littered with being fired and leaving jobs til he stopped work completely aged 52. Obnoxious, rude and unkind to be around. He used to make rude comments about me being unemployed and needing to get a job when I was on annual leave (I’m a schoolteacher).

The whole family were quite terrible company, aggressive (and a bit scary) in social situations yet incapable of the channeled, focussed aggression mixed with social skills needed for being successful in business.

I rapidly tired of being around that. It gets you down. My ex wasn’t a bad guy but he couldn’t escape his upbringing. The final straw was when I spent one weekend mostly working to ensure things were in place for Monday, and he accused me of “sitting on Facebook all day”. I really wasn’t... I bought him a birthday present of a whole load of running gear, and he described it as “cheap tat”. Well at least when he left another job and his co-workers bought him a leaving gift from the same store, he described the stuff from that store as “cheap tat”. When we travelled to races together, and remember I was a little bit more likely to place in our local 10k than him, he actually wouldn’t speak to me for a full 24 hours before, because he needed to focus. He would completely ignore me if I attempted to speak to him.

My guess, based on experience, is that you’re pretty obnoxious to be around and it’s all about you. Are your parents like that too?

Joe Walsh wrote:

Four years ago I got fired from a job for refusing to answer my boss's/co-worker's phone calls outside of work.

If you were working hourly, that’s a crap reason for getting fired.

Anyway there are a lot of jobs with annoying people and office politics, so you’ll have to build up a better tolerance for BS, try to be baseline nice to people by pretending to be interested in people’s boring stories & participating in small talk, and learn some techniques to diffuse your anger in stressful/dumb situations so you don’t drop so many f-bombs & hang up on people.

quit being so hard on yourself man, you are still young. be glad you are making these mistakes early in your career and not when you are 55 or 60. best advice I can give is to be more mindful about your actions and try to think before you act. maybe a daily meditation of just try to enjoy your next run a little more, these things could ground you more. failure is very important, so learn from it and keep trying your best

If you want to keep your job, whatever you do, do not grin and bare it.

Did you qualify for Boston? At age 32, you need to run under 3 hours now to get in. If you wait until you’re 35, it’s 3:05. Good luck

the thread is 3 years old.

How about an update.

Get a job in construction; you'll fit right in.