If you are really reliable and hard-working as you say, it will be easy for you to find a job on https://ae.jobsora.com . So, you should improve yourself in any sphere you need. Then look at the site and try to find something for you
If you are really reliable and hard-working as you say, it will be easy for you to find a job on https://ae.jobsora.com . So, you should improve yourself in any sphere you need. Then look at the site and try to find something for you
Some jobs really do have more toxic office dynamics than others so finding a job where this is better is something that can and should be pursued. You can hop between jobs until you find one where you better fit within the culture, but ultimately people are going to be politicking because there is typically a fixed amount of money for promotions and raises which you compete against one another for. The other option is to start your own company where you have much greater control over the office culture and you can play wealth creation games (positive sum) instead of status games (zero sum).
Difficult people and internal politics are part of life and you should invest in becoming better at dealing with it (either by becoming good at the game or finding successful coping strategies). Therapy is a very good way to get help but it isn't the only. If you have an aversion to therapy you could certainly read books on mindset and sales and practice implementing them in life. Dale Carnegie's How to Win Friends and Influence People, Zig Ziglar's books on sales and Mike Cernovich's Gorilla Mindset are books which might point you in a good direction.
Good luck,
POW
aquafina wrote:
Maybe you should do a job like construction or wood working, laying tile, or something that is 100% dependent on you?
Sure, you don’t need interpersonal skills to get hired for work you propose.
Just show up at random houses and start working. 100% dependent on you! Ask for payment and see what happens.
A couple of years ago I needed to get the windshield on my car replaced. I decided then that the guy who did it had one of the best jobs on earth. I was happy to see him. He worked alone, didn't have to deal with me, didn't have to deal with a supervisor, at least not while he was working, the work was not real physically demanding, and there was no question about whether he'd done it well or not. Once the new windshield was installed he knew he'd done his job well. If the thing had leaked or something I'd have called the company to get it done again, but he wouldn't have dealt with my complaint, at worst he'd have to come and work in my driveway again. I didn't ask what he got paid but it was skilled work so I doubt the guy needed food stamps.
The thing about "professional" jobs is that they mostly involve a lot of contact with people. For some, that's part of the appeal. For others it can be hell. Obviously anything you do will have some amount of people contact but there are jobs that are much more task oriented than people oriented. Maybe you need to find something along those lines. Or maybe at some point you'll end up needing to keep a job badly enough that you'll find a way to control what you say at work.
Trolston wrote:
If you are really reliable and hard-working as you say, it will be easy for you to find a job on
https://ae.jobsora.com. So, you should improve yourself in any sphere you need. Then look at the site and try to find something for you
Why did you bump a 3 year old thread?
EZ10Miler wrote:
Trolston wrote:
If you are really reliable and hard-working as you say, it will be easy for you to find a job on
https://ae.jobsora.com. So, you should improve yourself in any sphere you need. Then look at the site and try to find something for you
Why did you bump a 3 year old thread?
He musta got shitcanned again.
Like a massage, OP, to release tension?
Run for President.
I heard that when Disney workers want to say "F U" they instead say "Have a magical day". So, next time you want to say "F U", instead say "It has been a pleasure talking with you" or "I'll get on that right away"
Agree, the OP being aware at such a relatively young age is rare and the post is written in a direct manner that it makes me wonder if it's fake.
This attitude only hurts you in the short term and in the end. Everyone you've insulted or angered will have moved on with their lives while you're always stuck at getting pissed off. You've gotten by with the indulgence of others but there will be less and less of that as you get older while the guilt and shame keep growing.
Personality feeds off of and reinforces itself making it very difficult to change. Finding a more small, suitable environment is actually a very good idea to make you feel safer and reduce the pressure. But get professional help because it will introduce objectivity into your thinking about yourself.
Professionalism is learned. People right out of school need to be socialized and you're at an age when others expect that period to have ended so your attitude now will play a large part in determining promotions. It's a sort of insult to the individual but necessary in large groups, which is something the individualist of course wouldn't easily appreciate but all of us benefit from it.
There's noting inherently wrong with this attitude unless it hurts (and limits) you and those close to you. Consider going with it. If you find it pointlessly difficult working in a company then find a job you can work by yourself or with a few people. You're still young enough for a failure or two, unless you're in debt but that's another issue.
I thought the same thing about tinting car windows though customer contact is required working for yourself.
One more thing. Everyone has problems with "professionalism". I suspect a some approach it as a game like checkers, the first person to lose his cool loses, say good morning to pass go. Professionalism won't solve all your work challenges either but it will make being there easier and safer.
Ah, the peasant's scorn. Milord!
All good man, just drink a few beers and bowl a few frames.
Agree with this. I would figure out what the issue is early and correct it. Still have a long time to rebound. In any job you have to deal with politics, people you don't like, things you don't want to do, etc. That's life. Being able to tolerate it and move forward with equanimity is key to success anywhere.
right answer wrote:
He doesn't have to go through life dealing with a$$holes. Not every job is like that.
How are we sure that HE'S not the a$$hole?
The only constant in these stories is him.
Sounds like you need to grow up.
Just know that there is always a deeper reason below your conscious awareness that causes us to act in ways not in alignment with who we want to be or we feel we are. The subconscious is a powerful thing. I'd recommend talking to a skilled psychologist or therapist if you have not yet and start doing a more inner work in developing your self awareness and understanding your triggers related to these outbursts. Give yourself grace - this is hard to do but you will only add more negative emotion by going too hard on yourself. I have very similar internal feelings that drive me to behave in ways I don't like myself and this is something I'm also trying to work on.
You have to actually put forth concentrated and intentional effort into developing self-awareness before you can change. Carve out time to meditate, reflect, go to therapy, sit quietly with yourself. It's just as important as exercise, eating healthy, sleep, etc... but it gets far less attention in western culture.
1.) Hanging up on a client because they're rude is enough reason to be disciplined. They are your income, don't mess it up.
2.) If you got fired for swearing, something tells me that was just the final straw over several other straws.
3.) Being self-aware is half the battle, but being self-aware means nothing if you aren't willing to change.
Keep looking for the right situation, and perhaps a "champion" or two. Some years back I had an intern who worked for me as a proofreader. She was whip smart and incredibly efficient, but she didn't play well with others and made no attempt to hide her disdain for those she viewed as being idiots or officious jackwads. I though she was awesome and sang her praises, so another department asked if they could use her to answer phones when she wasn't helping me. Well, that didn't go over too well at all, and after telling a client what they could do to themselves, she quit and left in a cloud of smoke (she did apologize to me personally, which I appreciated).
Later, when I became aware of another former co-worker who was a highly paid consultant, but with a really poor grasp of English (and problems similar to hers in regard to working with others), who needed a proofreader, I set them up to work together and that arrangement was still going on 15 years later.
haha i posted this thread how long ago? I'm 36 now. I got fired from one other job after that one for lack of professionalism. it was the best thing that ever happened to me. now I work at Costco and I've only hung up on one b*Tch and fortunately calls aren't recorded