Smart Women wrote:
Pointing Out the Obvious wrote:Actually, you can. You just have to be smart enough to sound sincere. Which, in my case, is rather easy.
Actually, you cannot with a smart woman. You cannot out smart a smart woman. You have obviously never been with one smart enough to figure out your compliments were fake.
Wife has an IQ of 145. I've been with smarter ones still.
There isn't a woman on this planet that I can't outsmart. Sorry, it's just a fact.
joedirt wrote:
If you want a successful marriage you have to be willing to take some crap. I am a free market economist, and when you are single, you have to do what is in your self interest. When you are married you have to act in what is the best interest of you and your spouse. When you have kids, you have to act in what is the best interest of your family. Must marriages that dissolve occur when people put their self interest over the interest of their family. You have to be willing to sacrifice parts of yourself in the interest of your family.
"Taking crap" and acting "in the interest of your family" are two VERY different things.
Glad I could help clear that up for you.
Pointing Out the Obvious wrote:
joedirt wrote:If you want a successful marriage you have to be willing to take some crap. I am a free market economist, and when you are single, you have to do what is in your self interest. When you are married you have to act in what is the best interest of you and your spouse. When you have kids, you have to act in what is the best interest of your family. Must marriages that dissolve occur when people put their self interest over the interest of their family. You have to be willing to sacrifice parts of yourself in the interest of your family.
"Taking crap" and acting "in the interest of your family" are two VERY different things.
Glad I could help clear that up for you.
Why you picking on Dirt ??? Don't make me introduce you to my friend's Billy -Gun's !!
Pointing Out the Obvious wrote:
Smart Women wrote:Actually, you cannot with a smart woman. You cannot out smart a smart woman. You have obviously never been with one smart enough to figure out your compliments were fake.
Wife has an IQ of 145. I've been with smarter ones still.
There isn't a woman on this planet that I can't outsmart. Sorry, it's just a fact.
Pretty vague comment, Smarty Pants. What is your definition of "outsmart?"
"Taking crap" and acting "in the interest of your family" are two VERY different things.
Glad I could help clear that up for you.
Are you a successfully married man? I know I am.
joedirt wrote:
"Taking crap" and acting "in the interest of your family" are two VERY different things.
Glad I could help clear that up for you.
Are you a successfully married man? I know I am.
Yup
And congratulations!
Boston wrote:
Pointing Out the Obvious wrote:"Taking crap" and acting "in the interest of your family" are two VERY different things.
Glad I could help clear that up for you.
Why you picking on Dirt ??? Don't make me introduce you to my friend's Billy -Gun's !!
Yikes! I surrender!
joedirt wrote:
If you want a successful marriage you have to be willing to take some crap. I am a free market economist, and when you are single, you have to do what is in your self interest. When you are married you have to act in what is the best interest of you and your spouse. When you have kids, you have to act in what is the best interest of your family. Must marriages that dissolve occur when people put their self interest over the interest of their family. You have to be willing to sacrifice parts of yourself in the interest of your family.
Sacrifice parts of yourself, sure. What I'm having trouble swallowing is that I've sacrificed ALL of myself and am still coming up short.
How much crap do lifelong bachelors put up with from their crazies? I'm very happy that I don't have to go out to bars until 2am, I don't have crazy single mothers trying to baby-daddy me, and I fart whenever I want.
Sure, there are some aspects of our relationship that grind on my soul. But my wife is a teammate that compliments my abilities pretty well. Also, I get to have kids, which are awesome.
It's true that being at home is no longer my time, it's family time, but:
1) I love my job, so I don't typically come home needing to unwind. I just had fun all day.
2) I'm a morning person. My wife and kids are night people. I'm up early and I get to do what I want.
I think she sacrifices as much of what she wants as I do. It's not the way I imagined my life would be when I was a kid, but it works.
Pointing Out the Obvious wrote:
Smart Women wrote:Actually, you cannot with a smart woman. You cannot out smart a smart woman. You have obviously never been with one smart enough to figure out your compliments were fake.
Wife has an IQ of 145. I've been with smarter ones still.
There isn't a woman on this planet that I can't outsmart. Sorry, it's just a fact.
You were outsmarted several times, just on this thread. You are not smart enough to understand you were.
swaggyp wrote:
I can bench press 351 pounds
I call bull.
Nobody puts a 1/2 pound on each side of the bar. Plus they don't even make 1/2 pound plates. 2.5# sure, but not 1/2 pound.
gym rat wrote:
Nobody puts a 1/2 pound on each side of the bar. Plus they don't even make 1/2 pound plates. 2.5# sure, but not 1/2 pound.
Duh.
159 kg? That's just as bad as 351 pounds.
It's all explained here in scientific terms...
gym rat wrote:
swaggyp wrote:I can bench press 351 pounds
I call bull.
Nobody puts a 1/2 pound on each side of the bar. Plus they don't even make 1/2 pound plates. 2.5# sure, but not 1/2 pound.
You're assuming that swaggyp has the same weight on both sides.
gym rat wrote:
swaggyp wrote:I can bench press 351 pounds
I call bull.
Nobody puts a 1/2 pound on each side of the bar. Plus they don't even make 1/2 pound plates. 2.5# sure, but not 1/2 pound.
The YMCA that I've been going to for over a decade has 1/2 lb plates. It's old school.
Threads like these remind me of how fortunate I am to be unable to attract a woman.
It never ceases to amaze me that so many men on this board treat and define marriage and the whole man/woman relationship paradigm as adversarial in nature.
A boy usually outgrows the girls are icky and gross stages before or during the third and fourth grade. Plus I'm sure, myself included, a number of boys never go through that stage at all.
is partnership an alien idea? wrote:
It never ceases to amaze me that so many men on this board treat and define marriage and the whole man/woman relationship paradigm as adversarial in nature.
A boy usually outgrows the girls are icky and gross stages before or during the third and fourth grade. Plus I'm sure, myself included, a number of boys never go through that stage at all.
CORRECTION: Boys usually outgrow the cooties stage during 7th and 8th grade!
Been married for 35 yrs, but almost crashed and burned at 12.
I discovered a few things that work for me and are generalities, I believe, of most women and men in marriages.
Men want to be respected, and women want to be loved.
If she doesn't respect you it will emasculate you and you'll go elsewhere for that respect. Likewise, if you do not make her feel loved she will resent it (you) and may find it in other places.
The phrase "Happy Wife, Happy Life" sounds trite, but if you've been around for a while you know it's true. So how do you really make her happy?
I heard somewhere that every girl longs to be desired, to be "the one". I think it's absolutely true. It's in the DNA. Why else would women 90 yrs old get their hair dyed and put on makeup?
So, the key, I think is to make them feel like "the one" for the rest of their life in whatever way relates to them.
You need to also let them know how you feel respected and if they are a keeper they will do that for you and you'll both be happy.
On the other hand, if they are crazy, run the other way as fast as possible ,