Successfully married men, how much crap from your wife do you put up with?

Bandit Username wrote:

threadjoker wrote:

So is your wife ugly or stupid?

Very good. I was hoping someone would come back with a zinger. She's neither, though. Perhaps I just lucked out.

You are whipped. Ignorance is bliss.

MM3307 wrote:

gymnologyst wrote:

This might seem like (or be) a sexist thread, but I've found myself in a few relationships and seen many where the woman is not only pretty demanding but acts like a crazy person a fair amount of the time too. I find it pretty depressing if this is considered normal. Is it? Should we (men) just take it for granted that most women are pretty fricken crazy a fair amount of the time?

Better question is how much crap is your wife willing to put up with? I'm pretty grateful that mine doesn't complain (much) about my running every morning, 2 nights during the work week, and Saturday/Sunday mornings being dedicated to racing/long run/brunch.

How much crap is she willing to put up with?? You getting out of her hair on regular basis sounds like a benefit for both of you. The reason so many couples drive each other crazy is they don't give each other any alone time.

Usually 3 to 5 times a day. If shes going more often then it may be a bad day

Pointing Out the Obvious wrote:

With my compliments. wrote:

Just give them compliments frequently about absolutely anything. It took me a while to figure it out but it is totally foolproof. How they look,smell, feel, cook, domestic stuff, choose clothing or furnishings, colour co-ordination, driving (lol), the tone of their voice, sense of humour, how the kids love them.......In fact any old crap. Women just love to feel appreciated and can't filter out the bullshit. Follow this plan and you can't go wrong.

This ^ sounds about right.

You absolutely cannot be condescending when giving compliments. A good, smart, woman will stop believing your compliments if you overboard. Your compliments all start seeming nonsensical.

Compliment not to excess, say thank you often and make her feel wanted and needed and not just in a sexual fashion.

You'll be a lot happier. There was a time I didn't do this as much as I should have and the difference is night and day as to how much better life is after implementation. Implementation requires a bit of courage to change though.

...a lot of crap.

She makes me clean the toilets wrote:

...a lot of crap.

Must be down in the gutter.

Lucas van leyden wrote:

Note: unevolved men feel an unrelenting need to disparage and marginalize women. It's time to look inward, losers.

Arent they just around to put out and make dinner?

gymnologyst wrote:

This might seem like (or be) a sexist thread, but I've found myself in a few relationships and seen many where the woman is not only pretty demanding but acts like a crazy person a fair amount of the time too. I find it pretty depressing if this is considered normal. Is it? Should we (men) just take it for granted that most women are pretty fricken crazy a fair amount of the time?

You have not found the right one. Grow up - She is probably going to put up with a lot more of your crap than you will with her. I have been married for 7 years and have two kids. It is the best decision I have ever made by far.

swaggyp wrote:

Gffgvcggg wrote:

Some women are mentally abusing and you may not realize it. I was in a relashionship with one lady who would yell at me all the time even if i was doing good. I started getting confused about what was left and what was right. A person can't function properly when they are mentally abused. I would go to a mental health institute and talk about the situation

you sound like a p*ssy

I can bench press 350 pounds

Gffgvcggg wrote:

swaggyp wrote:

you sound like a p*ssy

I can bench press 350 pounds

I can bench press 351 pounds

Be careful... wrote:

Pointing Out the Obvious wrote:

This ^ sounds about right.

You absolutely cannot be condescending when giving compliments. A good, smart, woman will stop believing your compliments if you overboard. Your compliments all start seeming nonsensical.

Actually, you can. You just have to be smart enough to sound sincere. Which, in my case, is rather easy.

I feel you man. 5 years ago we moved our family for my wife's job because it was a great opportunity for her. The salary trumped mine by 1.5x so it was kind of a no-brainer. We were in our new city for less than a year and my wife gets canned. Overnight, I had to pick up the slack and replace what she was making. She doesn't want to "work in an office" or for "the man". She's spent literally tens of thousands of dollars (cashed in half of 401k) to get her own company off the ground. Fast forward 1 year...she has not made $.01. I told her I'd give her until Jan. to see if things would get going. No dice.

I work over 60 hours a week to make sure we can pay for the house we bought with her signing bonus on a job she no longer has. The last 16 months she hasn't had any income. That's fine...if you want to be a stay at home mom. But...On top of that I do about 80% of the household cleaning, grocery shopping, childcare etc.

I don't want too much information, but what is the company she is trying to establish? The kind of company, not the company name...? I am not a weirdo, I am just trying to get a feel for why she hasn't made a cent.

...marketing consultant. Ironically for new businesses!

Im surprised no studies have been done, theyre all delusional.

Take care all you guys! Thanks for all the discussions over the years! Guess you got to register now. Best wishes to you all always!

Pointing Out the Obvious wrote:

Be careful... wrote:

You absolutely cannot be condescending when giving compliments. A good, smart, woman will stop believing your compliments if you overboard. Your compliments all start seeming nonsensical.

Actually, you can. You just have to be smart enough to sound sincere. Which, in my case, is rather easy.

Actually, you cannot with a smart woman. You cannot out smart a smart woman. You have obviously never been with one smart enough to figure out your compliments were fake.

If you want a successful marriage you have to be willing to take some crap. I am a free market economist, and when you are single, you have to do what is in your self interest. When you are married you have to act in what is the best interest of you and your spouse. When you have kids, you have to act in what is the best interest of your family. Must marriages that dissolve occur when people put their self interest over the interest of their family. You have to be willing to sacrifice parts of yourself in the interest of your family.