Why is it hot women are close to impossible to get in HS/College, difficult to get in mid to late 20s, but actually in your league at 30-35'ish, possibly until age 45 or so for men?
Why is it hot women are close to impossible to get in HS/College, difficult to get in mid to late 20s, but actually in your league at 30-35'ish, possibly until age 45 or so for men?
I'm skeptical of that claim
I'm guessing you're rich?
please assure me that this is true.
women after say 28 start to hear the clock ticking and then compare themselves to the SMOKING hotties at 23, which they'll never ever ever be again mind you, then start lowering their standards....
We as men of course think theyre hot at 28-35/45, but walk onto any college campus with youre 40 year old hottie and youll break youre neck looking at the 21 year olds- human nature, sorry....
Now youre 40 year old hottie is resigned to comparing herself to the other women in corporate suit and pearl necklace when the fact is you take her to a beach in a bikini and she looks more like youre mother than youre date....
the tables have turned,say wha wrote:
Why is it hot women are close to impossible to get in HS/College, difficult to get in mid to late 20s, but actually in your league at 30-35'ish, possibly until age 45 or so for men?
First, your assertions are hyperbolic.
I will grant that it generally becomes easier for men to attract women as they get older. To put that another way, it is harder to attract women when you're younger. There are numerous reasons for this. This graph sort of explains it.
https://rationalmale.files.wordpress.com/2012/05/smv_curve1.jpgThe things / qualities that attract women are things that men tend to develop more as they get older. The things that attract men are things that women develop much earlier, i.e., mid-late teens and peaking in the early twenties.
It certainly isn't close to impossible to get girls in high school or college or in your twenties. It might be close to impossible for the socially inept people who frequent this site, but if you spend some time working on your social skills, it isn't that hard.
Further, you should focus more on improving yourself as a person than changing yourself to attract girls. Improve your social skills. It will improve your confidence, which girls are attracted to, but also it is something that will benefit you in many other areas as well.
Getting jacked doesn't hurt either, though your 5k ability will suffer.
Are you talking about your age or theirs? That is you keep getting hot young girls as you age or you women your age as you get older. Because there aren't that many hot women past 30. Definitely none past 35. The hottest girl ever from 6th grade to HS looks like a frumpy pizza dough now at 45.
I assure you this is true! Why? Well I'm sure it is complicated.
I was married from age 24-36, so out of the dating scene. Then by the time I was finally ready for dating again at age 38 I was timid to date anyone younger than like 36 at first. Basically all I could relate to was being a college senior dating a sophomore, and that seemed like enough age spread. Until I observed that women around my age in their upper 30s (I'm sorry to say this, it sound superficial) usually have tremendous baggage by that point, and unfortunately start rapidly showing their age and declining in attractiveness.
I'm 46 now, and dating a 31 yr old who is stunningly beautiful with an immaculate bod - she definitely would have been way out of my league when I was that age. And she's actually the oldest girl I've dated in awhile.
As to why? Well I am far from rich, and I don't flaunt what little spending ability I have, so that stereotype doesn't apply. Yeah, I'm in shape and run regularly, but I still sport the skinny-fat middle age men's fitness that is not impressive and proving hard to overcome... My theory is: guys lag behind girls in emotional maturity through their early 30s. A lot of kids get married right out of college and are taken out of the dating pool. If a girl stays single past age 26 or so, she quickly gravitates to guys >35 just to get away from single immature douchebag demographic. Girls admire a guy who is independent and mature and stable - and there's a small pool of guys between age 25-35, but a lot more of them in their upper 30s and low 40s. There's also the fact that girls are less influenced by looks, so there is more tolerance for a less than perfect physique in an older guy who has other good qualities.
Bottom line - yeah, it is not hard at all for a dude around 40 to get girls in their 20s if he has his life together at all. It ends up being a natural fit - win-win.
It's because when guys get older they start looking like Sean Connery and when women get older they start looking like Sean Connery.
There's almost nothing more pathetic (and amusing to behold) than a lecherous older man sowing his juvenile oats.
From an early age men understand that there are almost the same number of men as women. They take this to mean that someone has to date the prom queen (or Footlock finalist on here) and so many ask and get shot down.
Women may understand that there are the same number of men and women but from the beginning, they "know" at least half the men in any room, repulse them. They take this to mean they should turn down anyone in the middle.
Eventually, in your 30s, the fact that there are the same number of men as women overwhelms both these ideas. The realization that this is happening occurs quickly kind of like the music stopping in musical chairs.
haskell wrote:
please assure me that this is true.
It's not. Don't wait. Work on your game.
kaleidoscope wrote:
There's almost nothing more pathetic (and amusing to behold) than a lecherous older man sowing his juvenile oats.
Posted the judgy judger of things.
If the genders were switched, then what?
At some point, it's a decision by both people, as adults.
the tables have turned,say wha wrote:
Why is it hot women are close to impossible to get in HS/College, difficult to get in mid to late 20s, but actually in your league at 30-35'ish, possibly until age 45 or so for men?
I've never had any of the problems you mentioned. Maybe you came off as nerdy or not very fit when you were in school.
*&uhifoi3ze44 wrote:
Eventually, in your 30s, the fact that there are the same number of men as women overwhelms both these ideas. The realization that this is happening occurs quickly kind of like the music stopping in musical chairs.
lol I got good mental image of this. The last girl standing in the middle of a bunch of taken chairs; there's only one left, kinda ugly but looks comfortable, and she decides, "that chair is ok... I guess" and sits down.
I am getting close to 30 and despite my average appearance I have noticed I get more looks from attractive women than I used to (from a surprisingly wide age range). BUT I will also say that after college my standards have dropped some as well (which may contribute to the illusion of me getting more attention). In college we are surrounded by an insane amount of attractive women, standards are high. Those numbers don't exist in the world I'm in now. I might see one semi attractive girl at the gym or in passing at the store, but not five plus one super hot one just walking to class, then some more walking back to my car.
Highlander II wrote:
It's because when guys get older they start looking like Sean Connery and when women get older they start looking like Sean Connery.
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haha wrote:
Highlander II wrote:It's because when guys get older they start looking like Sean Connery and when women get older they start looking like Sean Connery.
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Except most guys look like bald versions of Sean Connery(s) and hence in no way resemble him.
look at this graph wrote:
I am getting close to 30 and despite my average appearance I have noticed I get more looks from attractive women than I used to (from a surprisingly wide age range). BUT I will also say that after college my standards have dropped some as well (which may contribute to the illusion of me getting more attention). In college we are surrounded by an insane amount of attractive women, standards are high. Those numbers don't exist in the world I'm in now. I might see one semi attractive girl at the gym or in passing at the store, but not five plus one super hot one just walking to class, then some more walking back to my car.
I, too, am getting close to 30 and have seen my expectations drop dramatically
Phil Harmonic wrote:
Except most guys look like bald versions of Sean Connery(s) and hence in no way resemble him.
You're right about that. I think it's hilarious when an individual guy believes that he'll "age like fine wine" and be like George Clooney. I'm in my late 20s and most guys my age, including myself, look old and haggard.
I am not sure I agree with the original premise, but I have noticed that a lot of women who look good in their 30s did not look so good in college and in their twenties. I have seen a lot of women get programmed by their parents to be a-sexual. They put on weight because they were not encouraged to be athletic in high school. They dress frumpy because they have nothing to flaunt and were brought up to believe that showing off your body was per se slutty. But when they hit their 30s, they are finally able to break free. They embrace fitness and suddenly find out that they are attractive. This then coincides with the biological clock ticking and next thing you know a hot 30 something is ready to hook up in a hurry.