3 dates - no kiss

How do you know that OP is selecting dates from the wrong team?

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Dude, come out of the closet already...the Supreme Court's on your side.

I'm sorry it took 4 pages for a woman to chime in but...

Friend zone.

txRUNNERgirl wrote:

I'm sorry it took 4 pages for a woman to chime in but...

Friend zone.

Thanks. We needed a woman here in addition to the lady who has already answered.

Total Reality wrote:

I am 38 and married and just basically act like Johnny Cash as much as possible,

Next date, give her a few casual pecks on the cheeks. If that doesn't

get a reaction, kiss her face.

Fake a fall and pretend you've hurt yourself. Then ask her to kiss your boo boo

txRUNNERgirl wrote:

I'm sorry it took 4 pages for a woman to chime in but...

Friend zone.

NO

The friend zone does not exist.

It is a thing guys put themselves in when they are afraid to make a move with a girl.

Being friends with a girl, does not mean you are friend zoned.

Fact is, she probably just wants to be friends.

So, if you are not interested in that, stop seeing her.

A massive fart always does the trick .

A powerpoint presentation should do the trick.

Historian wrote:

"hang out" she uses those words, then she does not consider you a date.

I know you are not going to like this, but the only thing that will help is to blow her off for a few days. It works, I'm serious. Don't return any texts, . Don't answer any calls. Don't do anything for at least a week. Then answer a call and act like you might not be available, etc.

You see, men are different than women. A woman will always wonder " what did I do wrong?" if they are interested in you. If she quits calling or showing any interest, then you have your answer. If she does call a few times and leaves text messages asking you to call or get back to her, then you'll know you have her right where you want her.

Yeah you definitely want her to feel super insecure about herself! That's the best option!

Why the hell would playing with a girl be a good idea? What has this world come too?

Forget about a kiss, go downtown

Hug her instead. A great big bear hug will let her know you have romantic designs on her. Talk a lot about your mother so she knows you're a doting son, as well.

If you have to think about it this much and come to LR to ask advice then that's a sure sign this is going nowhere. Good relationships progress naturally. Cut bait and date other chicks.

Sounds like the road to anal will be long. Success is not guaranteed. Cut your losses and lose her phone number.

nearest hippie wrote:

Now I admit I love a good letsrun dating thread as much as the next person.

I am legitimately amazed that two grown adults have been on three dates with zero physical contact. Is this a cultural thing? That's why I originally asked if you met at a megachurch, I wasn't being completely tongue in cheek with that question. The responses telling you to just kiss her aren't being pick-up artists, they are being normal adults. How anyone could think otherwise is beyond me. This is one of the more bizarre threads I've read in a while. I truly had no idea there were people like this out there who weren't religious fundamentalists. Learn something new every day.

I would argue there is a range of comfort for different kinds of intimacy people have for whatever reason. No shame in more or less.

Friend zone or whatever, a dead end.

I too love these threads.

Love the post claiming to be a woman claiming no contact is okay. I have no problem with that. People have different comfort levels. I still want to know more about that one.

I'm surprised you answered this...;)

Realisticer wrote:

Here is the deal, people... Men and women do not hang out alone together as platonic friends without the relationship getting sexual at some point. So get it out of your head that you are going to be best friends with some man or woman and there is not going to be any sexual tension.

I'm married too and I can tell you, this is exactly how it works. Unless one of you is gay, a man and woman same relative age hanging out alone always goes this way.

OP, a great way to initiate some physical interaction (if you haven't been friend zoned) is if your next date is NOT in public. Invite her to your place for a casual dinner and a movie. If she's already been in your car, she should trust you enough to feel comfortable at your place. Make sure the only way to watch the movie is by sitting next to each other on the same piece of furniture (couch, love-seat, whatever), the closer together, the better. Then just make it happen naturally.

Good luck!

Next time she calls you, tell her you enjoy spending time with her, but you were hoping this was leading to something more than friendship, so you want to know what she thinks.