I would like to challenge some of the comments made within this discussion:
I am a male who ran for a large, successful D1 program in the late 90s. I was a scholarship athlete. Distance runner. I was by no means a great runner, but I was pretty good for my conference and I was a captain my senior year - both XC and T&F.
Our hazing consisted of taking freshman out on long runs and hammering the shit out of the pace while they desperately tried to keep up (because they were scared they wouldn't be able to get home). We always had a sweeper who would follow behind to pick up and kids who really got left behind. We also had ways to humble the better runners who thought they were hot shots, but none of these things ever involved anything sexual.
I don't care how many of you say it, there is nothing normal about fondling someone else's balls in the locker room without consent. If you are gay and want to touch another guy and he is into it, fine, but I can tell you that if you came up to me and grabbed my balls in the shower, I'd not only have decked you... I would have let someone on the coaching staff know as well. I am not alone, either. I guarantee that my teammates would have done the same.
Do you think it is okay to walk into the women's locker room and start rubbing some girl's boobs? No, that is sexual assault.
There is a huge difference between telling someone that they have a small dick in the shower and physically walking over to them and touching them.
I have no idea what was on this list and I don't care. What I want to point out is that I have played sports my entire life and I have never been in a locker room situation where I was touched by another man. If I had been in that situation, it would have ended badly.
If the coach knew this was going on and turned a blind eye, he needs to go. If he didn't know, I feel bad for him.
But I am confused about all of the posts on here saying that sexual contact between men in the showers is "normal" at that age. I don't think it is normal at all. Maybe I am just misreading the posts...