Obviously it is irresponsible. You already know that. Just the fact that you felt the need to ask means you know it is irresponsible.
Obviously it is irresponsible. You already know that. Just the fact that you felt the need to ask means you know it is irresponsible.
50% of all marriages end in divorce so keep the cost at $50,000.
Still extravagant but at least the math will work...
By the way, you're still screwed.
you can take 3 months and make a trip around the world with less than 100k, 100k is good if u are multi millionarie.
I got married 27 years ago. cost me $35. I paid $10 for the license and I tipped the preacher $25.
Meanwhile, both my wife and I had siblings who had weddings that cost tens of thousands of dollars and the are all divorced.
Listen, you could spend 5 grand and have a very nice wedding. Take the rest of your money and spend it on a down payment for a house. Tell her to think of the future instead of just one day. If she's concentrating on the wedding rather than the marriage, that's a danger sign. My wedding cost about 3 grand which seemed high to me at the time (her parents paid, not me) but it will be 20 years this summer and we've come a long way. I'm going to take her on a great vacation to celebrate.
Free Advice wrote:
Obviously it is irresponsible. You already know that. Just the fact that you felt the need to ask means you know it is irresponsible.
Can you provide your definition if "irresponsible" in this context? Do you mean that it is financially irresponsible? If so, doesn't that depend on the finances and preferences of the couple?
not so obvious wrote:
[quote]Free Advice wrote:
Obviously it is irresponsible. You already know that. Just the fact that you felt the need to ask means you know it is irresponsible.
Can you provide your definition if "irresponsible" in this context? Do you mean that it is financially irresponsible? If so, doesn't that depend on the finances and preferences of the couple?[/quot
Obviously it depends on the finances and preferences of the couple. For example, if and when Derek Jeter gets married, he won't think twice about spending $100,000. He'll probably spend waaay more. However, Derek Jeter won't have to ask advice on whether or not it is irresponsible. For him it is not irresponsible. For the person who needs to ask, then yes, it is irresponsible.
$10K in Vegas with a few friends would be one heck of a weekend.
$90K in a tax deferred IRA earning an average of 8% for 30 years with no additional contributions will = about a million.
Irresponsible and responsible all in 1. Everyone wins.
if you consistently pull > 500k a year then go for it, otherwise no
I Know You wrote:
Dial it up wrote:50% of marriages end in divorce and I'm the simplistic moron for pointing out a fact that it's dumb to sign up for that while you're young? Right.
Just because you jumped on the first ho to touch your dick at 22 doesn't make you wise.
Ah, the resident simplistic moron doubles down on stupidity.
Haha thanks for confirming that I nailed it on the head, you don't always get that satisfaction around here.
Now bag it, loser.
Free Advice wrote:
not so obvious wrote:Can you provide your definition if "irresponsible" in this context? Do you mean that it is financially irresponsible? If so, doesn't that depend on the finances and preferences of the couple?
Obviously it depends on the finances and preferences of the couple. For example, if and when Derek Jeter gets married, he won't think twice about spending $100,000. He'll probably spend waaay more. However, Derek Jeter won't have to ask advice on whether or not it is irresponsible. For him it is not irresponsible. For the person who needs to ask, then yes, it is irresponsible.
OP didn't ask whether it was responsible for him to spend $100K on a wedding. He asked if it is irresponsible for one to spend $100K on a wedding generally speaking. So your initial claim wasn't that the OP would be irresponsible to spend that amount, but rather that spending that amount is broadly and generally an irresponsible thing for one to do.
not so obvious wrote:
Free Advice wrote:Obviously it depends on the finances and preferences of the couple. For example, if and when Derek Jeter gets married, he won't think twice about spending $100,000. He'll probably spend waaay more. However, Derek Jeter won't have to ask advice on whether or not it is irresponsible. For him it is not irresponsible. For the person who needs to ask, then yes, it is irresponsible.
OP didn't ask whether it was responsible for him to spend $100K on a wedding. He asked if it is irresponsible for one to spend $100K on a wedding generally speaking. So your initial claim wasn't that the OP would be irresponsible to spend that amount, but rather that spending that amount is broadly and generally an irresponsible thing for one to do.
Dear 'not so obvious", You may be "not so obvious", but you are oblivious.
It is not irresponsible for everyone to spend $100,000 on a wedding. For the few, like Derek Jeter, that it is not irresponsible to spend that much, this conversation never takes place. The question never gets asked. It is a non-issue.
Actually, for most people this conversation never takes place because for most people $100,000 is too much to spend on a wedding, therefore it is not considered. The question is never asked because it does not need to be asked. That amount was never on the table.
For the theoretical "one" who might ask this question, or have this question asked about them, then it is a profound , "YES, $100,000 is too much to spend on a wedding." As I stated before, if the question is asked, then it is too much.
As for you, in my opinion, which is correct, it would be irresponsible for anyone to marry you. You are argumentative and/or obstinate and/or ignorant, or maybe all three. It would not be a good relationship for your spouse. Please stay single, or, if you're married, please stay single after your divorce.
I have nothing more to say to you. This conversation is over.
How about instead take Bill Murray's advice and use that money to take a trip around the world together.
When you get back, if you still can stand each other, go get married at a court house.
Best marriage advice I ever heard.
CnR wrote:
I got married 27 years ago. cost me $35.
You get what you pay for.
Free Advice wrote:
Actually, for most people this conversation never takes place because for most people $100,000 is too much to spend on a wedding, therefore it is not considered. The question is never asked because it does not need to be asked. That amount was never on the table.
For the theoretical "one" who might ask this question, or have this question asked about them, then it is a profound , "YES, $100,000 is too much to spend on a wedding." As I stated before, if the question is asked, then it is too much.
I still think you're not understanding. The answer does not depend on who is asking because the question is general, not specific to the asker. The OP asked whether a $100K wedding is irresponsible as a general condition. Answering "yes" means that you believe that a $100K wedding is broadly irresponsible for all people, not that you believe that a $100K wedding is irresponsible solely for the OP.
life advice wrote:
Get as far away from her as you can.
Yep, if she wants to spend that much on a wedding do you really think it will stop at that once you've tied the knot?
Run, before it's too late!
If it's your money that you earned (i.e., not a one time give/reward/etc...), you want to spend it on a 100k wedding, and you've considered the alternatives then I would say that it is responsible.
I would never spend that much on a wedding (ours was less then $7k including the rings/honeymoon).
The day your first child is born you will realize what is important in life. Nobody but the bride and her mother give a rats ass about your wedding day. If you need to buy their approval, decide what dollar amount you are comfortable with.
Personally, I like the $10,000 / $90,000 investment idea.
Cheers.
My wife and I got married at Ashford Castle in Ireland. Destination wedding for my side of the family, but most my wife's side is from Ireland and still lives there. I covered travel expenses for anyone flying there. U2 performed at the wedding. Cost way more than $100k. Don't regret spending that money for a second. Best experience of my life after the births of my kids.
I got married 14 years ago. Less than $500 and we got married at my dads house. We were madly in love and it wasn't our priority, we just didn't have high paying jobs and didn't have much to spend so we didn't. She's very practical and I appreciated her for it. Unfortunately she had to cook, if I could redo the past she would not cook and could socialize. The nice wedding doesn't mean you'll stay together no matter what she thinks. If you agree when you'll both be paying for it forever and have no $ for the kids. You'll have to constantly accept hand me downs, find ways to cut corners and no macdonalds.