he felt awkward at the coffee shop. then he realized later that you were interested enough in him to meet him. this boosted his ego and made him realize he might be able to score with you.
he felt awkward at the coffee shop. then he realized later that you were interested enough in him to meet him. this boosted his ego and made him realize he might be able to score with you.
Do we really have to explain this to you? The guy looked you over at coffee. He decided that even though his preference is the other girl, you're not too shabby a catch either. Guy figures he should try his hand at juggling two girls at once. Therefore, he asks you out again.
The only mistake he made was being honest to himself and then to you by blurting out that you weren't the one he was expecting. He is a thick blockhead and slow on the uptake. It was only after he blurted out the truth that he then realized he should have choked down his shock and played it smooth in order to have both you and the girl of his preference.
It was the perfect opportunity for him to do the double (pardon the running pun). Unfortunately for him, he blurted out the truth to you before he formulated his plan to do you both. Now you know. If you are ok with that, don't worry about it. If not, you know what to do.
As a guy, I can't read that. I tried to read it, I can't.
This one is easy...
You text him back: Shirley you can't be serious?
Invite him to meet you for coffee at a particular place/time then dont show up. When he asks why you weren't there say because you knew he was expecting someone else. That should fix things for you.
He struck out with the other girl, so now it's you or nobody.
I wouldn't hold his honesty against him. If he just went with it, it could have led to other problems. He might be an alright guy.
Fat Boy wrote: He might be an alright guy.
Why would anyone want to spend time with someone who might be an alright guy?
This thread is useless without pics!!
People of LetsRun.com, I expect better of you. It took 27 posts before I said it. Standards here are slipping.
It is sooo obvious...
He is looking for a ménage à trois
Menage a trois
MeHereYouWhere?! wrote:This thread is useless without pics!!
People of LetsRun.com, I expect better of you. It took 27 posts before I said it. Standards here are slipping.
Read closer. Mr. Obvious already made the request. See post #11 on page 1.
To the OP, I think it's fair to give this guy points for honesty for blurting out his mistake. Beyond that, trust your gut. If your gut tells you the guy's a doofus not worth your time, take a pass. If your gut tells you he's probably a decent guy, give coffee another go. I don't agree with others you should play head games and stand him up after agreeing to meet again. Be honest and straightforward and expect the same in return. Good luck!
Troll alert.
"romantically retarded runner" as your handle!?
That's so un-PC. EVERY college-age girl these days is on the PC train.
Interesting situation. Maybe I missed it in the OP or the thread, but didn't the guy HAVE to tell the OP about the mix-up because the other gal had agreed to arrive AT THE SAME PLACE AND THE SAME TIME?! (As in, she could have walked in 10 seconds later) But I didn't see any mention of this, such as... did the other gal show up while the OP and dude were drinking their coffee?! Now that would be a little uncomfortable...
What happened there?
[quote]some older dude wrote:
Read closer. Mr. Obvious already made the request. See post #11 on page 1.
/quote]
I can't believe I missed this. I apologize to Mr. Obvious
He texted the other girl with your same name AFTER your date. She didn't want anything to do with him or had a boyfriend. He then texted you back saying he had a good time and wanted to see you again. Easier to go from 2 options to 1 than from 2 options to none You're getting played. Remember, you weren't his original choice to begin with and he even admitted this.
Old Man Runner wrote:
He texted the other girl with your same name AFTER your date. She didn't want anything to do with him or had a boyfriend. He then texted you back saying he had a good time and wanted to see you again. Easier to go from 2 options to 1 than from 2 options to none You're getting played. Remember, you weren't his original choice to begin with and he even admitted this.
Actually, Old Man Runner, you are the one "getting played", since you are taking it too seriously and too much at face value.
The two ladies in question would, or will, talk about this topic eagerly to each other, since the OP said she knows the other gal quite well. Women live for this stuff to talk about, and the chatter will be lively...
Looking forward to more comments from the OP....
wongg wrote:
Surprise! wrote:He's in college. He's trying to hook up with both of you.
At the same time eventually.
Do not respond is my advice.
Having survived college, this is sad, but true.
For those having trouble reading the big paragraph, there was only one sentence in there that sums up the whole situation:
"Was pretty embarrassed/stunned by the weirdness of the whole situation, but not too torn up about it because I wasn't really super attracted to him anyway."
Stop over-thinking this and move on!
She put it on letsrun. If that isn't moving on...
I would have never made this error to begin with (this is why you use mnemonic devices and proper naming in your actual device people). But if I had been so dumb to make this error, I would have never in a million years fessed up to wanting to meet someone else. I would have taken advantage of that situation. Because #1 it makes it awkward when you "come clean" and #2 his potential to get in bed with you is now gone. Like it or not, we are prewired for sex. Just because we are interested in sex doesn't mean we aren't interested in you for you. So he shot himself in the foot.
He should have sat down at that table and turned the slight obstacle into an opportunity, grabbed that coffee, made you laugh and struck up an interesting conversation with you regardless if that was planned or unplanned. There's no excuse for him coming clean. Sounds like an impulsive fool.
Next...
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